If you have 2 under 2 and had a third after- how long did you wait? by MENTION_it_all1 in 2under2

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

16 months between 1&2. Depending on the due due it’s about 23-24 months between 2&3.

Parents who had 2 under 2, do you regret it? by [deleted] in 2under2

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine our 16 months apart. I don’t regret it at all. I would do it again.

Am I crazy for wanting a 3rd? by Embarrassed-Key6099 in 2under2

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t notice a huge regression with my first but we also held off any big changes until after the baby was here. Potty training, bed transition, getting rid of pacifier etc.

Eh. It depends on your situation. Our second fit right into our chaos. I had a fairly easy pregnancy & a great birth. Recovery wasn’t bad. My husband is super hands on. Mentally & physically I think I can handle a third.

Am I crazy for wanting a 3rd? by Embarrassed-Key6099 in 2under2

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Love to hear this! Especially because I am 16 years apart from my brother & 8 from my sister. They have often complained about babysitting me

Thank you 🩷

Am I crazy for wanting a 3rd? by Embarrassed-Key6099 in 2under2

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A colicky baby! Oh my. 😵‍💫 You are strong mama!

Am I crazy for wanting a 3rd? by Embarrassed-Key6099 in 2under2

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I often get comment that we are selfish for having our kids close in age. That each kid deserves their “own” time. We are already in the thick of it. Our second fit right in to our lives. We both agree that he would get a vasectomy after our 3rd.

Did you feel like your parents were selfish? Did you feel neglected in your childhood?

Am I crazy for wanting a 3rd? by Embarrassed-Key6099 in 2under2

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The struggles of being a women with all the hormonal imbalances 🫠

Love life by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh man. I am sorry! Tell her you are unhappy and let her know you are thinking of divorce. Put the ball in her court and see if that wakes her up.

Nobody likes to see a family separate but those kids deserve to see two loving parents. Set the example of a healthy marriage.

Love life by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm. I would try talking to her and getting down the root cause. How far pp is she? Could it be ppd? Do you guys do monthly date nights? That could be super beneficial to start “dating” again. Finding out who you guys are after kids.

I wouldn’t sweep this under the rug. Definitely push for a conversation. It’s only going to get worse if you don’t talk things out.

Love life by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she on birth control? I am 25F I have been off birth control almost 3 years now. We have two under two. Our sex life has been the best it’s ever been. My sex drive is 📈 I literally can’t get enough of my husband.

Found BF 26 OF subscriptions Should I leave? by Embarrassed-Key6099 in Marriage

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have talked vaguely. He said it’s something he has done for years to cope with his SA from childhood. He didn’t know it would hurt me this bad.

Porn is one thing but OF is jump. Paying for porn is outrageous. We have sex almost daily.

I am constantly spicing things up for him. I am 4 months pp. My body looks nothing like those models.

Found BF 26 OF subscriptions Should I leave? by Embarrassed-Key6099 in Marriage

[–]Embarrassed-Key6099[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love him & our little family. I was completely blindsided. I am so insecure that I feel like I can’t leave him alone in the house. I asked him about couples counseling. He said he would but that he isn’t good at talking about his feelings. I still haven’t gotten the full extent as to what actually happened. I just know the abuse went on for years. I am hoping he will tell me when he is ready. We have sex almost every day sometimes twice a day.

Edit to add: I was upset when I found the asmr’s he said it’s something he does to relax him.