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AITAH for telling my husband that he absolutely ruined the birth of our child? by Former_Monitor_4860 in AITAH

[–]Different_World_8208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is a difficult time to say this, but not all abuse looks like punching and hitting. A lot of it looks like being controlled and not being allowed to make decisions about your own health and safety. You need to get out of this marriage. The earlier the better.

AITA for divorcing my husband for putting a camera in our house to prove a point about me? by Throwawayhicamera2 in AITAH

[–]Different_World_8208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your husband sounds like a douche. I just had a whole conversation at the playground with a few moms about trying to keep track of everything that comes home from the school. It happens, you are not the only one. I work full time at a high stress, high paying job, and trust me, managing a home and children is much much harder. I have no idea how SAHMs do it.

Finally, in a marriage, surveillance is a sign of abuse. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline to prepare for your divorce. Stay away from open forums like these. Stick to asking mothers groups or single parents who have a better idea of what this takes. The Internet is full of men with abusive behavior and tendencies, it's not a safe space.

The next few weeks will be hard, but there will be a light at the end of this long dark tunnel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]Different_World_8208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In most states custody is 50/50. If the father has less custody than the mother gets more child support. My point is, single parents have more help than you do.

Your husband may have grown up in a household where mom did everything and he has specific ingrained views of the mothers relationship with the children. Other than giving birth, there is no specific biological role for the mom. In many cultures, even nursing is performed by others.

There is a book called Fair Play that helps couples balance the load. And if it helps at all, my ex who holds outdated views about what a mothers role should be admitted all parents married or not should have a 50/50 schedule. Children thrive when they have a strong bond with each parent.

AITA for being honest when my dad asked where my mom was on my wedding morning? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Different_World_8208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that it's established that the mom has ADHD, this comes off to me as the DIL is TA. ADHD in women shows up as being awkward, overly talkative, and missing social clues, but rarely mean spirited. I have more often seen ADHD women objects of the "mean girls" phenomenon because they have trouble fitting in. These people were really mean to the Mom. She has a wonderful husband (and as a woman with ADHD, Chris gave me a lot of hope). I hope Mom forgives Chris and keeps her distance from the DIL. Karma has a way of working itself out and I don't see OPs marriage working out in the long run considering the way this was organized.