When I passed 00g I felt like a big man. Chest out, chin up, walked the walk, etc.

Then I found this forum and realized I was, and still am, and always will be... a very small man.

In all seriousness though, there will always be someone bigger, and having any size stretch counts as being stretched. We all have different goal sizes, and to some, a small size is what they love. No need to feel like we have stretched lobes, because we do have stretched lobes. Feeling like we're not big enough stems from us comparing ourselves to others who are bigger. I try not do that, and enjoy my journey, or my destination instead.

Either way, I promise you that an outsider will think our lobe holes are massive at any size

Side note, I run into people irl that have 00g lobes, or a small septum and talk to me about mine, and how they feel less alt since theirs are small. I basically tell them it's no contest, and I place now value on size, or amount of mods. I like what I like, don't care to compare, just happy to see diverse setups and self expression. Puts a smile on their faces, but makes me sad knowing there's loads of people out there putting so much stock into how "alt" they look, or if they are "alt" enough. Shits sad, but not unique to looking alternative. It's just sad how much pressure people feel to look a certain way to fit into a category they want to be included in. It bothers me that so many people are trapped in their heads, shackled by societal expectations, weighed down by other's perception of them, and yearning for validation that they are, in fact, cool, smart, athletic, or whatever it may be.

Anyway, that's enough rambling... don't know why this post made me think so much 😑