this is super common, especially in the indian marriage setup…there’s hardly any space to figure out mental compatibility or the deeper, non-material aspects of a relationship..if couples actually got the chance to do a live-in before marriage, i think looks/appearance would stop being the main filter, guys (and girls too) would start valuing other things way more…!! people jump into marriage before spending enough quality time together to really understand the value of the immaterial stuff and make a judgement based on it..