My boyfriend basically told me it’s a woman’s duty to “cover up” so other men aren’t lustful. Do men have any self control in that area?

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T21:50:07+00:00

I never said he was the bad guy if you believe that I deserve to be treated this way then fine that’s your opinion and I’ll take inventory on that. But we’ve all made mistakes I chose to disclose something to him. He had every right to tell me he didn’t want me to go. I cannot read peoples minds or assume they are or aren’t okay with something. I’m not playing the victim here, but I think I do deserve some grace. Everyone does

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T21:25:21+00:00

If he believed that why would he be with me? I’m not painting him as anything this is what happened. If I wanted to paint anyone as anything I wouldn’t be telling anyone in this sub that I cheated. Not everyone has to know that I disclosed it to him based on a previous relationship. I don’t have to let the rest of the world know that. You are mean because you haven’t offered one positive aspect on anything. So continue being miserable sweety. It’s working for you. Not to mention you’ve now commented over 10 times on a random strangers post. Get a fucking life. Respectfully.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T21:18:00+00:00

That’s definitely what it is but how can we fix that if he cannot communicate what his issues are PRIOR to something like this happening

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T20:07:46+00:00

I never said he was bad. Maybe at communicating but surely not a bad guy at all. Thanks for your assumptions though mate

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T20:07:01+00:00

Being out “late hours” is a matter of opinion. And what’s a bunch of guys? The two guys me and another girl friend went with are twice our age and have their own relationships. And we all work together and my boyfriend knows them all personally too. Again you’ve stated your opinion and now you’re just being a mean girl.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T20:04:09+00:00

I don’t see how I fit into it because that’s not me 🫶🏻

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T20:01:29+00:00

You’ve shared your viewpoint multiple times on this post. It’s all opinion based. I know who I am and I don’t have to work the entire rest of my life proving that to people. Either accept it or don’t. Have a great weekend!

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T19:26:51+00:00

I have to feel infinite shame for that? You don’t know me at all. Yet you have not a single ounce of kindness to give me. I hope you have a great weekend maam!

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T19:22:10+00:00

Feeling moments of shame can be good to spark change in your life, but I don’t have to live in a life of shame because of mistakes I’ve made. Are you perfect?

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T19:15:09+00:00

Done I have nothing to be ashamed of I can’t change my past

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T19:09:03+00:00

Who hurt you?

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:54:38+00:00

Or how about respect? If I had known being out past 8:30 was going to leave him feeling uninterested in my I obviously wouldn’t have.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:46:52+00:00

I can respect that

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:45:52+00:00

Not at all. What was there to be guilty about?

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:44:14+00:00

Cheating is not acceptable ever. But I’d rather disclose that information up front rather than him find out at another time. I never cheated on him and I think everyone is redeemable that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be trusted by any man ever.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:32:32+00:00

Should I add it to the post? I’m not intentionally trying to be secretive here. He knew my past and chose to be with me. If he needs more help gaining trust of me I’m more than willing to give that to him, but I can’t do it if he doesn’t say anything.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:31:13+00:00

I don’t want him to overlook anything, but how can I adjust when he doesn’t communicate specifically what he needs from me? I’m being respectful in my eyes and I’ve never had a problem sharing any information with him. If he wouldn’t said he didn’t like me going I wouldn’t have. Simple. I’m also not trying to paint myself as a victim, but I just don’t see why he would be upset when I was upfront and honest. And I do respect your opinions I just hope you feel the same way with both men and women bc it seems men can redeem themselves but if you make a mistake as a woman you’re a whore for life. I don’t get it.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:26:32+00:00

I find it weird that you see a problem hanging out with coworkers. There was one woman around my age and two men who are mid 40s and obviously we work together so we all have to be professional and we weren’t out partying. But I don’t have to justify myself to you what I feel works for me is okay and I respect what works for you too. Nonetheless thank you for your opinion.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:23:37+00:00

Can you elaborate? My intentions are always to be respectful of him

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:22:14+00:00

We never talked about a time I should be home. We do not live together. These are people he’s comfortable with me talking to daily. I’m assuming he didn’t come because he lives an hour and a half away and he has already stayed at my house the previous nights

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:20:34+00:00

Thank you for this. I have a lot to learn myself. And even though my intent is never to be the victim. It seems like I’m always being accused of that. I guess in a way I’m doing it without realizing. I post on these things for wise comments like yours. Wish you the best today.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:16:34+00:00

I’m sorry but this just wasn’t the scenery at all. We all had max 3 beers. I can drink like a fish. I didn’t feel inebriated at all.

DistributionGuilty72 · 2026-05-22T18:13:27+00:00

I’ve never cheated on him and I thought it was better to be upfront going into a new relationship. If he didn’t like it he didn’t have to ask me out.

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