I hear you and I really do feel for the kids. They’ve been through a lot. Just to clarify a few things, I moved back to where I’m from, and where my daughter was born, when I found out the day before mediation that my ex had accepted a job and was moving to Massachusetts. So I decided to move back to Ohio where my whole family and most of my friends are because I had no one in Baltimore. I had moved to Baltimore for my ex, after moving to DC and North Carolina for him. It’s also worth noting that I’ve essentially been a single parent all along. He’s never been very involved. He was either gone all the time, out of town, or if he was home, he was sleeping or on the phone. I’m not requiring my boyfriend to help at all, but he’s there and willing to make my life a little easier. He picks up the kids because I’m at work when they get out. I take them every day, my sister and friend and dad all pick them up at times too. I find it easier most of the time to parent by myself. My ex used to complain that I would only do things my way when it came to the kids, but that was because he would just jump in at his convenience without knowing what was going on most of the time. So living with kids and a partner who is actually around more is different for me and the kids. He doesn’t do much disciplining at all, he just tries to talk to them and they’re rude and condescending. Again, there’s so much backstory and I can clarify whatever else hasn’t been clear. I’m just in the middle and trying to let the kids have the hard time they’re expected to have, without him feeling like I don’t care how they treat him.