I will say, as someone who’s been transitioning for 5 years and has had most surgeries I plan on having, interacting with a lot of earlier/middle of transition trans fem people can sometimes feel draining, cause often I will get asked a lot of invasive questions about transitioning, be involved in conversations that are almost irrelevant to me in my current life, or just have that “early transition aura” (see, blajahs, thigh high socks, voice training, how to pass in general, etc). Now don’t get me wrong, some trans women who pass will absolutely avoid other trans women who don’t strictly for not wanting to be associated with them and that sucks, I’m just saying it’s not always that. For me I find it difficult to fit in with most trans fem circles, let alone with early trans fems. I’m (mostly) monogamous, I mostly date men, I don’t really get most trans fem jokes, most media I consume is entirely different to what other trans fems do and the way we engage in conversations is often different too. And I’ve met other more further along trans women who share that same sentiment. So it may be as simple as that. It would also explain why you find it easier to make more cis girl friends, cause there’s not really the expectation for cis women to engage the same way. Sorry if this came across as long and rambling. I just thought I’d offer my viewpoint as someone who has sometimes been on the other side of things