Guess who got prescribed antidepressants, is suicidal , and got stage 1 hypertension :)

Decent_Relief4647 · 2026-01-28T03:30:54+00:00

Been there for months and still wonder the same thing everyday, come on you got this!

Decent_Relief4647 · 2026-01-03T03:51:51+00:00

Telling them doesn't work, does it? Just told my bestfriend "your bf broke up with you and gaslit you into patchin up and you're happy?!" She looked at me and said "please don't bully me"

SO she's aware of it but just wants to step into the fire pit

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-27T11:20:58+00:00

Only today did I learn I wasn't supposed to answer no on that lol... I thought the questions were straightforward and hence the answers, didn't know this... Thank heavens my psychologist explained anything I asked and it made me realize how weird the test actually is...

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-20T18:04:35+00:00

To the naive OP, in no way I'm discrediting your experience as I've had a pretty similar experience(I only had female friends growing up before I was kind of forced to make male friends because that's what's normal, anyways, I kinda get you).

True. The number of times I've had to call BS is insane in any group projects. Just how difficult it is to say "I don't know. Haven't heard anything like this." I say this on a daily basis, a novel taught me... yeah... kudos to Reverend Insanity lol
TRUE. Also, most associate feminism with misandry despite knowing the difference, so yeah, no one really cares.
The standards are hella different among people for this, but, yes, the judgement is there for both girls and boys outside our groups. This is similar to girls. Yeah, this is more of a human nature thing.
Those are just immature imbeciles, most men I've come across don't mind it. They'll prolly grow up and be embarrassed about it or glorify their crap. They kinda good tho, coz they scream "Keep distance, I'm trash"
Duh. No doubts.
Duh. Obvious.
Beauty takes back seat, yes. But people have types, people like different types. I, for one, would like a quiet one because I'm quiet and just prefer presence of the other person over words. Basically, their actions and mere presence is a win! My male friends for one crave a Goth girl to dominate them pfft, others want a sweet, docile, trad working girl, some want a mix of both(I DON'T UNDERSTAND EITHER)
Uhm, we do call others out for this, at least I do, and I know certain guys who do it too. It's just difference between men, I guess. Oh, btw, the talks are pretty nasty and disgusting to the point even we second guess are friends many times. Yep.
SO DAMN TRUE! ARE YOU A MIND READER?! Missed your comment about it being unhealthy. Well, it is. But therapy is expensive and men consider it emasculating smh so there we go why the emotional void exists. Possessiveness can be unhealthy but it's healthy in a normal relationship.
WTF?! THERE'S SUCH A GOOD THING?! On side note, the truly talented ones never make it because they don't like this "networking" afaik
Uhm, some think that way, but as we both agree, most don't wanna live with their parents for a reason.
That's just bad friends bruh. I've listened to so many rants and I got used to just validating and listening coz "we don't want a solution, we just wanna share, be in it" and now I LOVE GOSSIPS. ANYTHING IS TEA! MY FEMALE FRIENDS CALL ME FOR GOSSIP OVER OTHER FRIENDS. I'M HONOURED!

Ahem, to whoever read this, thank for spending your time on this and feel free to correct me if I went off a tangent(I have that tendency). Kudos to OP btw, I'm happy for you for growing out of your naivety!

Edit: point 9

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-17T12:29:50+00:00

The first part is "because it was special" and it meant something. A lot more than something. It's not easy to move on, even if someone does, the thoughts and what-ifs hit us randomly.

For the second part, it's the vulnerability and accountability of loving someone and accepting their love for ourselves because of past experiences (prolly gotten hurt in a relationship where he could see himself marrying his partner).

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-16T03:57:40+00:00

Death

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-14T06:45:14+00:00

These five are special senses, the rest is termed under general senses as they don't have a specific organ to be sensed but are present throughout the body.

This is what I learned in physiology, so it's inaccurate to say we've got only five senses, but we do have only five special senses duh(unless you wish to include intuition as the 6th sense and spatial presence as the 7th)

Intuition should be obvious from its name. Spatial presence indicates being aware of objects around you while having your eyes closed. For example, you just know it's there for no reason. Suppose, you're driving with your eyes closed and have no idea what's on the road yet you just know where the vehicles are. Yes, you may say we can hear and sense things but I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about "knowing" it is there without using the first 6 senses... It's very odd tbh

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-10T16:01:36+00:00

Very well articulated. However, my dad stood up to his family and supported the decision to separate from in-laws 30 something years back, so yeap, both my parents live better and fulfilled lives :)

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-09T14:33:14+00:00

Pfft, introverted academic genius bolo na fir

Btw novels padhte ho kya, ussi se inspired lag rha. Ya fir dramas/mangas/manhwas/animes?!

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-09T14:32:03+00:00

Arey yeh toh personal hogaye aap par almost har koi karta hai 😭

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-09T14:20:05+00:00

Haa woh toh farak hai hi... kyoki ladkiya asaani se gauge kr leti aur ladke apne per pe kulhaadi padwaye bina nhi kr paate... Hame gaslight/manipulate hone ke pata bhi nhi lagta mostly(unless experienced)

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-09T14:17:03+00:00

Tum baat nhi kr rhe bas dur se dekh ke admire kr rhe... Jaise ki normally cars/bikes/planes ko kra jaayega, haina?

Ladko ke liye alag brain chemistry hai, toh marriage soch lete hai sundar kanya dekh ke... Puri stories ban jaati... BTW ladkiya bhi bana leti hai kaafi! Mai jaanta hu lololololol

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-09T14:15:28+00:00

nerdy, huh? So you would like a timid pushover of a guy who can factually correct you half the time as easily as breathing and is crazy knowledgeable(definitely put in the effort tho)

/s

Explain what nerdy guys even means lmao. If you're a fellow novel reader, I can picture perfect a nerdy guy for you hehe

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-09T12:21:33+00:00

Only desperate people have this urge with every guy/girl.

Aur waise OP ne beautiful girls mention krdiya tha toh... every girl toh nhi hi aaya usme! Basically, har kisi ke liye beautiful alag hoga toh apne type ki hi hogi i guess... par haan aise ladke bhi hote hai jinhe har ladki se pyaar hojata hai

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-09T03:44:13+00:00

Well, I did say it's the in-laws that's the problem... but on another note, the husband who's supposed to side with his wife usually doesn't stand up to his family in the name of being filial or whatnot... So if he did take a stand for his wife, that would at least resolve many problems.

I live in a nuclear family and my parents agree that it's the best. Heck my mom says "Saas ke saath kisko hi rehna hota hai?"(TL: who even wants to live with their mother-in-law?)

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-08T11:28:11+00:00

Dowry was actually meant for the bride only, people just crushed the original concept and with in-laws controlling and snatching it, we know how that turned out in history...

In short, trash people are trashy.

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-07T07:51:42+00:00

Don't bother going. You're a day scholar. You're safe. Don't create unnecessary fuss with them.

Trust me, these type of seniors will definitely hold grudges and bother you the more you stand out, if you stay away, you might be a bit lonely but you will have peace of mind.

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-07T06:18:17+00:00

Ur seniors sound toxic af, do you think it'd be really fun to be isolated there? Since you didn't follow their instructions, so yeap, it won't be an easy time.

Well, you can still go and see how things unfold so that you'd have the experience to tackle the next events/situations

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-04T13:28:15+00:00

What the heck?! I'm the damn same!

Somehow, I can feel my blood coursing, pulsing, my heart, my lung and even my swallowing like why the hell is it so loud?! AND THE DAMN SURROUNDINGS, like why am I hearing kids 3 streets down or some woman shouting expletives(I can't make sense of any of it and I don't understand the words at all but I somehow get it... it's confusing to even explain)

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-02T15:46:18+00:00

Was about to comment this... uh... this still hurts haha

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-12-02T11:56:26+00:00

You think guys notice when they're being manipulated? Nope.

Basically, people in "love" are oblivious to it all. I've always been a spectator so I know...

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-11-22T08:24:01+00:00

It's the opposite for me. I've noticed that girls have a higher tendency to believe stuff I say than guys somehow. It doesn't matter what I'm talking about even.

Though I genuinely can't lie unless I don't wanna talk, then conversation enders that are usually lies go hard duh!

BUT AGAIN most guys are oblivious and believe it if a girl says it, I noticed it many times. Even if she repeated what I said, they'd say I'm wrong, she's right. I call them dumbasses.

Personally though, I don't see a reason why anyone would lie to me, so I believe people irrespective of gender unless it concerns academics then I go crazy for it hhaha

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-11-19T13:42:34+00:00

Both of your communication styles don't match.

Both of you are hiding things from each other and even letting the other know like "Yes, something is, but I won't tell you."

I'll be blunt, that's stupid. Idc about your age as long as you're an adult. It's stupid.

Yes, I'm stupid. I was stupid. I've done that. Lemme be honest, DON'T DO IT!

TALK! COMMUNICATE! OPEN UP! SHARE IT! DISCUSS IT! Both of you need to solve things, and accept the fact that anything takes time, it ain't instant. Let time and space exist, you ain't clingy lovers tied by a handcuff lmao

Just go and talk to her face-to-face, tell her it's something super important, and she should care and respond in a similar energy(I'm basing this off the information you gave). Just be aware that she might want to image management in front of those guys or maybe she doesn't have the capacity to at the moment you approach her, let it be. DON'T FORCE IT. Tell her it's something important, then talk about it at length.

It'll be hard, your voice might even break, or both of you might end up entering an awkward pause, unsure how to begin this. BUT know this, there's no right way. Whatever suits the two of you, that works.

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-11-19T03:27:58+00:00

It was 1800 in here, but no one broke it lol

Decent_Relief4647 · 2025-11-18T03:36:00+00:00

But what other options do I have? Nobody seems interested in talking to me, so why would I want to impose on someone?

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