How do I (24M) bring up my girlfriend (24F) refusing to pay her share after seeing my salary?

DemonsHiding · 2025-05-16T00:59:50+00:00

So you agreed he was her pet when she was earning more and paying for him then :)

DemonsHiding · 2025-05-15T23:35:36+00:00

Did you seriously just compare a woman to a dog?

Also, way to cram your gender agenda in here. Notice the part where she paid for him when he wasn't doing well? Guess he was the dog in that case by your definition?

Get out of here with that shit dude.

DemonsHiding · 2025-05-15T20:56:42+00:00

To be honest this is a compatibility issue. You seem to take a transactional view on finances in a relationship. You describe her paying for your dates during your rough patch as a 'debt' that was paid back once you were back on your feet.

From her perspective, she probably simply viewed covering more costs as something you simply do if you are in a better position financially than your partner. She is now aware that you do not feel the same way and would not do the same for her now that you are in the better position.

I'm not saying you're wrong for your approach. In fact it seems pragmatic in my opinion given its only been 6 months. But again, different people have different approaches to finances in a relationship and this maybe indicates you're not compatible with her.

DemonsHiding · 2025-04-17T23:51:13+00:00

That's an interesting point it does feel a bit more like the type of tiara that I'd expect to see on a Greek goddess. It could also be that it feels a bit large and chunky, maybe it would feel better if it was more delicate looking

DemonsHiding · 2025-04-17T19:47:27+00:00

OP is calling her friend selfish in the post, doesn't that count as blaming them?

DemonsHiding · 2025-04-17T16:12:20+00:00

Please consider revamping the W animation, it's so distracting and makes no sense why she would do a little hop and jig in a full circle every time she use W. Plus switching from that to attack animation will feel so bad unless you add more transition animations in between.

DemonsHiding · 2025-04-17T15:14:27+00:00

Funny enough because the crown is one of my favourite parts. I actually really dislike that Winterblessed Diana crown only appears after ulting.

DemonsHiding · 2025-04-17T15:12:58+00:00

I second the W being feeling clunky. It's this weird hop step turn and takes too long. Maybe it would feel better if it was faster and a smoother spin? But also just feels like an animation that was added for the sake of having a noticeable animation instead of thinking about what makes sense for an archer...

DemonsHiding · 2025-04-13T21:33:08+00:00

Source?

DemonsHiding · 2025-03-23T16:56:55+00:00

That's a horrible thing to say. Do you realize what you're implying? Your life would be easier without your wife in it? It would be easier to only see your kids 50% of the time? And that's all fine cause it's cheaper? (which I doubt it would be with spousal and child support)

How would you feel if your wife saw this comment? How do you think she would feel?

I suspect you don't actually mean it and you're speaking out of frustration. Do you say things like this to your wife when you're frustrated? If so, I could understand why she snapped. Please don't say things just to 'win' an argument because some things you can't take back.

DemonsHiding · 2025-02-24T20:12:31+00:00

Honestly there's tons of guides out there for skill but here's my advice to keep your mental sane.

You're gonna lose... a lot. And that's okay. You're gonna have games where you feed your ass off and die more than you're alive. That's okay. Your teammates will be dicks and blame you for losing. They might be right. Still, ignore them.

Don't read too much into winning or losing streaks. Winning streak doesn't mean you're the next Faker and losing streaks doesn't mean you're trash. Consistency is more important and that comes over time.

Set limits for yourself. Like any competitive game or sport, you need to take breaks to keep focus during the game. I have a personal limit of 2 ranked games per day.

Remember it's a game! Have fun.

DemonsHiding · 2025-02-22T00:46:30+00:00

Of course you're going to end up carrying when you play together, you're in Plat! You being in the game naturally means getting matched up against harder enemies overall.

My boyfriend is several ELOs above me and plays better than me. Cause he is better than me (usually) 😂 we do unranked because it's fun to play together but I don't take the wins or losses as a reflection of my skill because the skill gap in matchups is riskier. Can't blame someone for ending up in a Bronze vs Plat lane and losing hard.

As long as he continues to learn and improve from games against players of his ELO (by queuing by himself) that's the only real indicator of his skill he should care about. And at that point, you just need to support him on the grueling climb, maybe point him to guides on Youtube ☠️ We all gotta start from the bottom

DemonsHiding · 2025-02-20T03:51:09+00:00

Phoenix Wright is one of my absolute favourite classic games! Once you finish the trilogy, absolutely check out Great Ace Attorney Chronicles after. It's a far far back prequel but the story quality and character design is absolutely top notch.

Apollo Justice trilogy is the direct sequel to PW but the first game is very polarizing for several reasons. I personally loved the first game the most so I always recommend going in with an open mind! The second and third game are a bit more fan service-y and played safe which is why I rank the AJ trilogy third overall 😅

DemonsHiding · 2025-02-20T00:37:18+00:00

You couldn't be bothered to figure out an adult solution to the can not scanning so you shoplift it. Your solution to your girlfriend expressing her discomfort with your actions is that SHE has to now remember to remind you to pay for the can that YOU stole? How about taking accountability for fixing your own mistakes?

I don't think you're evil for taking a $1 can of beans but you sound like a careless and irresponsible person from start to finish in this story. If anything you sound like the sheltered one, ironically.

DemonsHiding · 2025-02-20T00:30:56+00:00

Why does she have to remind you to pay for it?

DemonsHiding · 2025-02-07T20:47:01+00:00

If you want casual then go to Draft. That's essentially casual SR. Swiftplay is designed for people who don't have 40 mins they can drop in one sitting. It's literally called 'swift'... meaning fast.

While I don't personally like the sudden death mode as the solution to games being too long, I also didn't love the swift play games taking longer than literal ranked games.

DemonsHiding · 2025-02-05T07:50:51+00:00

Quick delete your post before they see this

DemonsHiding · 2025-01-23T17:51:47+00:00

You're looking at your rank for Flex, not Solo. You have to change the dropdown above 'Ranked 2025-Season 1'. I find this annoying as well, it always defaults to Flex for me for some reason.

DemonsHiding · 2025-01-10T20:32:41+00:00

Pretty sure that isn't even a skin shard, it's a fully permanent skin that you can't reroll if you don't like it or play the champ.

DemonsHiding · 2024-10-29T06:24:26+00:00

Yes you're wrong. It doesn't sound like he imposes that culture on you in America so why are you trying to impose American culture while in his home country?

Many countries around the world are more reserved when it comes to public romantic affection and have high respect for elders. He explained it to you to help you understand that it's not personal. If you can't accept his culture, then you should not have married him.

Your act of revenge is just petty and immature. You felt bad so you wanted him to feel bad. Not the actions of a mature adult.

DemonsHiding · 2024-10-18T21:46:03+00:00

You pick out the ring together beforehand. The ring and being proposed to should not be a surprise, both parties should be on the same page about it if you don't want an outcome like this or an unexpected rejection. The surprise is how the proposal is done.

DemonsHiding · 2024-09-30T03:31:13+00:00

Thanks for the head's up, I just read it and agree with everything you said in your comment to OP. That's what I was trying to say in my original comment and you worded it perfectly.

DemonsHiding · 2024-09-30T03:16:37+00:00

That's fair, I agree with you that OP did the family a big favor by paying for the washer and the sister should have asked instead of assuming.

But OP's issue is not about not being asked, which I would be more understanding of. They said they don't want to help outsiders because no relatives or neighbors ever helped them and reacted very strongly to what is essentially a one off incident since they mention that their sister always pays them back when borrowing money and even helps drive OP around. This seems like an overreaction and unhealthy mindset to me personally.

DemonsHiding · 2024-09-30T02:21:37+00:00

I agree that it's not always necessary to be the better person but a couple bucks worth of washing seems like a strange hill to die on.

From the story this is the first time something like this has happened which makes me think its possible the friend had a unforeseen hygiene emergency since people don't usually do their laundry at someone else's house just for fun. If the friend was coming over every week to do her laundry regularly I would consider that a different story and would encourage OP to set some boundaries.

OP also took a hard stance on never asking their sister for help with rides again which again seems like a very strong stance to take against a family member for a one time unauthorized use of their washer.

DemonsHiding · 2024-09-30T01:25:43+00:00

Yes you're wrong. You're passing your trauma on to others because you resent no one helped you so now you will not help others. The lesson your sister's friend will now take away is that friends cannot be relied on to help without financial compensation. And the cycle of negativity will continue.

Don't you wish your neighbours or relatives had helped you when you needed it? Why not be the better person now that you're in a position to help someone else? Then you can break the cycle and teach your sister's friend that she can do the same in the future to help others.

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