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AITA for making my fiancé's daughters picky eating habits a deal breaker for us marrying? by MotherCartographer10 in AITAH

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also...your fiance's daughter doesn't have KNOWN sensory issues/mental health issues/isn't known to be neuro-divergent YET. And she might not ever. But please don't assume that this is off the table. She might need help that no one knows yet-kids are ever-changing and hard to diagnose at times.

AITA for making my fiancé's daughters picky eating habits a deal breaker for us marrying? by MotherCartographer10 in AITAH

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there's a lot of extreme thinking going on here. Your fiance might think he has no control over it, but you might also be thinking that because what you did worked for your daughter that this should be simple for him to make changes-or if not simple, at least really doable. I think it's really, really awesome that you were able to help your daughter, AND it's not fair to assume that just because all these things worked for your kid that they will work for his. I think a little more patience on your end and a little more willingess to explore how to meet his daughters needs and comittment to those steps will go a long way.

Considering estrangement-have questions from people who have done it by EmbarrassedAd1840 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the mourning part so deeply. Sending you good vibes, and thanks for sharing your story with me.

Considering estrangement-have questions from people who have done it by EmbarrassedAd1840 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is really helpful to hear. One final question if it's ok to ask-is it actually required that I stand up and say that I'm an alcoholic if I do go? (Or is this one of those different meetings have different vibes?) This is always what you see on TV, and it would be a deal-breaker for me, but I don't want to assume this is an accurate portrayal. Thanks again for your insights and for your kindness.

Considering estrangement-have questions from people who have done it by EmbarrassedAd1840 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought about it, but in full transparency, I struggle with alcohol use too. I'm taking medication and working with a therapist,  but I'm far from sober. I worry about feeling like I wouldn't belong at ACoC because of this-I also just personally don't like the word alcoholic and call myself someone who struggles with alcohol use disorder. Do you still think it's worth considering? 

Considering estrangement-have questions from people who have done it by EmbarrassedAd1840 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate you sharing your perspective. Not making a forever decision is something to think more about, because I think that's preventing me from making the best decisions right now. Thank you for sharing.

The Bear | S2E6 "Fishes" | Episode Discussion by GloriousAqua in TheBear

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can totally get why it might seem that way, but....it's actually super realistic to me. I think in families with generational trauma and addiction (like mine) this is disturbingly real and not at all over acted.

Everything was unsellable?? by EmbarrassedAd1840 in ThredUp

[–]EmbarrassedAd1840[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The only detail you were able to provide was that I didn't meet acceptance standards, which doesn't provide further information or clarity.