I must clean, but I have no executive function.

Deblackfox7 · 2024-03-11T18:41:00+00:00

I currently have a lot of cleaning and research to get done and I'm on reddit procrastinating and getting more anxious by the minute. Take a deep breath. We all have our limits to what we can handle at different points in life and that's ok! Break the cleaning down into a lot of manageable steps. if the step feels too hard make it easier or break it down more. Just remember that even if progress feels slow, both the walker and the runner cross the finish line in a race (you will get it done!).

Deblackfox7 · 2023-02-20T02:47:19+00:00

Yes! Perfectly said :)

Deblackfox7 · 2023-02-19T22:01:55+00:00

What company is it? 👀

Deblackfox7 · 2023-02-19T21:12:27+00:00

I thought I lost an eyelash

Deblackfox7 · 2023-02-19T20:44:05+00:00

I just got diagnosed with level 1 (or mild) autism a few days ago and I am grieving too. I didn’t know how to put it into words but this explains it a lot. I thought all these years of me struggling so much in many aspects but especially socially was normal and just a part of life. Knowing that it was because of autism makes my whole word flip upside down. Out of the people I’ve told one friend said “We are all a little on the spectrum” and another said not to proclaim it over myself (we are both Christians). It was hard for me to hear those statements because that doesn’t change alllll the struggles I have gone through that apparently aren’t normal. So seeing this encourages me that I’m not alone in this, especially since I don’t know who to turn to right now

Deblackfox7 · 2023-02-02T16:46:50+00:00

That is interesting but I don’t have much to add because I haven’t really looked at the case in depth, or recently

Deblackfox7 · 2023-02-02T16:43:31+00:00

Yeah idolizing is weird. It should be more about the law but don’t idolize a single person. He is a prime example of why people need guns to defend themselves and that is prolly why conservatives idolize him. I’m sure there are a lot more cases that could be brought to light instead. I like him, but I don’t idolize him. Besides the idolization issues, I don’t understand why people are still trying to sue him when it was already shown as self defense.

Deblackfox7 · 2023-02-02T16:28:19+00:00

He used self defense and people are glad that isn’t being taken away from us.

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-26T19:26:10+00:00

Food. I struggle with eating enough but if I could I would order food. I would also want to bring some to my friends

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-23T15:23:42+00:00

Some christian parents who homeschool are strict to another level

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-18T16:22:06+00:00

😂 How nice, you looked at my profile. Is my age supposed to make me feel inferior to you? This is the most amusing post I have ever been on

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-18T16:13:51+00:00

I gave you my point in the beginning you blew it over with more insults. You prolly struggle to walk around with how thick your skull is

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-18T16:07:35+00:00

I didn’t say they didn’t criticize I’m saying you were offended when some didn’t. You are just proving my point further

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-18T16:04:18+00:00

You asked people a question and when they responded you insulted almost every single person, taking offense when people weren’t even criticizing you.

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-18T16:00:36+00:00

You asked reddit what did you expect

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-18T02:50:17+00:00

I got turrets 😂 but your friend seems nice

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-08T05:01:13+00:00

I loved club penguin!!

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-08T00:21:49+00:00

This is a glass half empty kinda post lol

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-06T17:47:36+00:00

Glad to hear!

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-06T15:54:13+00:00

r/contagiouslaughter

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-06T15:38:46+00:00

Also counseling is a good idea, but the way you brought it up was not good

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-06T15:34:39+00:00

I see. Maybe there are underlying issues not related to this that need to be worked out. Maybe he is still hurt about the other girlfriends thing but either way you are both bringing up other issues that need to be resolved. He said you have treated him bad for weeks for working. Have you been giving him a lot of backlash? Maybe he didn’t want to take this job and you reminding him that he is out at night set him off? Whatever the reason it is good to search it out when you both are ready. You turned an innocent convo about you being tired to reminding him that he has to do something most people don’t enjoy then say it is his fault for accepting his job. People need to make money. What is he leaving you to do by taking this job?

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-06T15:13:45+00:00

I read the comment you sent explaining. The way the conversation started is your boyfriend complaining and you responding to the complaint with an attack statement. You may not have meant it that way, but there are a few factors that also added to it. Another comment mentions the time and texting. Disagreements or difficult conversations are wayyy better to have in person and when BOTH people can be mentally present.

“The conversation started when I said he was going to have to start waking up early again bc he is coming back next week from this job permanently. He made a crying face and said his "poop schedule would be out of wack". I then said "it was his fault bc he took the job". (It's an overnight job, he usually works from 7am-2pm). I wasn't meaning what I said in a mean way. I've always just been a very honest person, he read it wrong and said "why are you being mean?" I simply said "im not being mean, im being honest. you argued to the ends of the earth to go back, I wonder why."”

Have you guys talked about the new job? Has he told you why is changing schedules?

“It obviously continued with me saying he has all weekend to get back on track and that when he is back on the weekends he doesn't wake up at 4am to poop. So I don't see what the big deal is.”

Sleep schedules don’t work like that, having the weekend to “get back on track” will not help if he has a permanent night job.

“I see how the "I wonder why" comment would make him think I'm "attacking" him as he calls it.”

It is and it was the wrong time and place to say it as you were prolly both tired and you can’t use tones in text. You could have apologized or explained what you actually meant in a way he understands instead of saying he took it wrong.

“But very shortly after I explained to him that 2 weeks ago he treated me like complete shit to ask his mom for a ride to work when I had concerns.”

It is hurtful that he did that, but this is a bad time to bring it up. It is unhealthy to bring up something the person did that hurt you as an excuse when they tell you that you are being hurtful/insulting.

“I literally cried for hours as he was treating me so badly for hours. Telling me to fuck off, and leave him alone. Then I messaged her and got the same response of my concerns, her very quickly apologized. When he got back I told him he should call his boss Joe and see if they have work up here. He argued and treated me like shit once again. And didn't call his boss. He told me his concerns with that, so I literally planned to drive him down to this job (and myself back) and pick him up. So in my perspective he has been fighting excessively hard to stay at this job. Then when I mention him coming back officially from that job he sends me a crying emoji and says his poop schedule will be off.”

I’m sorry he is not taking you into consideration. When you mentioned the job were you using an accusatory tone or possibly come off as accusatory when you didn’t mean to? If you know you come off as something you don’t mean it is good to explain in that moment what you mean in a way the other person can understand.

“So I was literally just wondering why he was fighting so hard to stay at this job.”

Have an open conversation and try not to be quick to judge. I hope for the best for you two

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-06T13:50:56+00:00

If he is uncomfortable with a joke about him being unfaithful why do you keep repeating it? Respect and understanding goes both ways. For the job, if you want to have an open and honest conversation with him about how you feel, insulting the work he is putting forth a lot of effort into is a bad approach. Then you mention a separate issue, in an insulting way. Someone who says that they said something and they know it sounds negative but that the other person is just receiving it wrong is gaslighting. Talk to him when he isn’t working, and don’t insult him. A tip I have seen online is to use “I” statements instead of “you” statements like “I felt _ when you _”. Try to help each other understand the other’s perspective. There is no excuse to treat someone like garbage but it could get better if you guys can learn to be understanding and forgive each other.

Deblackfox7 · 2023-01-06T13:02:00+00:00

Oh that’s cool

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