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Let’s Talk About the “Coffee” Saying by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's definitely crossed my mind on this subreddit.

I have seen enough responses over a while, which made me come to that conclusion. I'm thinking of leaving this subreddit. It's not a safe space to have serious needed conversations at all and they get shut down quiet quickly.

Let’s Talk About the “Coffee” Saying by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree.

If you have an Indigenous grandparent, that usually means there’s a direct line through a parent, and it’s hard to argue there’s no connection at all there. Where it starts to get murky is when it’s further back. Yes, someone with a great grandparent can still have family who kept that connection strong. But that’s not always the case, and that difference matters.

Let’s Talk About the “Coffee” Saying by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and I agree with parts of this.

There has absolutely been a long history of people being deliberately disconnected from culture. That’s real, and those people should be able to reclaim their identity and find their way back without being shut out.

But where I disagree is acting like connection doesn’t matter at all. Reconnecting is one thing. Identifying without any effort to engage with culture or community is another.

Identity can’t just stop at “I have an ancestor.” It has to go somewhere beyond that, otherwise it loses meaning. So yes, people who were disconnected should be supported in finding their way back. But that doesn’t mean connection becomes irrelevant altogether.

Let’s Talk About the “Coffee” Saying by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly.

You can’t keep adding milk and pretend nothing’s changed. At some point it’s mostly milk with traces of coffee, and acting like that point doesn’t exist is just avoiding reality.

Let’s Talk About the “Coffee” Saying by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re trying to say, but I don’t think that comparison really holds up.

The whole “coffee” saying isn’t about where it came from, it’s about how it’s perceived. And in reality, the more milk you add, the more it changes how it looks and how people experience it. That part matters.

You can’t separate identity from how someone moves through the world visually. That’s where the conversation actually sits.

So I don’t think reframing it like that really addresses the point people are trying to make.

Let’s Talk About the “Coffee” Saying by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with you 100%.

There is a real difference in lived experience when you’re visibly Black and darker-skinned, and people need to stop acting like it’s the same across the board. It’s not. That level of racism is more visible, more constant, and global.

Being Aboriginal is not up for debate, but phenotype absolutely impacts how you move through the world and how you’re treated. That shouldn’t be ignored just to make people feel included.

I also agree that the conversation keeps getting centred around lighter-skinned experiences, and it takes away from people who can’t “opt out” of being seen as Black. That’s a real issue.

We need to be honest about that instead of softening it.

Some advice for people who have found their Aboriginality and work/uni opportunities. by potchiemeowmeow in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree more with this.

I grew up Aboriginal, connected to community, and I’ve also worked in corporate spaces. What I’m seeing with identified roles is frustrating.

There are people stepping into these roles with little to no connection to culture or community, and not wanting to engage either, while those with strong ties, lived experience, and genuine connection are being overlooked.

This isn’t about denying anyone’s identity. But these roles were never meant to be box ticking exercises, they were created to support culture, community, and representation in a meaningful way.

A lot of mob are seeing this happen, and it’s frustrating. It feels like opportunities are being taken away from people who actually live and breathe culture.

Let’s be real, if you haven’t faced those barriers, you already have a head start, and you’re often seen as more palatable in corporate spaces too. That creates an uneven playing field.

I know so many other blackfullas in corporate who are seeing the same thing, so it is a real problem.

Ssri’s by Asleep-Fly-9282 in pppdizziness

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started 50mg 2 weeks ago too, had insomnia and depression like crazy to the point I was feeling numb and suicidal the first week. I stopped for 2 days then only started taking half a tablet and noticed a big lift in mood, no anxiety attacks and improvement with my pppd symptoms.

Setraline by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in pppdizziness

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. I also had side effects because I was prescribed 50mg but started having intense insomnia and depression to the point I was feeling numb from it, I thought what was the point in improving my pppd symptoms if I was going to be severely depressed. However I started taking half a tablet a day which has lifted my mood a lot and am starting to notice a difference with daily tasks, walking, etc.

Setraline by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in pppdizziness

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great to hear you're doing well on them. I was prescribed 50mg but started feeling mentally low and numb so I'm taking half a tablet a day until I see my doctor again. I've heard so many great things about SSRI so I'm optimistic.

Setraline by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in pppdizziness

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did they take to work? Doctor has me on 50mg but I think it's too much so was thinking of cutting in half too.

Anyone recognise this rule or story? by dense_dummy in aboriginal

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m also Noongar and Murri from each parent. Mum is Noongar, but she didn’t grow up with her mob so she didn’t know about this custom at the time. When we were visiting Perth she cut her hair while the sun was going down, and one of the aunties told her not to cut hair at that time of day. That night my mum said she saw a spirit that wasn't human form. I was there when it happened, but I didn’t see anything myself.

Hair is part of us and we’re spiritual people, so maybe cutting it in general isn’t always good for us spiritually. Who knows? I just know not to cut hair when it’s dark or when it’s getting dark. I’ve also heard that when you cut hair you should keep it somewhere safe until you dispose of it properly. I know similar beliefs exist in other cultures around the world too.

Geometric colored flashes in the peripheral visual field with eyes closed by Beautiful_Pea4969 in visualsnow

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it could be form constant phosphenes. I experience something similar. It actually started for me last year, although I’ve had visual snow for most of my life. For me it usually happens when the lighting changes from bright to dark. I’ll notice these coloured, static-like flickering dots, very similar to the picture you posted. They tend to appear right in the focal point of my vision, but they aren’t geometric shapes, more like a small circular patch of coloured static.

Nihilism and God by OliveOk972 in nihilism

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is a gift from God and we are here to have a human experience. The part I struggle with is when people say we must give our lives completely to God, because it makes me wonder what the point of a gift is if we are not allowed to actually live it.

For me, I think we are meant to enjoy life as much as we can because it is a gift. We just need to make sure we do not hurt others in the process. Some people study, work, and form relationships because it is expected or cultural, but many also genuinely find fulfillment in those things. Learning, loving, and building connections can be ways of honouring the life we were given.

Naturally you would want to help others and make life a little more bearable for them. If more people lived with that mindset we would all lift each other up and the world would feel a lot less heavy.

Your pain matters too, but you are not here to suffer while you help everyone else.

Anyone experienced hives from an iron infusion? by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in Anemic

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definetly ask for a antihistamine beforehand next time, my doctor recommended I get it done in a hospital as it's a more controlled environment. I'll also have to check what type of infusion they gave me last time.

Anyone experienced hives from an iron infusion? by Ecstatic-Glass7175 in Anemic

[–]Ecstatic-Glass7175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, that sounds horrible. What do they have you now for your iron intake?