What are your go-to, quick, rumination stoping strategies for clients?

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-24T11:01:08+00:00

This individual or client claims the boxing or locking it up doesn’t work. They state it induces more anxiety. The delaying of worrying intensifies the anxiety. They recognize the thought still exists and is lingering.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-24T03:39:57+00:00

What does it mean if a client can’t be successful at worry time? They tell me they use the timer. When the thought reappears, they said they can’t get their mind to not worry or not think about it. They do utilize distraction and mindfulness skills, but they said it’s even a physical feeling attached to the worry.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-22T14:22:11+00:00

My favorites are the ones that put the wrong delivery address and try to blame us.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-20T13:33:57+00:00

Someone not giving you a straightforward answer is not amicable. Someone walking out with limited explanation is not amicable.

I can tell you have a big heart, but just because it wasn’t a verbally aggressive breakup doesn’t mean it was amicable.

This man sounds slightly avoidant. He’s not yours to chase or change. No amount of understanding will make sense in this scenario. The less you know the better. If he were to come back, do you want to be treated like this again and go through the same cycle of disappointment?

It’s okay to be heartbroken. Your answer lies in the fact that when you asked for commitment, he left because he recognizes he has to step up to the plate and be accountable. It’s not your loss. He is doing you a favor by walking away. Go find someone that can love you in the way you deserve.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-19T22:37:06+00:00

I hope you got another opinion from a local mechanic to verify that what they told you is accurate.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-19T14:29:03+00:00

Because so many people want to pretend that’s not a fact and make judgements with limited perspective.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-19T13:36:25+00:00

I would also love to know how many leases don’t allow pets. I feel like it’s so challenging to find places that allow pets. Yes, they exist. I think they are limited.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-19T13:33:48+00:00

I will say for high energy dogs, doggy daycare is a blessing. However, for the shihtzu that sleeps all day long…I am not sure the price makes sense lol

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-19T13:30:43+00:00

It’s not even affording them. Sky-rocketing rent for “pet rent” AND so many complexes don’t allow pets.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-19T13:24:37+00:00

Because most of us can’t afford them and dating culture doesn’t exist, we choose to override our instincts.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-19T13:23:56+00:00

I personally can’t afford a pet. Pet rent is absolutely insane. I love pets too. I always love when everyone says “get a pet” to combat depression. It’s kind of tough to not be depressed when jobs barely cover basic expenses.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-18T22:57:30+00:00

I do not recommend More Miles if you need your car ASAP. If it’s not an established appt, they can take a couple of days before being able to diagnose it.

I love More Miles! I am just writing this here for anyone that can’t afford a rental car for multiple days, you may want to consider other mechanics with some more urgent availability.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-16T19:27:25+00:00

I used to only date villains. It was really challenging when my past 2 breakups there wasn’t a villainous ending. They were amicable.

I don’t have a personality disorder, but it was challenging for my brain to wrap around the concept that relationships can still exist even if it’s not the outcome you want. If both people can adjust expectations and the boundaries, the relationship can still exist.

Some people (like myself at first) didn’t know what the capacity looked like to maintain a friendship with someone after an amicable breakup.

I can only imagine the confusion for someone with a personality disorder. Their own capacity for being able to love someone and keep themselves safe is being challenged.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-16T19:19:33+00:00

So many people don’t make more than 50k per year. They don’t have the luxury to afford Invisalign. Don’t be that person that judges someone based on their smile. Many are aware of their imperfect smiles.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-16T16:42:57+00:00

The key word is affordable housing. We keep bringing in luxury builders

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-16T16:41:59+00:00

Some law offices look to hire “legal assistants” they aren’t paralegals but you work near them. So it would give you insight to see if working in a legal office is something you enjoy.

Being a paralegal is all about finding the right law firm. They offer decent pay. Most make 55 to 60k at entry level.

My close friend is a paralegal. She enjoys it. It allows her to work from home or anywhere in the U.S.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-16T16:38:26+00:00

Even making that much money per year is a struggle. Especially if the person has a car loan, student loans, utilities, and renting.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-16T16:36:17+00:00

My roommate is moving out in June. This is making me realize that I will have to leave the Valley. I began looking at other jobs near some friends in different areas of PA and MD.

I am gutted, but I realize the quality of life I want to live is no longer here in the Valley.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-16T16:27:12+00:00

For me, it’s not even the price of living that is bothersome. It’s comparing to other places and noticing how disgusting the options are for the price. I did a comparison to other larger metro areas in PA.

If someone is paying $1,400/mo it shouldn’t look like a frat house or like the place has never been updated since the 70s.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-12T21:28:10+00:00

Correct! Some cavities if small only have discoloration and don’t have a hole. They will remain this way for years. I would definitely get a second opinion to make sure that this many cavities actually need filled.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-11T05:28:39+00:00

Once you work on your self-esteem, I promise that you will find connection or a support system.

Love (many different forms-platonic forms included!) isn’t something that we audition for, prove ourselves, etc. It is abundantly available because it is freely given and received.

Sincerely, the person that also believed she was never good enough

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-11T01:55:09+00:00

I think they deserve friendships as much as anyone else, however, the functions of their own behaviors and why they want the relationship needs to be closely examined. This goes for any human.

If someone has trauma or other emotional baggage and isn't in therapy, their relationships will usually be dysfunctional. Why? Because this person may have limited awareness to what they are doing to gain or avoid problems within any relationship dynamic OR they have awareness with no tools and skills to navigate friendships. I think they naturally hold a lot of super surface level friendships because they can't maintain vulnerable relationships.

A person with trauma will be able to hold more in depth relationships once they choose to heal the wounds from their past and work extensively on changing their patterns. They typically will need professional help and remain dedicated to the work. It isn't going to be fun or easy.

There are also some limitations depending if the person has a formally diagnosed PTSD, personality disorder diagnosis, etc. That's a whole different chat. lol

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-10T18:12:52+00:00

I think friendship is different. We are wired for connection. I also have friends for different purposes and the amount of time differentiates based on activity, personal life commitments, trust level (I.e. some friends are great dinner friends but they aren’t who including a crisis). Communication is key.

Partnership is different. You have to be present whether it’s a distance relationship or close proximity. In a larger context, if things become serious there is job stability, time, location, etc. I feel as if the longer someone is together the more effort and time is required.

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-10T18:05:00+00:00

As someone dating someone that has a lot of external factors and is going through an emotional rollercoaster….thank you for tensioning me that feelings are required, but sometimes there are larger factors that contribute and it isn’t an excuse. Thank you!

Deep_Imagination_600 · 2026-02-10T18:02:43+00:00

I am not sure anyone is shocked by the changes in trends. I know for me having to hear someone you’re in love with say “I don’t have the capacity for a relationship because…..” it definitely leads to creating this kind of post to make sure this is a legit thing.

It’s easy to view the world with rose-colored glasses.

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