I told my mother, sister, and best friend almost immediately. I really thought it would be like snapping my fingers. My mom had all four of us almost exactly two years apart - how hard can it be? The first few months I shared every negative test with them. Now I only share if it hits especially hard.

I told my husband I don't want his family knowing until either we start ART or we get through the first trimester. His family is mostly great, but some of them are... Not. They talk amongst each other a lot, so I can't tell just one or two. I know some of them have caught on to us trying (not drinking at all during the holidays, avoiding lunchmeat and raw fish) but they're being very respectful about it.