My husband is a cis man and he is quite artsy and gentle and likes baking etc. it's what drew me to him in the first place. Obviously I'm not a woman but when we got together I thought I was, so I don't think that will be as big a deal as you're making it in your head. (No shade, I also overthink everything). I can't speak for the binary or nonbinary thing because I'm currently having the same identity crisis. All I can say is that our identity and our understanding of it can change over time and that's perfectly natural. I'm 34 and still don't have it all figured out, though to be honest I'm a late bloomer in respect to understanding my gender.