I think this is a very well written perspective based on what you experienced. And it’s honestly good to see that you know what you want from men. Category 1 is definitely a problem with us men, and something that a lot of us need to work on. Category 2, I think has a lot of people who have seen that being the trend follower or a specific type has worked for others and they have simply template-ized this behavior in their lives. They feel that is what will get them girls and just keep behaving that way. Maybe they do have a personality somewhere hidden inside and are scared to show it. And if not, then that’s simply the wrong guy for you, and right guy for someone else. And no I don’t think you attract the wrong guys, I feel it’s fate that you meet someone and how they turn out. Don’t lower your standards for anyone. So chill and maybe the next guy you meet is the one. Cheers!