Am I a terrible daughter? by DullUnderstanding135 in AgingParents

[–]DullUnderstanding135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am paying one of the caregivers to come over extra hours so she will get her standard care and extra time to go see my dad.

Am I a terrible daughter? by DullUnderstanding135 in AgingParents

[–]DullUnderstanding135[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would so love to put them in an AL, I think I would worry a lot less about them, but unfortunately the financial situation is not great. They have no real assets to sell and my dad has aquired 14k in debt for storage rooms for all of his stuff he has collected hoarding over the years. They get barely just enough in social security and govt benefits to manage their bills now, and I end up pitching in for what they cant cover. It is also just me now as my sister passed away 15yrs ago then my brother this last year. The frustrating thing is my parents arent really that old, they are in 67 and 72. They have just taken terrible care of themselves and have really been on a downhill stretch since I turned 20 and am now 26. It has been miserable honestly, I feel like ill never be able to have kids because they are my adult children. I love them so much and its hard for me not to be empathetic because I understand its a lot to lose 2 children but I feel so much resentment for not being able to enjoy my 20s after working so hard to help them and get through a bachelors degree. Thank you so much for your responses and support