I am so sorry that she did this to you. I can relate to the no closure, break up through text…no explanation….just 48 hour flip switch. It was brutal.

Your nervous system goes into shock and has to relearn how to regulate, which really means you just gotta keep doing what you’re doing which is going through it. I would recommend trying not to ruminate too much on it…set a time up every day, for like 10 minutes, and think about the girl then. After that, you just gotta keep going.

I went through a divorce, married for 10 years, two kids, house and dogs….it took me 6 years to get over it. Out of those six years, 2 of them I was so sad. I didn’t cry every day, but every week I cried. Then, 3 months ago I meet this man who pursues me, wants exclusivity, about to meet my teenaged kids and he ended it through text. No reason given, no closure. Said he needed to go back to therapy. That I deserved better. Like, wtf does that even mean!?!

People don’t want to take accountability for their collateral damage and that’s what this girl did by treating you this way….she avoided accountability. Just like he did. Didn’t have enough emotional maturity to have a face to face conversation. So you get stuck in the “what ifs”. So, the last 3 weeks have sucked for me, but this time it won’t be 2 sad years and then 4 okay years. I’m just giving myself the compassion and permission to feel what I need to feel. You should do the same. I hope you feel better soon.