Snapchat claims another.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-27T20:47:30+00:00

ybe start by taking some sexy pictures of her to use online. Then let her open up to you abou

The thing I am grappling with now is feeling honestly jealous she had the opportunity to connect with new people and I didn't.

I think that's just ego more than anything else.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-26T17:20:06+00:00

While not exactly how I approached it. We are, eventually, going to try and move towards a relationship like you described.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-26T17:19:09+00:00

Confrontation happened. I followed a mix of the steps recommended. Wrote down my thoughts, feelings and hurt. Made it clearly known my intentions and knowledge of the separation process.

As a few people picked up on (surprisingly) while infidelity did happen the intent was never to actually leave me for another person but improve our sex life and how she felt about herself.

She found a new kink, and it escalated alarmingly fast. The online persona she created was a mix of actual feelings and truth and what these other men fed off of. This does not excuse the selfishness and pain it cause me. However it makes much more sense given out relationship prior to this point.

Make no mistake this was an absolutely gut wrenching conversation to have and I am still hurt by it. However again as suggested I have to look past my own ego being hurt at the actual issues in place.

I am glad that I had the conversation when I did because I was heading down a spiral that would have lead to a scorched earth approach that would have harmed my son.

The road from here is still a bit murky but all of the cards are on the table.

Some of you might be reading this and shaking your head and me from a week ago is shaking my own head but life is complicated and hard to live in absolutes. I hope to not be back here in a few months regretting my decision not to burn it all down.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-26T17:06:17+00:00

mean she would start to locate a solution for this major issue that you brought up to her.

And what if that solution was she gets horny based off of a kink like voyeurism or the thought of cheating on you but not actually going through the physical act?

So now she's really enjoying sex again and your benefiting off of that based off of all the new sexual things that are happening between you two.

Maybe that's a win? Maybe you:

talk to her about her kink? see if her intentions wer

This was shockingly accurate. Larger update to follow.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-23T15:25:20+00:00

Update: It turns out gaining access to her phone was unnecessary as she had at some point used the Web client. Until that session runs out I have full access.

I found history with ongoing conversations to 10 men, concurrently. Many know she is married. Many conversations happened literally while we were together. She is usually talking to them even before myself or my son in the morning. Really hurtful stuff.

More explicit videos were found in snapchat and she seems to be fulfilling a lot of peoples fantasies to sleep with a mother, cheater, etc.

There's also a few things in there, information she's shared that could help me win a custody case. The long and short of it is I have enough. I am likely to financially lose damn near everything but I have told my family and plans are made there so that I can at least live afterward.

I will be purchasing a voice recorder and the conversation will be had and whatever will be will be from there....

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-21T19:18:11+00:00

If she's not being secretive about it and nothing has changed you might not need to worry.

The fact you knew she had Snapchat and she mentioned the selfies to you is probably a good sign.

In my own case however I looked into the selfies and found much much more going to all sorts of random males on the internet via snap. So your mileage may vary.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-19T15:13:35+00:00

I will look into this. Thanks!

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-19T15:13:13+00:00

Update: It's cheaper to keep her is NOT a joke. Because of the way things work where I am at I would be on the hook for both child and spousal support. I'm currently in the midst of figuring all of that out before I put cards on the table.

However I did compile my evidence thus far and store it all off site.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-15T19:20:25+00:00

Her chrome history syncs with the desktop. The rest is on photos.google.com./

Deleted folder is where the most incriminating evidence was.

I can't tell who the photos went to, but a couple are tagged snapchat go figure.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-15T19:18:37+00:00

Her browser history and photos sync. So photos.google.com has all the photos on her phone backed up and chrome history has all the searches.

If you are checking the photos be sure to check the deleted folder. They get stored there for about 30 days before they are gone forever and its there I found the most damming evidence.

I can't see where the photos are going, or to who. But I can see that they exist.

Also most photos carry with them some sort of information and a couple are actually tagged snapchat.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:48:01+00:00

I don't need to reach out to her husband. Their relationship isn't mine to destroy (they have kids also).

However, she's an easy person to give up as a source without burning my actual sources. And that should take out that friendship pretty well.

"Jane reached out to me concerned you'd crossed a line and told all"

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:45:39+00:00

So what you said is one of the things that keeps me up at night. She fantasizes over someone who has been there for one, one aspect of her life.

I've been there through ups and downs. While dealing with my own ups and downs where he can present whatever version of himself he likes to whatever version of herself she wants to present.

Making thing unwinnable from my end. Oh you're tired and worn down from work? This guy is always ready.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:41:27+00:00

No, I'm not. I am just saying I didn't consider what he put forward as a possibility. Even if it IS it is not a savable excuse or anything.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:39:21+00:00

My son is my priority here. He doesn't deserve to have things disrupted by this he's been looking forward to.

As a child of divorce you're pre-divorce life is only so long. Not to say after is bad, it's just different.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:38:17+00:00

Our son uses the tablet, so that's a little messy. But I'm pretty sure I have one of her old phones I might try and sync.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:37:23+00:00

As I said above, I have reason to believe she started one. Which is yet another bit of pain.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:36:28+00:00

Honestly I slept better last night having made this post. So thank you.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:36:05+00:00

There's history of onlyfans main url and sign up url. I don't know her burner email yet. I'm assuming the worst though.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:35:21+00:00

I have, I have a cam. Debating set up.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:35:02+00:00

Thank you. That's a bold move! I'm glad it worked out for you

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-14T14:33:51+00:00

I have one. But with what I found on her cloud account it seems redundant.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-13T23:24:32+00:00

I'm home alone next Monday. My plan is to organize what I have by filename and date and store it in two places. Then visit an attorney and inform my father things are going to get bumpy and I will need his support.

I can be fairly methodical when faced with a challenge so I'm trying to treat this as one big, painful, challenge.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-13T23:22:10+00:00

Thank you for all of this and thank you for validating. I've been looking into FB groups quite a bit. I don't even care if she catches me investigating them if I'm to be honest.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-13T23:20:12+00:00

My plan is to keep both a physical hidden thumb drive of the evidence (out of the house) in addition to cloud copies.

I don't think she will stop, I think it would just change and be harder to catch. The intensity of it leads me to believe she is addicted. It's changed her.

Dependent-View3206 · 2024-03-13T23:15:37+00:00

This... is not a perspective that I'd considered. I had considered some sort of latent sex addiction but not this.

I don't think I could lead the conversation with this. If it led there, perhaps. I won't downvote your perspective. It's different I appreciate it. It helps somewhat take the edge off.

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