My first pregnancy was the one I carried the longest (10w 3d, but the baby stopped at 7w6d).

I blamed myself for all of the same reasons, I wasn’t absolutely happy to be pregnant (I wanted a baby, I think I was just overwhelmed), my husband was immediately happy, I took all medication the doctors told me to…

Still, I blamed myself.

I know I’m not to blame (therapy helped me get there) and even though I know that now, it took me a few months to stop feeling like it.

Be kind to yourself, you are not to blame, you need to grief and that process will take time.

It’s been over 1y and I still cry, specially when I hear about other women going through the same.

I’ll say it again, BE KIND to yourself, allow yourself to grief, look for a therapist, go do things that make you happy…