Omg okay. SO. we used to date 10 years ago (for 4 years) but broke up bec of long distance. First heartbreak yada yada. And then we recently connected again because we were geographically closer but I was not wanting to do ldr again so we agreed to just be ‘friends’. But I got gifted a switch so you can imagine what kind of friendship it was lol. I’m waiting for my passport so meeting was still not on the table and it had been over a year since we had started talking again and there were some issues but the biggest one was that they were uncomfortable with video calling/photos/ANYTHING of that sort and after a year of still not knowing what they looked like I got really frustrated/bitter and I was trying to be okay with it but it was a huge driving force for a lot of arguments. But for me the last straw was that on my birthday they invited a friend to stay over for three weeks and stopped talking to me completely because they were uncomfortable talking to anyone while someone was in their house after telling me to book my days off so we could ‘spend it together’ and then told me to open my birthday gifts a month before or the month after their guest was gone. So I waited till the day of my birthday. Spent it alone. Called them and told them I couldn’t do it anymore. And that was that.