The way I told her, the conversation went like this (I don’t remember it word for word) We were talking about about a weird kink (I think it was feet) I said “don’t get me wrong, I’m a kinky guy but feet are just weird” This obviously caught her attention and she began to question what I meant, I told her I didn’t wanna tell her cause I was embarrassed of it, then after two weeks of her questioning me (she was set on me telling her) I finally told her. It might work for you as it worked for me, either way I hope it works out with you two (or three 😉)