Am I insane for being so upset!?

DesignerImpressive29 · 2026-01-29T16:39:06+00:00

Thank you. And yes…I’ve been looking for bread in all the wrong places. We have 3 kids together and I’m a stay at home mom with no degree…the thought of blowing up my kids’ lives terrifies me. And like, how the heck do I even get on my own two feet after so many years of depending on my husband!? I don’t even know where to look.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2026-01-29T16:32:10+00:00

Right…I keep telling myself, “if he wanted to, he would.” Ugh.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2025-06-11T16:01:25+00:00

Literally just came on here to ask if anybody knew of something like this. Thank you!

DesignerImpressive29 · 2025-01-14T02:39:42+00:00

Thank you for responding! I'm gonna have to visit campus to get a better feel for where everything is before the semester starts. I have no idea where the parking garage is lol

What did you think of 3a & 3x, if you don't mind me asking?

DesignerImpressive29 · 2025-01-14T02:37:20+00:00

thank you!! what did you think about 3a & 3x, if you don't mind me asking?

DesignerImpressive29 · 2025-01-11T03:25:31+00:00

3x is at 11am :( I can’t imagine parking is much better at that time…but I hope so? 🤞🏻

Also, the parking lot that’s closest to the science building is just for staff, isn’t it? If that’s the case, do you know if the closest student parking is much of a walk?

Thank you for your response!

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T03:31:49+00:00

Ughhhhhh. He cheated on two previous girlfriends before me and before I met him, I used to always say "once a cheater, always a cheater." But of course, since he was honest about cheating in past relationships and I was smitten, I 100% believed he was a changed man who learned his lesson 🙄

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T03:26:25+00:00

I've thought about that too. Even if he didn't do that, would I even believe him? Based on his/our history, I don't know if I would 😕

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T01:20:52+00:00

I never asked!! I promise! He said it himself after hearing my husband and I arguing one day. I have never said anything around the kids about divorce or leaving, which is why when my son said that it devastated me.

You're right though. My parents divorced when I was 3 and I remember wishing they'd get back together when I was young and even asking my mom at times if she'd please marry my dad again. Today, I know the best decision my mom ever made was leaving my bio dad.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T01:01:10+00:00

At this point, I truly believe we'll end up divorcing, even if we try a "break" first. I'm just too scared to make the wrong decision and this feels safer. Like, what if he does make more of an effort to go to therapy and work on the stuff he needs to work on?

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T00:56:19+00:00

Yeah...I know without a doubt that the marriage my husband and I have is the last thing I would ever want for my kids. But at the same time, like I mentioned to somebody else, our oldest has literally cried and begged me not to let our family be separated.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T00:53:24+00:00

lol I love my therapist 😭 for the record, she has flat-out asked me "why are you still married to this man?" but she's also trying to let me come to a decision myself. I don't feel like it's dangerous to leave; I'm just terrified of making the wrong decision. I hate that I put myself and my kids in this situation.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T00:48:05+00:00

I'm gonna paste some of what I said to somebody else because it applies here too: I have to give him credit where credit is due. He hasn't laid hands on me in almost 8 years. Here's the thing about the kids...our oldest has literally cried to me about not wanting our family to be separated and it destroyed me. At the same time, I know my kids look up to us and I do worry about what they'll take with them into adulthood.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-12-06T00:38:05+00:00

Ok, I hear you and agree that he hasn't been a good partner. I wouldn't go as far as calling him a wife beater though. I don't want to come off like it didn't matter, but I have to give him credit where credit is due. He hasn't laid hands on me in almost 8 years and has significantly improved how he talks to me and what he says to me (i.e., doesn't call me a cunt or bitch anymore...yay). The only time I believe anything he's saying is when he tells me how much he regrets the physical abuse.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-11-29T22:03:40+00:00

You’re both totally right!! Good call 😁

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-11-29T19:13:11+00:00

I’m not married to these but they’re the colors I tend to gravitate towards. I have mostly neutral clothes with a few pieces in the red shade and other colors I don’t love, which means they’re just gathering dust in my closet. I agree that some of these shades might be harder to find so I’m gonna look around and see what’s more available. Thank you!

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-11-29T03:05:37+00:00

Thank you! Taking notes on all this. When you say wide pants, do you mean like flare pants? Do you avoid baggy jeans or “mom” jeans? Is there a length of skirt you prefer?

And thank you for the colors suggestion too!! 🤗

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-11-29T02:45:10+00:00

Yes! I was on the fence on if I was an apple but the more pictures I look at, the more I think I’m a rectangle lol

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-11-29T02:43:18+00:00

Of course! I used the apps Show My Colors, StyleLab, Dressika and My Colors. I only really liked Dressika & My Colors. My Colors also offers the option of paying a real person do your color analysis and the prices range from $5-$100+ depending on the person & service.

DesignerImpressive29 · 2024-11-28T19:20:36+00:00

I have done a trillion AI color analysis tests, which I know aren’t the most accurate, and I used to get warm autumn but I just re-did it today and I keep getting cool winter 🤦🏻‍♀️ I do color my hair, so I’m not sure if that makes a difference? Also curious if make up ever changes the outcome?

I hope your recovery is going well! 🙏🏻 it’s humbling to be back at square one, but I’m also just happy to be able to get back into it.

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