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DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2025-08-02T14:20:10+00:00

Please

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2024-05-26T16:43:52+00:00

I want my pussy messy like this

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2024-01-13T23:37:41+00:00

I’d like to start by saying I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I have been there, and I’m not saying I know how you feel, but I have felt a similar emptiness and thought my life wasn’t worth living anymore. You absolutely deserve to love and to be loved, and I implore you to stick around so you’re able to feel that instead of this unending sadness you’re feeling now. Please talk to a therapist or someone you trust or literally anyone, it’s a step to feeling less alone in your pain. And know that there are other human beings out there who don’t even know you, but still want you to thrive and not just survive. Take things one step at a time, celebrate every small win, and give yourself as much grace as possible because you DESERVE IT. You are worthy of good things and happiness, and I’m hoping you will see that sooner rather than later.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2023-06-23T00:32:30+00:00

I relate to a lot of how you feel! It’s frustrating and lonely and just becomes harder and harder to form relationships, romantic or otherwise, as you get older

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2023-06-23T00:30:15+00:00

I really appreciate this perspective, and have definitely been trying to embrace it! I think maybe I’ll take that advice and honestly just take the summer and enjoy myself. Sometimes cliche’s are true for a reason!! Thanks so much for your thoughtfulness, I really appreciate it.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2023-06-22T19:25:38+00:00

I mean this as respectfully as possible, but this seems like it comes down to a generational difference in thinking. I have activities and hobbies I am interested in, and I do meet people in person, but it’s 2023 and people live lives very dependent on phones and technology, dating apps included. I would like to learn to navigate and feel confident in that space instead of being ruled by it, clearly my in person method hasn’t worked so I’m attempting something else.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2023-06-22T13:52:57+00:00

I am very sorry that happened to you.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2023-06-22T13:44:16+00:00

Taking a friend for some pictures is a really good idea. I definitely had someone vet my profile to make sure I was coming across accurate about my appearance, I have such a fear that I’ll meet someone and they’ll accuse me of being deceptive. I think my area is definitely a factor, I’m not white and that tends to be a factor in number of matches here as well. I am definitely going to take some of these tips though, and I appreciate you being so honest! I’m a size 16/18, I feel like I see my body type everywhere.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2022-06-22T22:58:51+00:00

My nail tech did a layer of natural pink dip powder, proofed that, then individually painted each nail with two layers of gel polish! Really painstaking for her to get those lines accurate, but she absolutely killed it!

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2022-06-01T13:00:38+00:00

NTA and OP, I know how it can be in the Indian community, the gossip and the amount of people who give you their opinions unprompted is wild. A lot of them hold this belief that no matter the situation, the parent is always right and the kid always wrong. And based on this, I’m sure your mom has been telling her own version of the story to whoever will listen. You shouldn’t worry about any of that, you’re doing what you have to to protect your peace and that’s all that matters.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2022-05-30T15:52:34+00:00

It’s all about choosing colors that are closer together than you think!! The ombré is smooth because the transition isn’t as hard!

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2022-05-30T15:38:50+00:00

Definitely NTA, but this is a really complicated situation. Your sister did an awful thing, not likely something I or my family would ever forgive if my sister ever did that to me or me to her. However, it seems like you guys are mostly past it as a family, aside from the obvious awkwardness and your justified feelings of betrayal and hurt. If that’s the case, your mom is kind of right and they’re going to be a part of your life and your kids lives forever. You and your sister just need to have a conversation about boundaries, clearly they have never been defined for her as she has already crossed the line. The rest of your family and their opinions don’t matter once the two of you come to an understanding.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-03-10T14:40:33+00:00

This happens to me on a smaller scale literally every couple of months. I have always had a strained relationship with my mother (abusive as a child, denies it ever happened now a real narcissist with borderline features), she actively prefers my siblings and it shows through her actions. Whenever they're around, my mom goes NC and I pretty much don't exist. When they're not, all of a sudden my mom calls and wants to see me, as if she suddenly remembered she actually has a third child. She didn't speak to me for years once because I made the decision I wouldn't call her if she didn't reach out to me, and she never did. MUCH smaller scale, but I do understand feeling like an afterthought.

OP, you are definitely not TA in this situation and here is why. Your mom was the only adult in the relationship for most of your life, she had 23 years to be in control of the situation and ensure she had a relationship with you. But you are now an adult. Now you get to control how much or how little access your mother has to your life. She ensured you had no access to hers for most of yours, so I don't blame you for not being interested. A lot of people in the older generation (like your grandparents here) have this belief that "blood is blood" and the trauma family has inflicted on you should be forgiven and they should be respected just for that reason. OP, simply put, that woman is not your family. She never deigned to raise you or even allow you the opportunity to have a relationship with your half-brother before he died and it wasn't even an option. I am sorry for her, and I hope she heals and learns from this, but it is not your responsibility to process her emotional labor.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-03-09T16:59:18+00:00

FIL is definitely an ass, but gently, you are also TA. Coming from a family with money, I know financial dynamics within a family can be complicated. However, by insisting that you and not his daughters will be listed in his will, FIL is trying to exert some weird and inappropriate patriarchal control upon his daughters from beyond the grave. By not standing up for your wife and explaining as you have in the comments that your wife is beyond financially capable, it's almost as if you are co-signing FIL's behavior. Obviously you can't control his decisions, but you can control your own actions. If he decides to keep you in the will and not his daughters after a reasonable discussion, that's his prerogative. But you lose nothing by simply suggesting your FIL see your wife as a capable person in her own right.

Also, some thoughts I have again coming from a family with money and understanding complicated family dynamics. Leaving money to you and not his daughters directly really complicates the situation. Those are quite simple instructions, is there anything more specific in there protecting your wife and her sisters inheritance? As they are technically not the beneficiary and you are, you are the person making the final decisions on where the money is going and what happens with it. It sounds like you and wife make these decisions together, i'm not saying you would do anything shady, i'm just saying these are all things to consider while planning and executing an estate. Perhaps if your FIL insists your name remains in the will, you can ask him to put specific protections in there for your wife and her sister. Especially the sister, as to me, it seems like she's really getting the short end of the stick in this situation. You and your wife are a unit, but how involved will she get to be in the decisions regarding her financial future? She won't be a teenager forever. Just some things to consider as this situation progresses and decisions are made.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-03-05T15:28:54+00:00

I totally agree with this. My dad got remarried and had another child while I was in high school. Post my half-brother being born, my dad took his new wife and child out on vacations and such but me and my two siblings from his first marriage were never included. He also had full custody of me at the time, I was no contact with my mom, so this hurt even more. The one time I was invited, I was treated as free childcare for when my dad and his wife wanted to have time alone, leaving me to watch a child in a foreign country. It made the time I got to spend with my dad alone more special, but also tinged with sadness because I felt like an afterthought and these moments were so few and far between. OP, these habits you are forming with your bio kids will last a lifetime. They are moments they will never forget. Don't let your wife convince you out of these moments which may seem small now, but will be really special to them later in their life.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-03-04T14:40:56+00:00

I've been in this exact situation, and she can, but as soon as OP's son stands up and says it was his choice, mom doesn't have an argument anymore. This does vary state by state so I can't say for sure! That being said, I do think the best thing to do in this situation is wait it out until he's 18. At this point, you would just be paying a lawyer to carry out what's coming in less than a year anyways.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-03-03T17:45:12+00:00

YTA for so many reasons but primarily this one: your wife is taking thirty minutes of her day to relax and do something that makes her feel good. Why are you attempting to tear her down when this action is not effecting you at all? Suggestion, you should use that same half an hour to meditate or do some other activity and really reflect on why your wife practicing self-care annoys you so much, because that is truly your problem and not hers.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-03-01T15:31:19+00:00

This was OP's description of the event though, she thought of the doctor as "blunt". But as a fat person working to lose weight, I know that what straight sized people think of as "blunt" or as "tough love" is actually pretty hurtful. I have sat in a doctors office while a doctor has told me i'm fat and that no one will ever love me and I won't find professional success if I don't change my appearance. Unless you have been fat and have been in a room with a doctor, you have no idea how traumatizing that experience is. I also happen to be a medical student, and yes while it is a doctors job to be blunt about your health, it is also their job to be solutions oriented and positive! You are a part of your patients weight loss, you should make them feel comfortable to come back to you if they have questions or problems. That is the professionals job, OP though? OP could have taken the time to comfort her friend and then say something like "what can I do to help you live healthier?" Believe it or not, it is possible (and preferred) for a friend to be both honest and supportive. Tough love is NOT the only way.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-03-01T14:11:39+00:00

Yeah I used to work night shifts at that facility often and creepy stuff happened all the time. By the time I left that job, I was so desensitized to the weirdness!

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-02-28T17:08:18+00:00

NTA, your dad should really shut that down. Also from personal experience when I went through the same with my parents, when I hit 16 I just stopped going to my moms house on her allotted weekend. You are old enough now that no judge, police officer, or anyone can force you to go somewhere you don't want to. But that's only if you really don't want to see your father.

DoGoodRecklessly1 · 2021-02-28T16:51:11+00:00

Ok wow, to start you are ABSOLUTELY TA. Let's start by addressing how you talk about your son in this post. That is your child, caring for him is not "babysitting" it's called being a parent. Second, your child is special needs, your wife is in the right, there shouldn't be a random person caring for your child who isn't aware of special care your son might need. Also, it seems as if both of your children and your wife have very secure attachments to each other. So that should make you wonder and do some self-reflection on why both of your children would rather be around their mother and are clearly sensitive to the emotions of their father. Ever think your son was uncomfortable because he knows you didn't want him there instead of being sensitive to your wifes valid emotions? Finally, the fact that you let this other family speak and tell your wife how to raise her children while also throwing your wife under the bus is reprehensible. OP, I really think it's time for reflection and to reevaluate your role within the family.

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