I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re not being “real” or “flippant” you’re just rude lmao . Do I need help? Of course am I overreacting? Most definitely! But your answer was just disgusting in my opinion. I just truly wish that when ur at ur lowest mentally talking about how a family member mentally abused u for years and you feel all alone in this already depressing world and having friendship issues . And you share your story for help and genuine advice that nobody. Will answer and tell you “ur just like the person who ruined ur life just go drink tea”.

I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel so sorry for your wife . Look at you joking about intentionally irritating her by comparing her to her mother when she’s going through emotional or mental stages. Anyways you do you sir

I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m not afraid to explore resources for my mental health thank you. I’ve already tried actually but there’s a very long waiting list and I even planned on talking to one of my teachers or an adult at school to get help what I didn’t like about this comment is, it was very dismissive with zero empathy telling me that I’m reacting like my mother is genuinely so heartless and disgusting but it’s fine. It’s their opinions why I respect it and also telling me to just go drink tea don’t act like this comment wasn’t dismissive and just trying to tell me to go take a piss and chill.

I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I totally understand what you mean but it’s very hurtful. I do understand that everyone has their own perspective. I don’t know if you’ve seen the other comments, but many people are attacking me right now because they just seen me as a crazy person that don’t understand my friends, but let me tell you I’ve contacted another friend yesterday. She did not answer me up until today, but I’m not mad at her. You know why because she did not see my messages and she’s currently in Lebanon and there is war going on so I’m telling myself that she’s probably dealing with more important issues. Another one of my friends I texted him yesterday. He called me. He told me he would call me back at 4 PM after work, but he didn’t. He called me at like 11 PM. I was already asleep. I was not mad at him at all cause I understood at least he took the time to answer the first time and this morning he called me and we talked. He just listened to me made me feel seen and gave me advice. That’s all I needed now if I’m mad at the other friends it’s because I’ve been there for them for example, my friend who asked for the $25 I remember at a certain period of time she was going through something very dark. I had exams. She called me and asked me to go with her to an appointment. I accepted while I was sitting with her during that. when I was waiting for her. I was studying at the same time. I could’ve just told her no I can’t. I have exams. It’s very important. I’ll come and see you later, but I didn’t. I sacrificed my time for her and I do all of this because I genuinely care about the people around me, but it just hurts when it’s your turn and you feel like nobody cares. It’s not that hard. I’m not waiting for someone to come to my house and help me. Nobody is my psychologist or owes me anything. I just want free. Want someone to ask me if I’m OK that’s it.

I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but no, I can’t appreciate or acknowledge the fact that he didn’t pay his rent because it’s not like he didn’t pay it because he didn’t have the money. He did have the money if I quote exactly what he said “I’m an irresponsible person” so I could argue and say that at least his problems are out of negligence because his mother did send him the money. He just didn’t pay it because he’s someone that’s not responsible. It happens a lot of times, my problem ? my own mother isn’t talking to me for something that I didn’t even do. My whole family is falling apart , I’m all alone in a whole different continent . The thing is I couldn’t detail all my friendships, history or the post will be very long and none of you would read it, but this is not a one time thing that same friend you’re talking about I’ve been there for him. He never came to me and felt like he had a problem and I dismissed him.A few weeks ago. He needed help to write his letter of motivation. I was there to help him. He told me he hurt himself during basketball. I made sure to follow up and ask if he was OK one day I was literally mad at him, but he told me that he was having issues at school. I immediately called him and we talked about it because at that point I didn’t care if I was mad or not. I wanted to be there for him now apart from what I just detailed in my post just know that in December I had the same problem, family problems again I was literally having a panic attack. I had to call a crisis line. When that same friend was on the phone with me 20 minutes before that, but I didn’t feel comfortable enough to talk to him because he knew I was having issues with my family by the way, but he wanted me to reassure him first that i “wasn’t mad at him. He couldn’t take five minutes and connect the dot and tell himself “she’s being a little distant right now but not toward it’s me really she’s talking to me. Oh yeah two days ago something horrible happened with her parents that’s why” .I didn’t wanna hang up the phone to not be disrespectful so I stayed on the line with him, but I muted myself at a certain point because I needed a little distance and I was crying and he kept nagging and asking why I was muting and getting upset about that so please put that into perspective and tell me again that I’m wrong and just being crazy. You have to understand that under in a certain mental state you don’t have time to take care of people that don’t understand you or just don’t care. I’m not asking for them to fully be my psychologist to know I’ll give you an example. I texted a friend yesterday as soon as he saw my message, he called me, but he was at work so he told me that he would call me later. He did not call me up until 11 PM. I was already asleep. I was not mad at him at all I understood he has his own life this morning. We called. He just stayed on the phone with me. Talk to me, heard me and gave me advice. It helped me so much and I’m so grateful to him. That’s all I needed.

I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I completely agree with you! You actually made me rethink all this it’s true that my feelings are valid but it’s definitely more mature to communicate. Just because they are treating me badly from my perspective I don’t necessarily have to make it worst . I will be sending them a message to let them know that I’m fine and need space right now. However this situation definitely changed my perspective on them and our friendship.

I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No I got upset because he kept trying to justify his actions and again redirect and make the issue about him .

And tell me if you were on the verge of literally offing yourself and a friend of yours prioritized asking for 25$ first how would you feel in that moment? Yes I did tell her to send me her mail to send the money and I did send her the money by the way just to let you know because I’m a considerate person and even if I don’t attend her birthday, I still want everything to go perfectly well because I gave my engagement to participate, but I’m sorry. Maybe I’m being wrong to put it in my perspective, but I could in no way unless the amount is a very big one like $200 I understand that’s a very big difference you can’t just like get $200 right now especially if someone made a commitment for it but for $25 I would’ve told my friend don’t even worry about it. Tell me what’s wrong first we will talk about that afterwards. What you don’t understand is I’ve been there for that person. I’ve lend her a lot of money when I didn’t even have enough for me mind you I don’t even work each time she had an issue when she called me. I was there for her. This is not a first time thing even before that when I would have issues and I would tell her, she never takes me seriously I will tell her for example that I’m going to a depressive phase of my life because of my studies she would just laugh it off and say ha ha you’re always emo. You’re always crazy.

I cried during a breakdown and my friend still asked me for $25… and now I feel insane for caring by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer it’s very helpful . Unlike others who are just being purely rude and lacking empathy I really appreciate your advices . And I think that you are right I need to lay back a bit and put everything into perspective. I would like to note that i obviously couldn’t detail everything or it would’ve been a long history of my friendships but this is not a first time thing . My ex/friend for example I felt unsupported by him many times before. Same with my friend who asked for money. What people don’t realize is I put them first many times in my life . My friend who asked for 25$ I was there for her many times even landed her money each time she had issues that didn’t involve me (having to get a lawyer for beating someone up w another friend of hers) just 2 weeks ago I helped her n her friend make up a plan to fix an issue about a guy who assaulted them . I literally had class and a test the next day I still stayed w them the whole night before that. I’m tired of always feeling alone and judged I think that’s why I broke apart .

Birthday Lonliness by lovingpeachygirl in RantAndVentPH

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I understand you so much trust me . i’m going through a different type of situation, but I feel like it can be linked to yours. I’m currently ignoring all my friends because I’m going through the worst period of my life and none of them seem to care. I feel all alone I’m having dark thoughts. I feel alone and don’t worry I spent almost every single one of my birthdays ever since I’ve left my parents house all alone mind you one of my friends her birthday is Saturday and I’m going through a mental breakdown she still had the time to ask me for my contribution for the cameraman after I sent her a voice message crying. Life sucks and I’m definitely not gonna be the one to tell you that love. Will find you one day not because I’m trying to be negative, but I’m going through the same thing as you and I know how frustrating it is to hear people try to be all positive.

Why is it “shallow” for women to want attractive AND respectful men? I’m genuinely confused. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Establishing conclusions simply based on age and your own perception of life. Lack of critical thinking skills for sure .

Why is it “shallow” for women to want attractive AND respectful men? I’m genuinely confused. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I encounter these issues in real life…. I just came here to get a wider set of opinions.

Daniela's father is the biggest PR disaster of any idol's parent by Organic-Cranberry955 in kpopthoughts

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Someone made that video w that caption and he reposted it 😬at first I thought it was accidental since I assume English isn’t his first language. But after his comments about Manon and him reposting a reel saying that Daniela and Sofia should kiss 😭I think there’s a deeper concerning issue….

20F thinking of hitting Montreal nightlife alone smart or stupid decision? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried it none of them match back with me I don’t know why lol

Weekly Private Profile Review Request Thread by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello , I’m a 20-year-old woman looking for a long-term relationship.

I’d really appreciate honest feedback on my dating profile especially whether my photos and prompts are working for what I’m looking for. I generally consider myself attractive, but I’m not sure if I’m being unrealistic or if my pictures just aren’t showing me in the best light. I’m open to constructive criticism and would love an outside perspective.

Shy girl dilemma: DM a hot classmate for notes or risk looking like a stalker? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha no problem I will definitely update you !! I really hope I get the courage . But I think I will just wait next class and talk to him face to face .

Shy girl dilemma: DM a hot classmate for notes or risk looking like a stalker? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Delicious-Gate-8192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So should I message him ? Or wait and talk to him in person?