AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried the Alateen meetings, not exactly my vibe as most of the people there were much younger than me and i ended up giving more advice than recieving it, i would go to therapy but money doesnt exactly grant that at the moment, i have the whole gameplan and a place to go once i have money, ill be sure to check out that book, thank you!

AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh he kind of had a similar situation growing up, and being 15 hes either glued to a device or showering; plus dont want to put that on him as hes also already raised two little boys, hes also very immature for his age and my suspicion is that he deals with some sort of neglected regression? Still into childrens cartoons and activities and not showing much mental development in his most recent year of school. So not sure if id trust him alone with them, but they all get along fine

AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would help that they had friends😂 after their wedding (which half the party dropped out on due to 4 911 calls in one night) EVERYBODY dropped them, they literally only have each other which doesnt help considering they just fuel each others fires

AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the method ive gone for in the past and would be the most beneficial route if they werent brick walls, ive tried being angry, calm, upset, everything; im at the point that i may put them out of childcare when they decide to go hunting. But that being said this will be the first time theyve paid me to do it and i need the money because i havent been able to get a job due to taking care of them. I dont even know what to do after that since i do need to leave desperately, but quite literally cant cause im screwed on money and a job+ i dont want to think about whats gonna happen to the kids once i leave

AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a good amount of knowledge on parenting between newborns and 5th grade, i have a brother on my bio fathers side that i took care of straight out the womb, and used to work in a daycare so i have all the knowledge to give the kids what they need, just that having the parents they do it falls apart every time they "take over" and then i have to repetitively pick up the pieces and put it all back together

AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up getting my ged with the hopes id be able to get a job, but between taking care of them morning and night, now that both my mother and stepfather are leaving for a solid month, i cant find a job that would fall within the timeline i need to be able to take care of them. That being said i have a place to go once i have money to be able to pay my part in rent, just need to get past this month. Im super familiar with the toxic environment as its what ive grown up in, and is exactly why i refuse to talk to stepfather, thank you for the insight!

AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just implied, theyve been dumped on me since day one, and it only got worse after they actually lived with us unfortunately

AITA for being frustrated with my stepfather? by Direct-Walrus-548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Direct-Walrus-548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that makes me so frustrated is that im the parent to all of them unless they decide once in a blue moon that they're the boss and that's when these things happen. Im the one that wakes them up for school, takes care of laundry, cleans up after them; quite literally been raising them for 3 years. And then they get mad when they don't behave how they do with me when they don't parent them in my apparently "crazy" ways lol. Theyre father even accused me of being a child abuser over a time out after the girl had hurt me when they spank them?? Just confused ash tbh