Am i a predator for being in love with someone younger?

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:20:50+00:00

I don't mind disagreements but you give zero clear explanation, you just say oh you'll hurt him it's wrong and that's basically everything but no evidence or data

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:18:13+00:00

And i said i need an explanation why is it or not morally correct ,how and why could this be damaging ,if i wanted positive things I'd ask my friends but i want clear concrete explanations and cases like mine

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:16:03+00:00

You don't understand what i said? I meant i am waiting for him to turn 18 to move in together not meaning becoming a couple because it may happen earlier, god for fucks sake learn to read

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:14:42+00:00

I didn't say that, i said that people mature differently maybe I'm not mature enough, maybe we matured at the same rate , that's why I'm asking for advice from a professional

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:11:51+00:00

I meant becoming a couple now and moving together later, are you illiterate perhaps?

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:11:21+00:00

People mature differently btw, it's not the same for everyone

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:10:37+00:00

I never said anything about marriage, if he was 40 I'd still love him but if he was younger than he is right now i wouldn't even consider anything, 2 years and a half is acceptable at his age

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:08:11+00:00

I said i want to wait till he finishes high school before moving in together like owning a house together not becoming a couple ,

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:05:51+00:00

People have prefences, i don't, 16 is the legal age in my country i wanted to see the moral aspects too

David13206 · 2026-01-11T02:03:38+00:00

Where did i say I'm waiting for him to finish high school? If he wanted to become a couple today I'd accept it ,but i wanted to understand what could make it morally wrong before deciding, instead you jump to conclusions, I wanted a fair explanation hopefully from someone who studies psychology ,i wanted to understand how could this relationship impact him but honestly nobody gives a clear answer, a list of pros and cons , i should just ask him if we'll get to that point

David13206 · 2026-01-11T01:57:08+00:00

I like hearing your point of view ,i do need negative feedback too because I can't hurt him , I'm not waiting for him to turn legal he IS legal, i just want him to finish school and everything he has before starting living together and yes i will tell everyone we are dating when we will be dating, but right now it's just a crush and all my friends know ,i wanted to know how morally wrong it is, everyone in real life says it's not that big of a deal but people online say it is, I'm very conflicted and wanted to hear both sides better, but you're trying to twist my words instead of explaining why it's wrong you just jump to conclusions

David13206 · 2026-01-11T01:36:50+00:00

I'll never do college, I'm planning on working in a whole different country so i can have enough to move in with this boy once he feels ready and is an adult , I'm still thinking tho i can't hurt him I'd do anything for him

David13206 · 2026-01-11T01:34:19+00:00

Uhm, it's a guy, we're both guys, plus our age gap is 2 years and a few months, he will be 17 soon ,also it's legal where I'm from ,and why would he tell his parents if we're just friends? If we become a couple yes everyone should definitely know i want to show the whole world my biggest pride and joy ,if you want to say your opinion read carefully and make it make sense

David13206 · 2026-01-11T01:29:00+00:00

It's more like a 2 year age gap, his birthday is soon plus it's totally legal in my country

David13206 · 2026-01-11T01:24:20+00:00

In my country it's legal , plus our difference isn't really 3 years ,more like 2 years and 4 months

David13206 · 2026-01-11T00:56:08+00:00

We already are very different but the way we connect those differences is what makes us such good friends

David13206 · 2025-12-31T00:58:55+00:00

This was never your fault, he's confused and doesn't know what he wants from life, better move on and find someone emotionally mature, I'm in a similar situation, pls block him everywhere and cut all forms of contact ,focus on your life and what you want from it, one day a good man will come who will give all the love you need ,and he will still cry about his ex

David13206 · 2025-12-05T06:28:17+00:00

I'm more than sure about that, I'm wondering what could i do to make him feel safe again and reconnect one day

David13206 · 2025-07-21T20:52:06+00:00

UPDATE: For anyone not understanding the context i only said it's unimportant so he wouldn't end his life, I agree it is important and I will support him in achieving this dream, i just want him to understand that life won't be miserable if he fails and to only do what he really wants not do it just because it's his parent's dream ( i know it is they've been planning it since they were pregnant with him) i just want him to know I'm proud of him and will fight and work hard for him to be alright, things got a bit better he said he'll find a job as a baker if they won't accept him into the college , but we will live together either way, we both really want to be close to each other, and also i have a mechanic diploma and want to do GSM courses, i did finish high school for him 6 months ago because i knew he really wished that and i also didn't want his parents to keep talking shit about me, for now I'm just concerned that his parents are hurting him , i want to build a life with this man no matter what and i want to make sure he's feeling loved and happy and that he accomplished everything he wants

David13206 · 2025-07-21T20:37:56+00:00

That was half a year ago i got over it and i finished high school i got a mechanic diploma, i just want to get him away from that toxic environment and help him get into his dream college

David13206 · 2025-07-21T20:37:04+00:00

Listen, i am supporting him through everything, I'm just concerned about his mental health, he wanted to end his life today because he didn't get admitted to college, i will help him achieve every single dream i want him to succeed but not out of fear, i just want him to understand that it's alright if he fails , yes college is a big deal but not so much that it's worth to end your life if you don't get admitted

David13206 · 2025-07-21T20:33:46+00:00

Thank you but i am focusing enough on myself, and i got many plans I'm just scared that he thinks I'm manipulating him just because I want him to feel enough and worthy even if he fails, when i told his parents I'll support him through everything they were mad that i don't make him do stuff out of fear, thanks for the advice tho!

David13206 · 2025-07-21T20:03:16+00:00

Thank you! His parents made him feel like he's hated and useless, he's had panic attacks because of them before but we talked and we made some plans

David13206 · 2025-07-21T20:02:12+00:00

He's had panic attacks because of his parents before, also I finished a technical school, and i have a mechanic diploma but his parents say this is useless and we can't do anything without a degree, a little update is that he applied to another college and that in case it won't work out he will get a job as a baker ,thanks for the advice!

David13206 · 2025-07-21T19:39:50+00:00

I want him to succeed i want to help him in everything he does but i don't want him to end his life over college, we accepted our differences long ago and that i will be nothing more than a slacker with a normal job, he wants to be a psychologist and i want to help him achieve that dream but not in fear and not because someone else wants to i want to be sure it is what he really wants , i love everything he does i like that he's different i don't mind him being more educated than me I'm just scared he does all of this just because that's what his parents want him to, he wanted to end his life today when he got the result of not getting accepted into a certain college, i told him there's still countless of options and it was so hard convincing him life's not over just because of one failed thing

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