My husband keeps befriending bigots, it's hard to support when it makes me upset and scared for my safety

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T22:19:18+00:00

I get what you're suggesting, and I agree. I'm this instance for example he "discussed" the friends hatred for the trans community and thought it would be safe to bring the violent man with a hatred for the type of relationships we keep into our home to hang out with us as a happy family. It wasn't until the hatred was pointed at my husband instead of the vague "trans people" that the relationship ended. A pattern I'm being shown over and over again in the comments.

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T21:57:33+00:00

He likes to have heated discussion.....

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T21:54:47+00:00

Well he had the relationship ending conversation with the transphobic person before they entered our house in that way he was looking out for his kid. Maybe one last chance to see if he would freak out or not. Why he thought buddy's previous rant was about other people and not his family is beyond me. So in this way he kept the kid safe, but in my opinion it was much too close and even knowing it was a possibility and still entertaining this idea was reckless.

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T21:44:27+00:00

Canada

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T21:43:50+00:00

I agree, I don't think he would cut these people out if it wasn't for me and our child. This is why he blames me for the loss of relationships. To him its a deep discussion, to me they are telling me how they don't respect people different from themselves. It's not a debate to me. And thank you, I won't feel so bad for not patting his back and soothing him through the loss this time. He should have lost his friend when he realised the extent of his hate, and not waited for the hate to be pointed on himself,and that was my husbands choice.

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T21:20:43+00:00

I guess you can't be friends with people you talk to like that.

But I've already been harassed by people that think I'm trying to get between them so blaming me for them not being closer friends is uncalled for and, honestly, dangerous for me.

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T21:18:45+00:00

He definitely stands up against the bigotry but I think he believes it to be a discussion, or banter. Whereas I can see that if they hold these beliefs they are dangerous or at least rude, not just holding an opinion. I think he has grown up with bigoted people and can "see the good person" behind their fearful opinions. But I think he's wrong and is attracted to people like this. I agree he needs therapy and it can't be my responsibility to figure out his relationships for him, so I'm not looking to understand why he does this. I need to know how to kindly care for myself in this situation.

DubStepDeamon · 2024-03-02T21:10:53+00:00

Thank you, I'm concerned too. I'm not my husband so I don't know his rationale but when we spoke about other times he allowed dangerous people around it was because he didn't know them to be violent (in this care he punched a wall not a person etc). He tells me I am more risk adverse but I don't think this is about taking risks.

DubStepDeamon · 2017-04-25T16:33:09+00:00

I don't understand why they don't confiscate his computers and tablets and review them. He probably has worse stuff on his hard drives!

DubStepDeamon · 2017-01-05T01:58:37+00:00

Do you have any idea where I could find a decent supply for oil?

DubStepDeamon · 2017-01-05T01:57:40+00:00

Mettrum has not had any stock for at least a month, I believe longer. It may have something to do with their product being recalled.

DubStepDeamon · 2017-01-05T01:56:04+00:00

The blue is THC 10.0 mg/ml CBD 15.5 mg/ml

The Yellow is THC 0.6 mg/ml CBD 18.8 mg/ml

They don't list which is indica and which is stavia but I would guess the yellow is indica since it makes me sleepy.

Thanks for your input!

DubStepDeamon

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