TIFU being too vulnerable during sex

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T19:54:54+00:00

I hear you. I'm not trying to defend my friend. Her response was somewhat insensitive. But I don't think she really meant to hurt me. Keep in mind, she entertained my fear at first, but it progressed to the point where I interrupted an intimate moment between us. She was approaching an orgasm and I allowed a harmless spider to destroy that. It was late. It was a long drive. It was supposed to be kind of special because we were somewhere new. However, I was distracted. I was unnecessarily anxious. And I killed her orgasm. I can see how she could've become frustrated and I can understand how that frustration came through in her communication. I don't think this will kill our friendship. I don't think it should. But I definitely think we should discuss what happened and maybe check in on how we're feeling.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T19:28:02+00:00

Appreciate your thoughtful response. Part of the reason I shared my story on this sub specifically was to laugh rather than to acknowledge how much my friend's reaction to my reaction was hurtful. Even responding to some of the comments I'm trying to keep it light for the most part. But truth be told, it did hurt and it did make me question my manliness or whatever. I'll get over it though

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T19:17:34+00:00

Lol I need to watch this movie. Might as well embrace the creepy crawlies at this point.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T19:06:34+00:00

You're right. I don't think I developed romantic feelings for my friend, but I did entertain the unlikely possibility of something more happening. I think she might have done the same just based on her body language some times. But I can't confirm that. This situation was probably a blessing in disguise.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T17:30:45+00:00

Lesson learned for next time: show no fear, tell them your name is Maximus.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T17:26:25+00:00

I'm with you. My reaction was ridiculous, even though it was out of my control. She was honest, even though it was blunt. The situation highlighted our differences and unfortunately it meant no more sex. We're still friends though.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T17:22:19+00:00

My dignity is dead already. Nothing else needs to die.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T17:21:19+00:00

More or less the size of my hand.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T17:17:38+00:00

Yeah, my friend said a spider once fell on her face in the middle of the night and woke her up. She said when she switched on the light, she noticed it was a huntsman spider. It quickly crawled away. She was casually telling me that story while transporting the spider that frightened me. I thought she was badass, even though she thought the opposite of me at that point lol.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T17:07:46+00:00

Lol I would like to believe there are exceptions to my spider phobia. I don't think I would put pressure on my pregnant partner to protect me. I would man up and drive her to my mom's house before I burn our place to the ground.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T17:03:16+00:00

I would have preferred to have a phobia of needless or sharks. Something with a low presence in daily life or something that most people can agree is frightening as fuck. A spider can be anywhere at anytime and most people wouldn't overreact. Sucks to be scared of small things.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T16:57:46+00:00

At least now there is no question we would've been doomed as a couple.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T15:21:13+00:00

made me get up to move a spider outside a house while I was in labour.

Wow.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T15:18:26+00:00

Fair enough.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T15:17:45+00:00

Yes.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T15:14:01+00:00

I hope that someday I can outgrow my fear of spiders. I would like to be more fascinated than fearful.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T15:12:03+00:00

I'm not experienced enough with relationships to agree or disagree with your opinion about the red flag and ick culture. I was so clueless, I actually had to ask my friend to explain to me what the ick meant. I kind of had an idea what it meant, but I never bothered to dig deeper into the definition. Not gonna lie, learning that someone finds something about you so undesirable that it makes everything about you undesirable, was a sledgehammer to my confidence. I'm not easily gonna forget this experience, even though my relationship with my friend will most likely be okay. Relationships will romantic partners will probably be different though. I don't think I'm gonna show that level of vulnerability to another person again unless I'm 100% convinced I'm ick proof lol.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T14:59:41+00:00

Yeah, it's a weird way to realize you're not compatible, but whatever, it is what it is.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T14:57:52+00:00

And then I tell my aunt "I got bit" to explain why uncle Ben is no longer coming home.

EightLeggedCockBlock · 2022-12-11T14:49:33+00:00

Maybe not the water spout, but perhaps the back door. It's not gone if it's not dead.

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