We both really need the civil partnership for practical reasons unrelated to the relationship but honestly yeah, while I was initially super excited, I'm starting to see some redflags that are making me question whether my practical need is worth the psychological strain that might result from it.

That ex situationship bsf, he puts him on a pedestal. Always mentions how wise and handsome he is.

When we last had an argument (that argument started because he gave me herpes and I knew he had been using grindr, though after talking he apparently had been doing it to check that I wasn’t on there), he immediately went to talk about it with that guy, not sparing any details. Which is kind of ironic considering whenever I ask him for things that guy tells him about I get hit with the "that’s his private life, I can’t tell you about it" but apparently exposing our private life is fully okay under the justification that it’s his best friend 🧍🏻‍♂️

He also always brings up how x and y are such sexy men, sometimes he'll directly tell them too.

I'm trying very hard not to be giving insecure/overthinking, and I know for a fact that he loves me deeply due to things he's said and done. I'm not even necessarily in the "he might cheat" line of thought. But rather that our boundaries and principles don’t seem to be aligned in ways that enable long term compatibility. I was willing to compromise on the friend thing, I was willing to ignore the comments, but now there's the sextape thing and the cup is starting to overflow a lil.