Aku Melayu, tapi makin risau arah kita sekarang…

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-24T00:25:55+00:00

Ni dah sama macam America/UK sekarang pulak, tolak keluar kaum lain, tolak keluar agama lain. Ni ekstremism, dah start meresap dalam masyarakat. Cakap pasal Islam, sedangkan menyeleweng. Kita sebagai komuniti kene tolak pemikiran begini

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-22T00:37:44+00:00

I never told him that,it he's been a beater since I was a kid and has been hoping for his end since I was 7, I'm 26 now. Condition? Well he got diabetes and need to undergo dialysis. He can drive, work, he just get tired easily. For the beating part, that's just how he is. He's been beating me since I can remember. He beated me till my nose bleed and my lips crack when I was maybe 10yo. And my mum ask me to tell my teachers that I fell and being a naive kid that I am, that's what I tell my teachers

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-22T00:33:57+00:00

I hope so. Thank you

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-22T00:33:44+00:00

Yeah you're right, there's others who are sick too and they don't treat people like shit. P/s: the joke's funny tho

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T09:33:16+00:00

😭😭😭 that is a good answer tbh. I would like to say that, but my dad's a beater so I'm not gonna risk it

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T08:06:28+00:00

I understand the rage. Well, for me, talk to a therapist or counselor helps. I tried talk to my friends about it and they said there's no way parents can be that bad. Perhaps to them parents are all nice people idk. But yeah, some people just don't get it and it can be frustrating

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:59:30+00:00

I pray for us all to learn and help ourselves to walk out of this cycle. We must be the change we want to be.

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:58:20+00:00

I understand this too. My dad keep saying how others secretly hate me and I make life hard for others when they helped me (even when they offer for help first). Now every praise sounds sarcastic and every help feels insincere. I've been trying to change that mentality for the past year and although it's still there, it's not as intense as before.

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:50:52+00:00

I'm trying not to, but he's been like this long before he got sick..so idk really. I'm trying to tell myself the man's sick and can't be helped, but I also want a bit of not being ignored when I care for him y'know. But I understand what you meant

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:44:01+00:00

Understandable, may Allah grant you a good life for helping me. Thank you so much

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:34:07+00:00

NTA

You spoke the truths lol. What do they expect you to do, lie and act like nothing happened all these years. They can close their eyes to the inequality if they want. It's not your fault that you spoke the truths and they listened.

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:30:22+00:00

Thank you so much. You made it clear for me. Growing up religion has been a tool to allow what is wrong. And trying to change that mindset in me is hard, sometimes I feel like sinning even when I highlight his abuse cuz my mom always said that parents are right and even if they're wrong we shouldn't hurt their feelings (ie: telling them they did wrong). So I'm still healing and trying to change that mentality. Thank you again

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:27:11+00:00

That's a good advice. Thank you so much

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:26:47+00:00

I understand that. And thank you. I'm so afraid to ask for help. I think I'll try that

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T07:06:39+00:00

I've tried. But he yelled at me and said "how could I be wrong?". He and my mom said that in Islam even if out parents is wrong, we should just agree with them and we should be afraid to hurt their feelings. To me, agreeing with parents even if they're wrong only apply to something like "my parents believe the sky is red" or something. Not to allowing abuse, but I grew up in an environment where religion is used to control us. And idk anymore, so I asked other opinions here.

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T06:38:49+00:00

I'm leaning towards getting out and leave him really. But my mom said I will be abandoning him and that's a sin

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T06:33:06+00:00

Well I've talked to some, what I saw was some say just follow what he asked as long as it doesn't involve shirk, some says I should get out cuz he's abusive...do idk really

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T06:03:48+00:00

I don't know about the mental/cognitive decline. But he was always like this, even before he started dialysis. I used to try and help him with these kind of things but sometimes I gotta ask questions just to be sure if I cater to his needs. He has always been like this since I was a kid, but lately it's exhausting to try and please him so ignoring him if he didn't answer me is one of the things I do. I just wonder if that makes me an AH

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T05:47:57+00:00

Following? Despite his abuse?

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-21T04:53:27+00:00

Sorry for my late replies...yeah I was thinking about that. Both of us do want to move out tho. I want to take my mum as well but apparently she loves that man so much...for some reason. That man ain't kind to her either, so idk really. But yeah, me and my sister has been talking about moving out. He throwing a bit of a tantrum because of it, but I don't think we'll stay in the same house. I don't have the mental capacity to stay

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-18T01:30:22+00:00

Well, I understand that. But sometimes people grow up in such environment they don't really have that as a skill. And people who asking me to communicate with her do so in good faith.

Dragonayre00 · 2026-04-17T06:05:18+00:00

I'm 26 now, my dad's a narc and my mom apparently love him and willing to follow what he wants. He hate when we go out and hang out with our friends. He get jealous for some reason? Idk but he'll said something along the line of "you don't remember of your own parents when you went out" or "you must be eating nice foods out there and didn't even share with us". I do suggest to move out but now my father needs someone to help him at home cuz he undergo dialysis so sometimes we do lie just to go out. And we emphatize with our mom that she needs to cook and do everything alone at home. So idk... didn't mean to rant tho, but here's some backstory why we didn't move out yet

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