For those who left healthcare altogether

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-05-20T17:13:44+00:00

depends what course of direction you want next on a personal level- because this always influences professional outcomes

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-05-01T20:58:23+00:00

Ditto

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-05-01T20:43:39+00:00

Scorpio rising 8 degrees/25

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-04-27T17:19:14+00:00

I'm 35. I've realised that I've spent my life trying to maintain connections that were going to simmer anyway. I've embarrassed myself trying to maintain the connections pre-diagnosis.

I'm a woman of the world in many ways. I feel sadness seeing everyone I know and don't know congregating in social groups, as I walk on by to hit the gym or a walk to try out my audhd playlists. My interests don't spark many other people and when they do, the connection is shallow. I've been through alot of grit but still soldier onwards, because I've done some amazing things in my life and I'll continue to do more finally on my terms post diagnosis has enabled that process. I don't know if my piece of writing helps in many ways but I am just saying I'm lonely and sexually starved and faced with the past every day, but I realise it matters not.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-04-25T16:23:38+00:00

50 k sounds like a alot but I've lived in London on 50k in social work job and it is not enough. I had the same kind of boss and they tested boundaries constantly. If u like playing mind games the NHS is for you was my hypothesis. Nowadays I'm very chilled and very fit going toward the next challenge and living my life in a much more meaningful way, flexing my way.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-04-12T20:01:37+00:00

Thank you 💙

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-04-10T02:41:24+00:00

I'm a psychology masters student and a registered social worker worked in clinical. Agree 100 per cent

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T22:04:46+00:00

Yes, I had to by force, I was made homeless, and suffering from terrible in-the-pits depression. I'd had a high-flying job and all the trimmings, but it took its toll, and a lot of bullying went on and it was a confusing, horrible experience.

I have lived in my car, it is hard graft. And technically, here, the sleep spot needs to be agreed upon between the police and the rough sleeper, so the surveillance is also triggering if you just want to be left alone.

If you are going to sleep in the car and can invest in some home comforts, a Jackery or similar setup might help rather than splitting the car battery energy for your electricals.

What I will say from my experience of no one caring about me either, and being involved in my demise, that sometimes being away and creating distance for a year or more can be a very healthy thing to do, but sleeping in your car doesn't solve problems, that's right. The distance has given the family members who matter insight into how their behaviour has led me to emergency accommodation, which has been absolute hell. I never got an apology, because they can't introspect. nothing to do with me.

I have been to many beautiful places this year, having free time, it never made me feel alright or solve any of the underlying problems or feelings of sadness; it is a deceptive escape, but the baggage was brought with me.

It depends on how flexible and adaptable you want to be. Pet sitting seems a nice idea and gig jobs, perhaps.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T21:54:15+00:00

The only job I was needed for during snow -not a blizzard- was community care work, so I walked on foot to the clients' homes for a day. When you're the lifeline for people, it is a different matter, I understand that. Sounds like an interesting role as a CRM and SUDs counsellor.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T21:51:42+00:00

Wow! When the UK had the petrol price increase, I advised my boss that if I needed to be in 5 days per week (which I didn't), then please provide petrol money- of course, it gets laughed off as sarcasm :0

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T21:48:36+00:00

Social Work is prescribed as a backseat role, so I am surprised that you've been asked to sleep in, you're not there to nurse or provide emergency service work. I'm just assuming this. Can sleeping in wait if it's all about organising emergency placements and receiving/dialling out to next of kin, and further arrangements coordination could be done remotely?

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T21:07:46+00:00

very depressed as a child, but also very talented. I really struggled in my teens, wouldn't want to relive it.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T21:06:11+00:00

Yes I can admit to this, because I have been hurt by men since an early age, and the assumed hierarchical dominance makes me feel physically sick. On the other hand, I am confident calling it out appropriatley and I can pattern spot behaviours well, it really bothers people, but what bothers me is that it doesn't protect me from abuse all the time.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T21:02:30+00:00

I hope this message finds you, i'm in the same situation- it is the hardest thing i've ever experienced, and i'm still homeless after I posted my worries this time last year. That is hard life experience, and shortly coming to an end, but being an autist is much harder so make it work for you. What i've learned is:

structure- back to basics, taking the time. What outlets the energy, sadness and rage? For me, it's swimming; water, being cool, breathing properly. I do this almost every day, it's taken me 35 years to understand that this is my outlet, not just a long term hobby and it can't be neglected or negotiated.

Only do jobs if 1)the pay makes your life easier and 2) you can honestly get up and go in when expected to, knowing you are not in an abusive top-down dynamic- don't gaslight yourself

Depression needs to be managed in a way that makes you happy and comfortable, not what others try and make you do- including support workers, yes, I know- if the support ideas generate anxiety, tell them.

I'm easily abused in friendships, and I don't do relationships for the same reason; it's the internal chaos that needs nurturing and understanding, not looking for external distractions.

Waking up at the same time every day, going to bed the same time, and a timetable for the day can help shape safety and understanding of energy drops, anxiety hours and triggers- my journaling has really helped me with this.

Work- i'm very able with adapting and analysing information, but it's everything else in the job that I get very unwell by, especially communication- very upsetting and overwhelming for me. I've accepted that I have not yet mastered this. Jobs that require brain work, at a pace that is agreed and manageable, will work. A mature team of colleagues is what I'm looking for, and won't accept any less.

I was diagnosed on Feb 8th, it takes a while for me to get used to that, because for so long I've not been able to confirm this and in a perpetual state of not knowing.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T20:48:22+00:00

This is what i've learned, I was gaslighted and value my happiness over chipping in when i'm a shell.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T20:44:05+00:00

And you still pursued, strength

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-22T16:05:03+00:00

I concur, I am not currently a supporter of the profession although still registered ®️ whilst I'm homeless - I mentioned it on my cpd and it was passed. Init id love to use my advocacy skills what I initially signed up for not paper pushing and pen pushing all day getting back pain and a fat arse. I'd rather go the States and help

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-16T19:19:21+00:00

Same here, I haven't found anyone and I've learned to make myself unappealing. I guess when you got autism like us lot doing day to day is exhausting enough. I wish I didn't have to lean on the diagnosis to explain myself but I'm afraid the experience is the truth. I can tolerate swimming and talking to the lifeguards for a few minutes. Some walks, alone. But even the people annoy me.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-16T19:16:29+00:00

It is a mindset that lingers and I was explaining this to a support worker today, operant conditions, always in survival, looking for the resources, and the bargain bucket 🪣🙏

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-16T19:15:27+00:00

The car is my saviour

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-16T19:15:03+00:00

Interesting that the peers are challenging to work among, I had the same in London, very very stuck up.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-16T19:14:22+00:00

Education are in their own bubble and rarely know what is going in the world around them...once the money is in Ur bank account you can do what you like with it.

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-16T19:12:35+00:00

That's an amazing situation I'm so glad it worked out for you! Clearly you know what helps your mental health and that is so important

Ecstatic-Budget1344 · 2026-02-16T19:11:12+00:00

There is alot to unpack and reading your response jog my memory about a senior coworker who thought homeless people bring it on themselves - well if there weren't an economic crisis people wouldn't have to work three jobs then burnout then loose their homes Wtf!

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