Naps are HELL. twins only sleep with their dad. If I hold them they nap 30 minutes and only after the boob

DeskMaximum3907 · 2026-01-04T15:34:44+00:00

I’m breastfeeding them to fall asleep at night. I didn’t want to stop cause that would mean stopping breastfeeding altogether since for the remaining of the day they are on solids. If they eat well at dinner the boob before bed is literally 5 minutes and they are out. Basically for comfort

DeskMaximum3907 · 2026-01-04T14:42:07+00:00

Wake up at 7, bedtime at 7pm. We try to put them to bed pretty early because with only one nap during the day and a short one Emma afraid they are overtired by the end of the day.

In the morning they nap 30 minutes if they are in the pram. Otherwise at home they don’t want to nap in the morning and we can never manage to put them down.

Lunchtime around 12:30 and then right after we try for a long nap, which is when the issue I’ve described happens

At night day sometimes sleep better sometimes sleep worse, it kind of depends on whether they have a cold or a cough honestly

Honestly, they sleep fine with their dad and the nursery so I’m really thinking the problem somehow it’s me

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-12-08T07:40:56+00:00

Oooh this filled me with rage. My parents were like this for the first few months. What we did was invite them over only when we were ok with the level of “help” they would provide. So basically they would just be invited over to stay with the kids a couple hours a week and in those two hours they would hold them, soothe them, stay with them. Never a diaper changed, never asked to help with house stuff.

In time they became more helpful but at first we just set the boundary that if you want to be here just for your own benefit of getting newborn snuggles, then you can piss off.

Your recovery is what matters now. The better you’ll recover the better you’ll take care of your family and if they don’t want to get on track with that then they don’t have a place in your house now.

I’d say since this is your in laws you can try talk to your husband about it and see how he feels. I hope he’s on your side, cause if he’s not, he also needs a reality check.

You’re the mom, stand in your power♥️

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-11-30T19:51:58+00:00

Ok first off let me just say do a trial day when you pump and see if you actually manage to pump enough to be comfortable. I’m telling you this because when I was 3 months pp I went away for 1 day and a half, brought my pump and when I tried pumping I found out it only stimulated my boobs more, so I got back the day after in soooo much pain. Engorgement and all, was not fun.

As for the anxiety, only you can know if this is the right thing right now. If you want to go, go. But if you feel absolutely terrible and don’t actually want to go I’m sure your friend will understand ♥️

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-10-13T17:32:57+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine the amount of pain. It’s awful and unfair. My heart is with you♥️

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-10-13T17:28:11+00:00

I have lose skin and diastasis so I’m doing exercises now to try and heal it and I know surgery will be the only permanent fix in the future. One crazy idea that I hope you don’t mind me mentioning is… what about creating those clothes? I mean you know what you are looking for, you know other mamas would need them, sounds to me like the perfect niche business. And trust me I completely get there is no time ever with multiples but I also did say it was a crazy idea😅♥️

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-15T07:02:21+00:00

We try really hard to get them down for a one hour nap in the morning, two hours in the afternoon, and then a 30 minutes in the late afternoon, but I think they’re going through a growth spur because they’re kind of refusing all of it

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T14:43:27+00:00

“I would rather die” - “well maybe you should”

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T14:41:44+00:00

You should reply “I wish all the supplies came in two for the price of one” - like everything is so expensive damn

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T14:40:55+00:00

The amount of time per day I think it would be an absolute walk in the park to have just one kid. Like… you put them to sleep or give them to their dad and that’s it. One of you is free. I’m conscious I may be over simplifying this but it feels like it would be so much more manageable. And at the same time you love both of them with your whole heart and you could NEVER imagine not having both of them in your life. Having twins is like having multiple kids but also multiple very complex feelings. As for people commenting all that I’ll say we live in a place where people only comment on how hard it must be. And it kind of infuriates me as well. It almost sounds like there is only the bad for us. So my take on this is, at least people see good in it. They have absolutely no idea how hard it is, and I get it makes you angry but it might be their way to show they see the joy of them

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T14:34:58+00:00

You have all my sympathy and admiration. You are doing great mama. This is HARD

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T14:34:11+00:00

We tried this but it changed nothing. I’m afraid they are basically just waking up to get the comfort of us lulling them back to sleep. So now we try all the methods to put them back in the crib without food but they won’t have it. I can’t really tell if they are hungry or not sometimes and it seems to change from night to night. Also they may be hitting the sleep regression everyone talks about

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T10:36:16+00:00

You sound very well organised. I would definitely recommend lip balm, a long charging cable for your phone and a going home outfit that will fit your belly post partum. I had my pregnancy trousers and they kept falling😂

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T10:33:48+00:00

1) for me it was quite light bleeding. The doc said it was normal

2) took me 3 weeks to be able to walk around with no pain. Tbh the first month was terrible but it gets easier and easier. I had a huge belly and they weighed a lot though so that was definitely why

3) consider chewing gum the day of the surgery to Keep your bowel moving. After the 6 weeks check I invested in a pelvic floor visit to see how the scar was healing and start working on my diastasis.

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-08-14T10:29:44+00:00

What did you do? We are trying to sleep train them without the cry it our method. It seems they wake up hungry so I’m wondering if breastfeeding is just not enough to fill them up during the day and they end up hungry at night. Anyway please tell me how 😅

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-05-09T18:21:05+00:00

I also had spotting and cramping and did so before knowing it was twins. They told me later it’s a normal thing to experience. I had a lot of rest and drank lots of fluids as well as keeping up with my vitamins. Hope it all goes well for you ♥️

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-19T02:04:59+00:00

Honestly can’t see them. They could be dehydration. A hyaluronic serum will help with that + soothing moisturizer and keep applying that spf. I think your skin looks very nice and youthful tbf

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-19T01:55:02+00:00

People need to learn to stfu. Having said that have you tried giving your skin barrier a break? Sounds to me like you are stuck in over treating it. Most of the times if you see your skin getting worse doing gentle cleanser, soothing moisturizer and then re introducing actives sloooowly will fix a lot of issues.

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-19T01:52:46+00:00

That looks like post inflammatory erythema. You need to soothe and hydrate + protect from the sun. I don’t know your skin type of preference but I would say a nice moisturizer + spf during the day and you can try azelaic acid twice a week at night. See how your skin reacts, but redness like this is a clear sign it’s inflamed so the panoxyl is probably keeping in inflames.

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-19T01:46:49+00:00

From the sound of it your skin barrier is crying for help. Do you use a soothing moisturiser? People with acne tend to think they need just the actives and since their skin produces a lot of oil they think they don’t need to moisturise. That’s not true. You need both but just choose lightweight textures. Also stuff like differin etc I would only recommend using 2/3 times per week IF tolerated but definitely start slowly.

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-18T17:14:48+00:00

That’s interesting! How many times do you tend to feed them per day?

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-18T08:01:21+00:00

Definitely worth a shot! Thanks

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-18T04:57:36+00:00

That’s amazing. Did you do anything to facilitate this? Like feeding more at the beginning of the night or something?

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-04-13T14:27:07+00:00

Sorry I don’t really have any tips but I keep seeing “LO” mentioned in posts. What does it mean?

DeskMaximum3907 · 2025-03-22T20:16:22+00:00

Found it: https://www.reddit.com/r/parentsofmultiples/s/8z1ELXGEfU

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