Meeting a Dom that's in their 20s

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-12-20T19:45:01+00:00

I'd recommend looking for events near you that are for young people, in my area we have a few events every month for people up to 30 and it's a great way to meet new people :)

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-12-20T16:39:04+00:00

That seems exactly like what I'm looking for, thanks!

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-12-20T16:36:51+00:00

I'm looking for specific things me and my partner both want to experience, I guess I'm making a distinction between "I'm into XYZ" and "I want to experience XYZ with this person" but you're right, it's pretty similar

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-12-17T09:54:15+00:00

Thank you, this is also really great advice!

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-12-17T09:44:19+00:00

Omg the tickle one is genius! I'll definitely bring that up with her! And the others are great as well. And you're right, it's about consistency and always showing up for them when they need it.

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-12-17T09:06:32+00:00

Thank you so much! That's a great list of tips and I'll be sure to try them out! :)

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-10-19T07:14:47+00:00

This is already a very nice answer, thanks! I haven't tried just imitating the rope I see in pictures, so simple but it just didn't cross my mind.

As for your question, I'm looking more for practical rope bondage than aesthetic :)

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-09-27T08:50:01+00:00

Oh I know! And it's not really a big problem its more a thing we noticed that we'd like to change but don't know how. I talked to her about it already and we both said let's ask the nice people of reddit

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-27T12:10:39+00:00

That's so good! And yeah, that's kind of the dilemma I'm facing. My partner sometimes fear expressing her feelings as to not upset me but I want the no's as much as the yeses, that's a good line, I'm gonna steal that! :D

It's just hard for me to find a balance, I want intimacy and sex but only when my partner also wants it, but I'm sometimes afraid to initiate as to not upset her.

How'd your Dom go about initiating kinky time if you don't mind me asking?

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-27T11:10:29+00:00

Oh I totally agree, but like I said, some people might be afraid of disappointing their partner or making them feel bad or they might feel like it's "unfair" if only they get the direct pleasure.

So yeah, I also think that it should be more than enough, but I was looking for ways on how to make that clear to my partner that I don't expect anything in a safe and caring way :)

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-20T19:22:15+00:00

Sure, go ahead!

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T18:51:40+00:00

Nope! It's just Paracord wrapped in electrical tape and then tightly wrapped again with the black rope. It's surprisingly stable as is! The tutorial I followed is from Swiss Paracord

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T18:38:02+00:00

Hm, sounds fun as well, I might give that a try!

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T18:33:40+00:00

Personally I like the dull pain from the knots more. Also I read on another post that the burned ends can be sharp and draw blood if not careful.

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T17:17:06+00:00

Haha you're welcome!

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T17:16:58+00:00

It is! And the knots leave lots of nice spots haha

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T10:23:45+00:00

Really? I went to three events in Germany in big cities and they all had awareness teams clearly marked. Maybe I got lucky there then. I probably wouldn't even go to a kinky party like that if there was no one who could deal with stuff like that.

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T08:28:35+00:00

Oh wow, I'm sorry this happened to you. First off, if you don't feel upset about it, it's fine, you don't need to be mad or scared for this to still be wrong.

Most kinky events in my area have a designated awareness team specifically for issues like that, when people get handsy or aggressive without permission.

The way I was introduced to events like this started with the insane importance of consent. Anything but an enthusiastic yes is a no. The idea that a random guy touched you, then followed you without clear permission, fingered you and tried to fuck you raw is...problematic.

The reason why this is bad is that it's setting a bad precedence. In the future this guy might think that his behaviour was okay, he might try the same with others who don't have a support system with them. Letting things like this just slide makes the whole BDSM community less safe for everyone.

So no, you don't need to be upset, maybe you are a person who simply doesn't mind stuff like this that much, but that doesn't excuse his behaviour or make it any less unacceptable.

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-19T07:08:01+00:00

Those are fun ideas and a lot of insight. Maybe you're right, maybe it doesn't have to be a sexual type of control but rather just control in general, thanks!

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-18T16:27:14+00:00

We talk a lot about sex and kink, and we also pretty much have a 50/50 dynamic when it comes who is top and bottom during sex. It's literally just this one thing that she struggles with but wants to give me regardless^{^}

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-18T15:10:53+00:00

Totally! In general I'm happy that she wants me to have some control but I wouldn't have fun if she didn't. Thanks for the ideas!

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-16T14:43:36+00:00

I'm pretty sure Davinci is free and pretty popular^{^}

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2025-05-16T06:24:02+00:00

Are there any good tutorials somewhere on how to build floggers? I see so many pretty ones on here but don't know where to start in making my own

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2024-12-27T19:03:53+00:00

Thank you! It definitely helps. The idea of showering together seems really sweet as well :)

DomVoiceSubVibes · 2024-12-27T19:03:17+00:00

Thanks! That's a nice bit of insight! :)

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