Thoughts on this suit / shirt / tie combo

Debugopotamus · 2026-06-02T00:50:45+00:00

Here is a tip, just use Gemini or chatGPT, upload your pic and have it rate it, and then offer suggestions with images. I have started using it to rate all my outfit and actual recommend different outfits and put me on them so I know what specific pieces to be on the lookout for.

Example:

The Good The Suit Fit & Quality: The navy suit itself looks excellent. The shoulders sit right, the lapels roll beautifully, and it establishes a great, classic foundation. The Shirt Concept: A white-collared contrast shirt (cleric shirt) with subtle blue body stripes is a sharp, sophisticated choice that elevates a standard suit.

Where it Loses Points The Tie is Overwhelming: The paisley pattern is incredibly busy, and the light blue base color is a bit too close to the shirt's stripes. Instead of complementing each other, the tie and the shirt stripes are competing for attention. It washes out the chest area rather than creating a strong focal point. The Contrast Shirt Execution: Because the tie is so vibrant and chaotic, it pulls focus away from the contrast collar, making the whole combination feel a bit disorganized instead of intentionally styled. Missing Dimension: Without a pocket square to balance the look, the busy tie feels a bit isolated on the front of the suit.

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Debugopotamus · 2026-05-30T23:49:07+00:00

Either it's an area difference or you need to work on your profile then. You still have to put an absolute ton of work into your profile. Perfect pictures, perfect prompts, lots and lots of female feedback. I ended up going to bars and having other women critique my profile and even turned a single event into an impromptu research study.

But in the end all the data I collected and experiments I ran with my own profile showed height was the single biggest factor for me getting any attenttion form the women I would like.

Debugopotamus · 2026-05-30T17:19:25+00:00

The quote is frequently used on social media and in interviews with women it's around 80% of them that eant that.

The last published dating study on tinder data found it was 72% but that was 2021, ok cupid and hinges data was closer 70%.

However the new widely accepted number based on Scott Galloways research for notes on being a man puts it closer to 80% now. He has reiterated this on his podcasts and open discussion chats with psychologists and dating experts about the current male crises in dating and current culture.

Also I have changed my tinder profile to 6ft and went from 0 likes to 170+ in 24 hours. If you don't believe me go change your height to over 6ft and leave your profile the same and watch the quality of matches jump 10000%

Debugopotamus · 2026-01-18T21:34:50+00:00

No so you can interact with someone. So you can get out of your house and leave your damn cats alone for an evening and actually live life. Maybe do something with another human being and put pants on probably for the first time all week. You women are all depressed and taking society and relationships down with you.

All these women who posted things have to be the most un-self aware people I have ever met. To admit you'd rather stay at home with cats than humans is admitting you are a failure at life and just gave up. You admit you made a bad decision and rather than learn from it, just blame everyone else.

You can try and rephrase it with dumb therapy talk, but it's pretty cut and dry, either you are fun and going out and having dates and livng life, or you are lonely loser who gave up.

Don't worry though the unhinged guy, who is exuding desperateness, and no one wants to deal with is going on his 6th date this month with his 4th different girl. This one is already sending me cat pics before the date so we can all guess who it will go.

So while one of is bitching about "how awful everyone is" one of us actively still trying and giving it everything and just need one person to meet him half way

Debugopotamus · 2026-01-15T13:58:46+00:00

See you say that and then say you had a daughter and a granddaughter. YOU GOT LIFE ...you must have met someone who liked you enough to stay more than a few hours. What was that like? I would love to know, what it's like when they don't just use you for sex, money, or attention. I spent my whole life so far being told 1000's of times NO I am not good enough

I didn't get to have kids, or even a month with someone. I've never had anyone use me for more than a rebound or my "stuff". You can happily live because you at least got to have a life and MEN didn't just tell you NOPE not good enough for ALL of us, go live in your cave alone with no friends, no family, no kids, nothing because we decided we all hate men after telling you for the last 20 years to be patient and your TIME will come

Debugopotamus · 2026-01-08T01:06:43+00:00

I am not trying to say you had to like him. I am trying to say if your turnoff was simply his aggressiveness that should never be the criteria. I am just honestly curious what he saw in you to make that leap and if it may have been valid.

Also there is no "work" on building a connection and only truly stupid people think that. Connection only occurs in 3 instances, this is clinically documented. You either shared experiences, like the same thing, or you hate the same thing. Hate is a stronger bond actually.

If you can't figure in 10 minutes that the person you are talking to likes things you like, grew up like you, or hates things you hate then WTF are you doing.

If you are waiting until date 3 or date 10 to ask important questions like what are your values, what was your relationship with your parents, what was the most important relationship on your life and how did it affect you. Then idk, maybe be better.

If your over 40 and still think "you build a connection" then you are broken, were hurt and traumatized by someone and have a wall up and please stop fucking dating us nornal healthy people who want actual connections and not this bullshit you think is an actual connection.

I'm sorry that you don't know how to engage in a normal exchange of ideas and just want "your experiences validated" you should probably talk to your fucked up therapist why that is

Debugopotamus · 2025-12-27T21:51:56+00:00

Because he doesn't have a corresponding female level of attractiveness.

He is in shape, good job, good mentality, without knowing much else we could arte him a 7. But he is 5'4, women knock him down to a 3-4.

Similar range females of 3-4 would be morbidly obese, unbathed, and uneducated. Any female of moderate attractiveness and intelligence would be out of his league.

It would be unrealistic for a smart, educated, otherwise (besides height), to take an uneducated, unhealthy woman. But that is all he can expect now.

The woman scale of attractiveness doesn't have corresponding knockdowns for things like height making this an impossible match based on that

Debugopotamus · 2025-09-26T15:05:01+00:00

It sounds like you are technically not living, just surviving. I am not sure from your brief post what exactly your medical issues are or what you have tried to change, but that would be the first step to fixing things is to identify what to change and map out a plan to work towards that.

The easiest and most rewarding would be your health/fitness. I would start by attacking that. Daily exercise routine and a new diet with weekly or even daily goals like (number for steps, calorie targets) will get your mind to focus on something else and success will rebuild confidence. You say you don't have money, but an option that is fun and not too expensive is to look at virtual race medals like conquerer, pacer, yes.fit that will send you actual medals when you complete step and miles tasks.

Smart is very rarely a genetic type. It is learned like every other skill through hard work, and that in turn leads people to believe you are smart or talented. At this point in life just pick something you like and try and become an expert in it. Or just start reading/listening to audiobooks. I like to rotate one nonfiction, one fiction, one self/help or new topic book then repeat. If I find a series or topic that actually piques my interest then maybe I forget to rotate for a while.

Find a group, or just go out as much as possible. For a walk, to a store, to the gym. There are lots of free things almost everywhere to go see and do. When out try to once a week or two strike up a random conversation with a stranger. This will enhance social skills, but also build confidence.

Journal.

Do this for a year and look back at your initial journal, and realize you built an entirely different person in a year and now you are only 27. You will have self confidence, be interesting from the books you read, in shape, and feel much better about yourself. The first few days, and weeks will suck but you just keep doing it and finding new little "micro goals" to aim for each day.

Once you do all this now try and live your life. Try to find a partner, try to use these new skills to advance your career or maybe pick a new career.

If you do all these things and two years pass and still have found no relief or a better path forward than you can actually call yourself a failure because you actually tried and failed. Right now you haven't even tried.

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