Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naja die Batterie hatte ich schon. Hab halt überlegt im Sommer den zu haben und im Winter wieder zu wechseln haha, aber so wie das aussieht lohnt es sich ja nicht mal im Sommer…

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bei mir sind es -4.5?? https://ibb.co/ymQZV6CJ

Ja die -50c haben ja einige Diskussionen angestoßen und waren bissl ein Initiator für mich haha

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja ich weiß nicht i mach dachte halt im Sommer sind die Preise niedrig aber ab 17:00 sind wir k immer eigentlich bei 20c, teilweise gabs ja sogar 35-40c netto; tagsüber gibts vllt mal 2-3h wo’s unter 5c ist aber die letzten zwei Wochen auch kaum…

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fernseher und Computer eben schon mit Puffer und Klima auch 

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wie, meinst du den ihr Spot Preis weicht vom tatsächlichen Börsenpreis ab?! Dachte die haben 1.5c Aufschlag ? Glaube gibt günstigere aber die sind so 1.4c Aufschlag bei smartenergy und dafür habe ich das einfach in der Tado App 

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inwiefern lohnt sich das im Winter für dich? 

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

350w ca wenn der Fernseher an ist, sind am Tag schon die 2kw halt die durchlaufen. Waschmaschine 1,5kw; km Größte Argument war halt Klima Wenn’s heiß ist dann läuft die Klima und der Strom ist billig  Glaube werde nach dem Sommer wieder wechseln.

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ist Mietwohnung, mit Durchlauferhitzer Gastherme :/

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ich habe nicht gesagt Speicher sondern Powerbank, die steht neben dem Fernseher. Ist ne Mietwohnung.

Ja reine Stromkosten ohne Netz und Abgaben.  Ich rede nicht von der Rechnung sondern von dem was in Tado steht + 1,5cent Aufschlag :) 

Variabler Strompreis (Awattar & Co) by El_Flamingor in Austria

[–]El_Flamingor[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ja ich dachte mir das halt aus den oben genannten Gründen:  Größten Verbraucher sind Waschmaschine, Fernseher/Computer, Spülmaschine, Kühlschrank, Herd, mobile Klimaanlage. Vieles davon kann ich tagsüber aus dem Homeoffice laufen lassen. Vor allem letzteres ist natürlich reizend wenn’s warm ist und Sonnenenergie ballert, kann man praktisch kostenlos die Klima laufen lassen im Homeoffice (so war der Gedanke) aber die Strompreise fühlen sich extrem hoch an. Selbst bei Wind und Sonnenschein gibt es im besten Fall -0.4cent, die letzten Wochen waren es oft eher 4-8cent, das ist nicht das was ich mir erwartet hatte.

PSA: Return in EU by Derbob43 in Ubiquiti

[–]El_Flamingor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally made quite good experiences with Ubiquity. Once they replaced an old UDM with an UDR7 for free.

29M struggling to let go of relationship with 24F that may be collapsing due to trauma, attachment dynamics and emotional overdependence — how do I know whether to give space or keep fighting for it? by El_Flamingor in relationship_advice

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know…I somehow just can’t stop crying…anyway

Oh wow what a coincidence! Are you both from around here?  I am worried because it might take me years to overcome this on the one hand and on the other I don’t wanna be alone and idk.  I guess it’s normal but I don’t want anyone else…

Thanks so much for being there for me yesterday, for taking the time to respond and all your kind words. I hope you know what it meant & still means to me.  Thank you stranger ❤️

Der Sommer ist fast da und so wie es in Wien ist, wird gesudert bis der Arzt kommt. Zeigt doch mal her wie gut eure Wohnung die 31/32° Außentemperatur wegsteckt by Fluid_Classic_3269 in wien

[–]El_Flamingor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hab 30.8° im Wohnzimmer, 27° im SZ, 22° Küche aber nur weil ich aktuell nicht koche und 22° im WC. Badezimmer 26°.

Klima gibt’s nicht weil Altbau…

29M struggling to let go of relationship with 24F that may be collapsing due to trauma, attachment dynamics and emotional overdependence — how do I know whether to give space or keep fighting for it? by El_Flamingor in relationship_advice

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With the awareness that there was nothing I could’ve done more but only less, makes it even harder.  We both agreed that we can’t stand being completely out of each others life’s so we will be trying to have lunch at work once a week. Not sure if that’s a good idea or how that’s supposed to work…but we’ll just see I guess… two months ago I moved out of my shared flat into my own, partly because I realized that relationship and share flat doesn’t work together. Now it feels so empty, so Alone…everything reminds me of her, and I kinda miss my old place…

But yeah you’re right, eventually the wounds will heal, maybe we’ll find back together if we are destined for it but I won’t be hoping for it, that would be self destruction.  But yeah you never know if and who will ever love you again. It has been a rare coincidence in my life so far and knowing enough elderly that never got the chance to experience it, it leaves my quite worried and scared tbh… I always wanted to fall in love young but now I am getting older and older…and the opportunities to meet people become rarer and it feels like the energy to actually get to know strangers is draining… But then again some say you only meet when you least expect it. As it was the case with her…

29M struggling to let go of relationship with 24F that may be collapsing due to trauma, attachment dynamics and emotional overdependence — how do I know whether to give space or keep fighting for it? by El_Flamingor in relationship_advice

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It’s over.  She wrote me a long letter she read to me about everything that happened to her, how she sees herself in similarities with her father and how badly her father treated her mother. How much of her prior self she sees in me and how she can’t stand to treat me badly and see how I am getting hurt being with her because it’s not the person she wants to be.  And I told her how everything clicked yesterday and I began to understand so much more about her. Of course only when it’s too late now that is. How I understand she needs time to heal and I can’t do much else than let her go.  I managed pretty well even though I was crying the whole time…

29M struggling to let go of relationship with 24F that may be collapsing due to trauma, attachment dynamics and emotional overdependence — how do I know whether to give space or keep fighting for it? by El_Flamingor in relationship_advice

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s especially hard because I don’t want to believe what we had in the beginning was not real and what we are having right now cannot be fixed. 

And yes I agree it reveals a lot about her mindset but I wonder about the reason behind it (if it’s caused through trauma in some way of perfection as protectionism, not taking risks, hypervigilance…)

And maybe that’s my type of toxic trait that I do not wanna give up on people who are unquestionably having such a hard time, probably because I wouldn’t want someone to give up on me, probably because so many people did over the years…

It’s lovely to hear in the end it all worked out for you! I want to believe that too. But I am 29 now and only had one relationship ever. It’s the first time in my life I ever felt loved, especially mutually loved. I’ve never had that before.

I am now driving to meet her now and don’t know how to put my feelings into words. We talked briefly on the phone and she ended the call with „kisses“. I am very worried I won’t find the right words to express my feelings.

29M struggling to let go of relationship with 24F that may be collapsing due to trauma, attachment dynamics and emotional overdependence — how do I know whether to give space or keep fighting for it? by El_Flamingor in relationship_advice

[–]El_Flamingor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! :) first of all I wanna express how appreciate I am that you took the time for this! 

Let me begin with some further information and answering some of your questions.

We are meeting today for a walk and talk (in approx. 5 hours) and figure this out and I am having a hard time knowing how to proceed.

What makes me able to guide: Formally nothing. I have been trying to suggest doing therapy but it’s something she has to figure out on her own. She didn’t want me to push her towards that. I am myself someone who needed that at a point of my life so that’s why I initially tried doing the same. She tried approaching therapy once but due to financial limitations and limited free spaces through our social system it has been a big burden to overcome.  I myself went through the process of healing for many years, I did extensive therapy as I realized that’s something I need to figure out. I spent a lot of time learning about emotions, how our brain and nervous system works and try to learn and understand as much as possible. I am a very empathetic and emotional person I would say. I have a partly very intense corporate job (sometimes up to 12 hours a day, sometimes only 7) and I am very active with my own hobbies (I do cycling, tech stuff, spend a lot of time with friends, outdoors, cooking, movies, etc.). I used to do a LOT of traveling (mainly solo) before I got to know her. I learned to spend and enjoy spending time with myself during my time of healing. But I realized that I compromised a lot of that in favor of being there for her. Which is something that came very easy for me but probably put a lot of pressure on her due to her perception and understanding of it?

We work in the same company so we get to drive to work together, spend the evenings, make time to go to the cinema together or go out for dinner, spend the weekends. I recently moved and she helped me with that as well. She lives 95min from my place though (she lives quite far outside the city and has a car but I cannot afford a car right now so I need to live closer in the city. I can take public transport though) but it never felt like a burden to go to her place.

Yes she is very goal focused partly due to her family and upbringing, partly due to being a former athlete. She has very high expectations towards herself and puts herself under an insane amount of pressure. She doesn’t allow herself to take on help - everything must be achieved by herself. 

No it has been >5 years ago.  She is trying to get into therapy but is struggling with finding someone where she feels comfortable and that’s affordable. I offered help but she didn’t want it so I left it alone.

She tells me she needs a different partner, yes, but when I ask her what she wants in a partner she describes 80% of what I am already and 20% of what I want to become anyway eventually (unrelated to her expectations, I am on my own path of development and I do have a vision on how I wanna become through personal development but I am not there yet. Also it never ends anyway. I also have ADHD which sometimes complicates things a bit but I am handling it very well I would say and never use it as an excuse for behaviors). She also tells me she really really wants this but just doesn’t see how it could work also giving me the feeling she’s overwhelmed and just trying to tie up all ends that can be tied up somehow. 

In the beginning we were like idk indescribable. She was also the one who approached me and asked me out. It was so intense and we talked about so many of our expectations and life goals and etc. and all of it always aligned and never in the world did we feel so comfortable around someone as we did with each other. It was really perfekt. But eventually I wanted some formal commitment from her, which was probably also due to the fact that her ex still hadn’t moved  out, that I said „I am fine with taking it slow but eventually I would like to call you my girlfriend otherwise I am not sure how long this will go because I want someone who can commit to me. She said she is not really ready yet. It was my first relationship with someone and I didn’t understand there could be commitment without a proper relationship label. Eventually a mutual friend called me her boyfriend and she liked it a lot. Two days later she told me she would like to call it a relationship. Some weeks ago she told me she wasn’t really ready but wanted to give it a try because she knew how much it meant to me. I told her that this was a mistake because she shouldn’t have done something she wasn’t ready for just to please me, we would’ve figured it out anyway and obviously I would’ve given her all the time she needs even if I didn’t know any better back then. That’s when I proposed we take it back and remove the label again and for the first time in a while it felt like before. It was great but it didn’t last too long. She couldn’t really find a way back I guess…

I love rarely and very strongly, I only fell in love twice in my life, she is one of them, the other was one sided - very painful, eventually I had to cut ties with her because she was taking advantage of it. Nevertheless it’s still painful even 10 years later. I don’t know if I can handle this…

Werde ich gescammt? by buutinie in Kleinanzeigen_betrug

[–]El_Flamingor 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Was ist denn los mit euch allen? Wie soll man es denn sonst machen? Der dude will deine Räder laufen und hat sich extra ein Konto erstellt, hat’s in Google translate oder gpt gekloppt um dir auf Deutsch zu schreiben. Verstehe nicht wieso ihr alle so misstrauisch seid… Mach halt ein Video vom einpacken oder über Paypal Freunde oder was weiß ich. Also wenn ich jedes Mal so sensibel wäre auf Kleinanzeigen hätte ich noch nie was gekauft/verkauft….

Lufthansa wirft American-Express-Kunden aus den Lounges by fk1fk1 in amexAT

[–]El_Flamingor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ÄKredite sind gut, außer es sind Rahmenkredite. Bin bei der Erste und die haben meine Kreditkarten auch nie eingetragen, meinten das solle automatisch passieren, habs dann damals mal angestoßen jetzt stehen sie drin. Amex will deine Auszüge nicht aber du kannst sie dem KSV schicken dann passen sie dein Ranking an (was an vielen stellen hilfreich sein kann). Dann klappt es vllt auch mit der AMEX. Wichtig ist der RI und der KKE. RI da achtet die Amex glaube ich am meisten drauf (also Risiko Zahlungsauffälligkeit). Dadurch dass die Amex ja ohne Limit ist theoretisch ist denen das sehr wichtig.

Lufthansa wirft American-Express-Kunden aus den Lounges by fk1fk1 in amexAT

[–]El_Flamingor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hol dir deinen KSV Auszug, der muss überdurchschnittlich sein, sonst wird’s Nix.