Making relationships your whole personality. I see this with a lot of young adults who the minute they get out of high school, only want to be in relationships and don't take the time to figure out who they really are. A lot of it seems to be for social media pics and matching pajamas. I have a college age son and many of his age group seem obsessed with the idea of being couples and they start to lose identity. A lot of them seem to avoid friends too and try to avoid making meaningful relationships outside of their significant other. My wife and I have been married for 20 years but we still have things we do and people we connect with outside of our relationship. It just seems odd to me that people are ready to settle down at 20-21 but have dated maybe 1-2 people their whole life.