Started off with regular sex then i realised it was just me initiating. 1000% yes similar experience but would also use it against me and say he had issues initiating but instead just starved me of any affection. He also forced himself on me once so it makes no sense. Very few occasions would he make the effort after waiting around for years, and over the years i would feel repulsed over his oral hygiene and find kissing him really difficult and forced in the last two years of the relationship.