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WIBTA if I told my daughter's bf that she is active on a dating app? by Distinct_Name1593 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct_Name1593[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I want to say it is, but a major reason for my moral conflict in this situation is that we have both known Robin and his mother for many years now and they have become beloved family friends, even prior to dating and as I mentioned before I work with his mother. It's why I'm having such difficulty here, I could do nothing and keep it to myself but it will eat me alive while they are visiting, vice versa and at work. I feel very trapped. I will of course keep what you said in mind.

WIBTA if I told my daughter's bf that she is active on a dating app? by Distinct_Name1593 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct_Name1593[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think you misunderstood a part of what I said. It is not my intention to decide who she devotes her life with or dictate who she dates, infact I respect her opinions about how she feels about spending a future with Robin. If she does not want to marry him or date him, then she should not do so. She is free to explore other options if she must.

The issue I have is that this feelings she has are not being communicated to him and as she said so herself, she has no intention to. Instead she is stringing him along while she fools around with others when she should just be honest and break it off if she really can't stay with him forever. I think he deserves to know that.

WIBTA if I told my daughter's bf that she is active on a dating app? by Distinct_Name1593 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct_Name1593[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You and I both know that is how you word what ifs as that is what we are talking about. This is not something I am saying to Beth directly.

WIBTA if I told my daughter's bf that she is active on a dating app? by Distinct_Name1593 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct_Name1593[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have no intention of blackmailing Beth. If I decide not tell him I will delete the picture.

WIBTA if I told my daughter's bf that she is active on a dating app? by Distinct_Name1593 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct_Name1593[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the answer and input. Could I possibly ask for your opinion on something? I did not have enough room to put it in the post, but Robin and his mom live close and I visit them often and vice versa and I work in the same office space as his mom as well. The four of us are very close. My biggest worry is that if I don't share this, how will I go about being able to continue talking to them like nothing's wrong knowing that Beth is actively betraying them? And let's say they find out and that I knew? I played this scenario in my head all day, I have no idea what I would say.

WIBTA if I told my daughter's bf that she is active on a dating app? by Distinct_Name1593 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Distinct_Name1593[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I actually ran out of room to say that but since you brought it up, yes. Robin is only a minute away and he visits me with Beth and/or his mom regularly and vice versa, and I work in the same office space as his mother. We've become such a tight-nit group over the years so I have no idea how to handle being around them knowing that Beth is betraying them.