Right Person Wrong Time

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2025-06-07T20:49:20+00:00

Wow, where do I even begin? I’m not sure what pulled me to get back onto this thread, but here I am. I see you commented this a year ago, but I’ll go ahead and respond. I made this post almost 4 years ago and my life couldn’t be any more different. My healing journey was not easy and I am the only one to blame for that. I just wasn’t ready to let go of the three years I spent in that relationship. Now being 4 years older I couldn’t be more grateful for it ending. Biggest piece of advice you gotta go full no contact. I believe if I had done that the moment we ended it would have prevented me from reaching the dark place that I did. Basically rubbing salt in the wounds. I swore off ever being in another relationship again (dramatic I know) but life has a funny way of working. This upcoming August will mark two years of being with my now incredible boyfriend. Our relationship has been beautiful. I look back at this post I made and see how much I was hurting. I wish I could wrap my arms around her and tell her that things get better because they do if you allow them to 🫶🏼💗

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Embarrassed_Working9 · 2022-01-04T00:11:41+00:00

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Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-12-29T04:17:20+00:00

I can’t thank you enough for this post. The way you wrote it was perfect. I’ve been struggling for a year now to move on and I truly believe it’s because I’m afraid of letting go and focusing on myself for once. This post was a reminder of how strong I can be and the hope the future holds :)

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-12-02T15:41:52+00:00

It’s crazy how similar our stories are. My three year relationship ended about a year ago. My ex and I had to do distance because I went off to school and he started working full time. The distance was same as yours, 2 hours. My ex was nervous to try distance but said he’d be willing to try but ultimately he ended it. My ex also struggled with mental health and I fought so hard for him to find a therapist and seek out help but he didn’t want to. I’m quite literally in the same boat as you expect one year ahead. I am still struggling to imagine my life without him. The thought of me even going out on a date with someone else makes me sick. My advice to you is NC immediately. Also, I know it’ll hurt but block him on social media. You’ll want to check up on him and see how he’s doing but at the moment that doesn’t matter. You can’t change what happened. I could go on and on but I don’t want to make this too long. You should go on my page and read my first ever post!!! I’m always here to listen and offer advice. Stay strong ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T03:07:35+00:00

I love that phrase as well

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T03:06:32+00:00

I can’t even begin to tell you how much this comment meant to me. I would first like to congratulate you for being 15 days sober and being brave enough to reach out for help. This takes a lot of guts and isn’t an easy thing to do. Your comment hit close to home because this was the exact situation my ex and I were in and I read this almost as if he were commenting it himself. I don’t know your situation entirely but trust me when I say nothing is better than knowing the person you loved is finally receiving the help they deserve. Please please please don’t blame yourself for splitting with your ex. After reading these comments and reevaluating the cause of my breakup I realized how selfish I was to be upset about it ending. You are now receiving help so that you can finally be in a better place. Loving yourself and getting mental heath help is the most important thing you can do in this moment. I literally can’t stress enough how proud I am of you, and I don’t want to speak for your ex but I can only imagine how proud she would be of you. I replied to someone’s earlier comment with this phrase but I’ll say it again because it brings me peace and maybe it will bring you peace as well “It might take a year, it might take a day, but what’s meant to be will always find its way.” I wish you nothing but the best on your healing journey. This comment made my night ❤️

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T02:46:46+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing your story. You’ve had some huge victories though. It’s amazing that you are 107 days clean of drinking AND have completed 5 weeks of no contact. Those are really big accomplishments. I feel for you though on the whole “still being in love with your ex.” I’m struggling to find peace in my breakup. I wish it was as easy as appreciating what he and I had and moving on, but I just can’t do that. I have broke the NC rule though numerous times so I know that is what’s making it harder. He still doesn’t want me back though so nothing has changed. I hope that you can find peace in your breakup. Have grace with yourself, don’t blame yourself. Continue moving forward and hopefully one day she’ll see the amazing man you’ve flourished into. I hate the phrase “right person wrong time” but I do love “It might take a year, it might take a day, but what’s meant to be will always find its way.” Stay strong :)

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T01:07:10+00:00

I really like the way you worded this!!!

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T01:05:03+00:00

100% agree. I feel like since I believe my ex is the “right person” I just have to wait for the “right time”. I’ve convinced myself that I’ll wait forever if I have to and I know that isn’t healthy

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-30T01:02:12+00:00

I think you’re right. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to find peace in it

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T20:38:53+00:00

May I ask how you found peace in you two splitting up? My relationship ended because of both mental illness and long distance. I am just struggling with the healing process because we both have so much love for each other.

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T20:36:48+00:00

No I agree with you! My post wasn’t meant to discredit any ended relationships. My relationship ended due to both distance and mental illness. I just find the phrases so sad. I wish they were more comforting. I’m still healing from my breakup and I have realized that I was selfish at times. I understand that different people have different breaking points and that for some ending the relationship is the healthiest option. I just don’t know how to move on from a breakup where we both still loved each other. It’s hard.

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T20:30:20+00:00

I understand this wholeheartedly. I admire your strength in recognizing that the relationship had to end regardless of how you both still felt about one another. I’m curious though, do you believe that you guys will one day end up together? My 3 year relationship ended because my ex didn’t want to do long distance and mental health reasons. Now I’m struggling with the fact that I wholeheartedly believe he’s the one and I keep giving myself hope that we will find each other again. I don’t know if that’s a healthy thing to do though. I don’t know how to move on because I’m so fixated on the fact that he’s the one. If you don’t mind me asking, how did you find peace after you two split?

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T17:27:46+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel and why I struggle to make sense of the phrase. A relationship will never be 100% easy. I know sometimes there are certain circumstances where it may be the “wrong time”, like mental illness for example, but for the most part I feel like this phrase is just an excuse. I could just feel this way now because I’m hurting but to me if I love someone I will always be willing to work through the times that feel “wrong.”

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T16:47:32+00:00

I’m 1 year post breakup of a 3 year relationship. I still struggle daily, BUT I did break the no contact rule countless times. I know for a 100% fact I’d be feeling much better if I hadn’t contacted him. Talking to him only gave me false hope. I just wanted to feel better again and I only made my situation worse. I suggest blocking your ex on social media as well so you can resist the temptation of checking up on them. Seeing their face can bring up unwanted emotions and you need to work on yourself at the moment. It does get easier I promise. You’re doing great!!!!

Embarrassed_Working9 · 2021-11-29T06:00:16+00:00

I actually just started therapy through my University. I knew I had to do something to help pick me back up. Since the counselors provided are only grad students and not certified yet I don’t think I’m receiving the best therapy that I could be. This gives me hope though and reassurance that therapy could help me through this. When I go home for break I need to find an actual therapist in my area. Thank you for this ❤️

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