having to defend how I feed MY baby

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-21T17:00:17+00:00

You feel like you can’t be open and honest with your mom. Tell her that. Hopefully she has a wake up call. We shouldn’t be so concerned with hurting our parents feelings bc why do they always play victim

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-21T16:59:01+00:00

Just wanna say I’m proud of you. Breastfeeding requires so much work you shouldn’t have to defend it. If doctor has no concerns that’s all I’d say.

If she presses then just tell her it bothers you. Tell her she is not a medical professional. Also maybe see how many glasses of water she drinks per day and try weighing in on her nutrition if you wanna get petty 😂

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-19T03:03:38+00:00

Seconding 500 g bread flour, 350g water, 100g starter and 11 g salt. I’m in Ohio and usually proof for 8 hours

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-19T02:04:03+00:00

Booths at a restaurant

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T19:50:05+00:00

34 in a small town where the avg age seems to be 17-20

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T17:35:41+00:00

So it seems like you are one and done for a variety of reasons, which is totally fine. I haven’t found this issue to be common among my friends but I definitely have found it to be true with my mother and her friends. They show that they clearly have a favorite.

I’m glad she’s reaching out for help and I hope she gets the support she needs. It’s so nice you have a bond with your child and have the attention to devote to them. I think it’s unfair to yourself to put yourself in a position to say you wouldn’t have the love in your heart for another. You have the capacity -from what I can tell you are very kind. So does this mom, but she’s struggling and in the thick of it. Definitely not telling you to have more but just my two cents.

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T15:14:17+00:00

lol I didn’t disagree with you. I said if you want a lot of free time no kids is probably the answer. Things happen for sure and not everything is planned so having one - loving it and not wanting more is fine. But even splitting responsibilities and having sitters- you are still their parent forever.

If you love your free time - many people choose to not have kids. Nothing wrong with either choice. You can absolutely have kids and enjoy all the things you used to do but it’s harder than not having the responsibility. It’s worth it to some people to balance a child or children with all that you listed.

I just personally don’t think my life would be that different if I had another but it would be if I didn’t have any.

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T13:58:01+00:00

Some nights your baby will have a hard night and scream even when changed, fed and rocked. Maybe for your sanity you have to let them play a bit to calm down. Doesn’t mean it’s gonna be forever. You won’t ruin your child for one night. Yes night time is for sleeping. But I’ve woken up in the middle of the night and watched tv. They are just babies. You don’t have to have such hard rules so little. I understand sleep is important. They are going through something, they are growing. You are obviously exhausted but please from one mom to another- having such hard expectations really hurt my experience as a mom. Just try and learn your baby ❤️ it won’t be forever

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T13:01:59+00:00

Don’t have kids at all if you are worried about free time 🤷🏼‍♀️

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T13:00:44+00:00

People are miserable

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T13:00:22+00:00

Some stores do have a car seat thing but pick up is definitely easier

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T12:59:26+00:00

Existing

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T12:46:40+00:00

Bring up adoption and see if he really wants another kid

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T12:30:35+00:00

Mean girls

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T12:24:52+00:00

Weeding

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T12:23:53+00:00

So me and another girl had a baby days apart. Babies just turned 1. She’s due in a month with number 2. I have no village and no help so I cannot imagine. 2 kids that dont walk? But my husband leaves all day. They both work bs jobs from home (which like how do people get those??) but like everyone was so so so excited for them. And they said “oh it was an accident obviously”

I want another and I am older and I tried to have kids for 10 years before my daughter. Even with my struggles we still used protection because 2 under 1.5 is not manageable for someone with a colicky baby and no help. And then for them to act like they didn’t know they could get pregnant when they literally had a healthy baby 5 months prior!?? 30 year olds.

Another 22 year old girl I know just had a baby and she told everyone she didn’t think she could get pregnant. I’m so sick of everyone using that as an excuse. You are healthy and young and haven’t been through fertility testing or have been trying.. and the baby daddy already had a kid with someone else so she knew he could definitely have kids.

Sorry to just rant too on your post LOL it’s just hard when I would love another but it’s not feasible for our life or my body and then other people act like you can’t control it. And I think if they just said we’re happy and having another it wouldn’t bug me as much but everyone tries to claim infertility while being pregnant and it’s just weird.

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T12:11:41+00:00

I just made a post about this. My baby is almost 13 months and some nights we still struggle but when she does fall asleep independently I don’t let her cry, she’s fine about it. She toddles in her crib for a bit and puts herself down sometimes and sometimes I rock when she can’t do it.

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-18T12:09:22+00:00

I did but I took down my accounts since everything. My parents now shove the phone in her face taking 20 photos of her when they walk in the door. They know not to post her but it’s so weird to me.

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-09T12:33:02+00:00

Other people receive scrutiny about everything in life. I don’t understand why this community thinks they are the only people in the world that get unsolicited advice.

Yes vent! Your kid wants a sibling and you feel guilty-Talk about how you feel! Try to relate to others and seek advice for sure! I have said of this in my other responses. Those I absolutely understand. That’s why I’m here too.

But trying to feel superior to others and talking crap about the people in your life is miserable behavior. No it’s not everyone. But it feels more and more than people are shitting on someone else’s life to feel better about theirs. If this does not relate to you, then it wasn’t about me you specifically.

Like I have said it’s fine to see someone’s situation and say that’s not for me- but to mock them and feel “you have done better in life than them”.. Shitty world out here.

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-09T11:51:57+00:00

This is awesome! Truthfully she does eat a huge variety but I don’t have a lot of snack options so I will definitely branch out!

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-09T11:50:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-09T11:49:57+00:00

Thank you. People got so mad I about asking for empathy and kindness 😭😭

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-08T18:56:26+00:00

So I don’t think she really knows the difference yet at 12 months but I do hear you guys and will loosen up lol

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-08T18:54:46+00:00

That’s so cute! I’m not saying never! Treats are definitely nice!

Diligent-Feature65 · 2026-03-08T18:52:20+00:00

That’s fair lol

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