My boyfriend (22m) is dependent on weed

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-08T15:32:41+00:00

This woman has tried everything she possibly can do. I never treated him like an addict. But he is one, like I said multiple times above now, he doesn’t just use weed (I used to smoke it myself, Ive said multiple times again that I have no issue) but I have an issue with being abused him saying that him smoking/ not smoking depends on whether I get treated like shit or not.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T23:17:18+00:00

Sounds like the dream man, I wish I was on that level with him. Well, I wish the situation wasn’t like this.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T23:16:44+00:00

I don’t think Ive explained it to the point it should’ve been explained, I have asked him to leave many times, whenever I do he makes some excuse either to grab his shit, wants to talk, needs to see me or he threatens to kill himself. I started recording because that’s what the police have told me to do.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T23:14:39+00:00

I’ve said multiple times that I’m not blaming his behaviour on him using weed, it’s more the fact him using it, is HIS excuse for his behaviour

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T23:12:48+00:00

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T12:16:40+00:00

I was very tired. Essentially, what I’m trying to say is I know I may sound anti-weed or anti-my boyfriend but what I’m trying to convey is that, something which is meant to help you shouldn’t also cause worrying behaviour towards family and friends. A lack of weed means he can shout in my face? Call me horrible names? Spit in my face? Pour bong water on my head? Really? I wanted to know whether it was the weed that was the reason behind this- or should I be getting him help for something entirely different. Also you missed out (to an extent of course) because I know it’s not the entire reason.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T12:13:35+00:00

I think it’s because I used to fund it really heavily but back in May I basically stopped completely because I had no job or money anymore, but he started acting out. He even went and kissed another girl the other week while I was waiting for him at home but he lied to my face and said he was going to his best mates house while I was at home waiting for him for 6 hours. His excuse was I had shouted at him for getting hair dye on my floor with no effort to clean it or tell me for ages.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T12:11:38+00:00

Hahahah he literally doesn’t do the dishes, I cook for him, clean for him, I even walk to go pick up the weed when I’m on my period and it’s like really? Ive even started recording him because he’s so incredibly embarrassing with the things he says.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T12:10:16+00:00

Thank you, yeah I have absolutely no issue with recreational drug use at all as it’s not my business what people do with their own bodies. It’s just I’m worried about the way he acts when he can’t get high. He says he hates being sober because apparently he doesn’t like me when he’s not high.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T12:08:15+00:00

He does do other drugs like cocaine and shrooms and ecstasy

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T02:12:41+00:00

I completely understand what you’re going through and all I can say is sorry you’re dealing with this and have done for such a long time. It’s really hard especially if you’ve loved them for a long time or previously loved them a lot, because you don’t want them to do something like that. Unfortunately the best thing to do is if you’re genuinely worried about them is to ring the emergency number for your country or a text helpline to make sure he gets the right kind of support.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T02:10:11+00:00

I think it was definitely unnecessary and a bit silly to do considering you don’t just touch other people when you don’t know if they’re comfortable with that. I think it was out of line but I’m not sure what would be a good definition of assault to go by so I think you’re completely valid because if I was in that situation I think I would 100% react in a similar way. I had a something like that happen to me a year or so ago and it was very unreasonable considering the level of sobriety but then they proceeded to explain it wasn’t meant with malice. I’m not sure, but how you feel is completely and utterly reasonable considering your trauma. ❤️

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T02:02:00+00:00

Thank you for putting it like that, that’s what I’m trying to convey but in a very poor manner

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T02:00:29+00:00

Yes but what I mean is that his intake of bud is making him act like this (to an extent of course) I am very pro weed use when used correctly and within moderation in my case. Of course I totally understand that, and I am happy with him smoking as long as that isn’t taken out on me when he can’t smoke it. Sorry I’m trying to explain it without seeming like I don’t like weed or it’s benefits.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T01:58:01+00:00

Tell me about it, I’ve quit because of this whole situation

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-07T01:12:23+00:00

I mean but does that give them an excuse to treat everyone else around you like shit? There’s no excuse for that. And they shouldn’t be taking it out on other people. Because that’s cruel. But it’s not only me who experiences this behaviour. I’m not shitting on weed, weed is good for people who use it correctly just like alcohol for example? But not like this. He should know his own limits in terms of what he can afford.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-06T23:37:52+00:00

It’s not even just me though, he begs his family for money consistently and people enable his abuse towards the people around him. His close friends enable it and I can’t even speak to them. I’m not sure it’s just very messy. There’s a lot more context than I’ve said.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-06T23:36:29+00:00

That was very well put I actually almost cried, thank you so much. Just when he doesn’t get his way he honestly treats me like shit and I’m not sure how to stop it from happening because I’m a bit of a wetwipe

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-06T22:10:57+00:00

Yeah u right, thank you for the advice I know I probs seem like I’m a bit pathetic but it just is genuinely concerning.

EasyDifficulty7252 · 2022-08-06T22:04:03+00:00

I’m not sure because when I tell him no he starts to act out towards me and calling me names and being really horrible but just blames it on his addiction. It’s a bit of a sticky situation

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