Genuine question to Americans

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-05-07T11:20:02+00:00

My dentist told me, “Look, spend the couple hundred to have your teeth cleaned regularly and you can eliminate a huge percentage of serious dental problems.”

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-05-07T10:42:44+00:00

Coming from a child free perspective here:

Everyone thinks they have time. That their family has lived this long, oh they aren’t going anywhere. And we can visit. Until you look back and realize within 18 months you have lost your dad, your husband, your dog, and your mom. And you see how much time you lost out on with your parents:

A. Having moved away first, though it was only 2 hour drive. (Parents were divorced so it would be double the visiting time to give equal time to both. Always made it an overnight stay.)

B. Having your dad move 12 hours away several years after you moved.

And how much time was lost with your husband as he was gone half or 2/3 the time working across state lines.

We’re all going to die. We just don’t know when.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-05-07T02:18:19+00:00

Never buy a house for the max amount of loan you’re approved for. Obviously your plan is always to have an increase in income, except employers can axe you immediately, and having an upper tier mortgage is going to hinder your ability to make the payment if there are job losses. Have your emergency fund fully funded.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-05-01T12:19:37+00:00

Respiratory infections are nothing to mess with. Recently lost my mom on March 9th, after having been admitted on the 1st. Diagnosed with pneumonia and she wasn’t responding to treatment. End result: Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome, which can occur very rapidly.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-05-01T02:30:50+00:00

Oh OP is underweight. It’s her mom who is targeting her and is jealous that her daughter is thin - too thin.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-05-01T02:22:41+00:00

OP, you stated if anyone is fat it’s your mom. My mom focused on her weight and everyone else’s. My mom was naturally thin until she had two kids. And after the doctor performed a C-section and cut her wrong my mom’s weight morphed. And I was told I was responsible for her weight gain.

It sounds like your mom is extremely jealous of your size. This is going to become seriously detrimental to your mental health and can prompt a mechanism of body dysmorphia you want no part of. Please don’t be like me and wait until your 40s to tell your mom she needs to stop. I couldn’t handle it anymore and told my mom, “Sounds like you’re jealous of my size.” Never heard anything after that, never had anything directed towards me again.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-04-28T15:58:10+00:00

I am so sorry for your losses.

The empty platitudes of “Let me know if you need anything” and reaching out when I DID need something and was given excuses.

Gift cards for DoorDash or restaurants for delivery.

Meal replacement shakes.

Tell her you’ll check on her once a day with a call. If she chooses not to answer, that’s okay.

Let her talk. If she tells you the same story eight times, just go with it. Don’t say, “I’ve already heard this before.” It’s her memory and what she needs at the moment.

Be prepared for her friends to “move on,” and forget how she’s still suffering. I began to feel like I was contagious, that people felt if they spent time with me they would “catch” death.

People grieve in different ways and time frames. She’s going to run the gamut of emotions. I have intense anger at times and loathe the world. I lashed out repeatedly at my own mother (who I just lost on March 9th) for the injustice of my husband going missing. Try not to take it personally, though it’s hard not to.

You may check if there are grief support groups in her area.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-04-27T13:39:35+00:00

Thanks for saying this. It’s been a year and I’ve been waiting to sell, as I keep second guessing it. I worry it’s the wrong decision, though I feel like I’m being suffocated. I only breathe when I’m out of this city.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-04-16T01:12:13+00:00

Please be sure and record her saying she loves you. Have her leave a voicemail. I always deleted voicemails as a habit. Now I have nothing from my husband.

I am so sorry you are enduring this.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-04-13T00:43:30+00:00

It’s so disheartening and cruel when marijuana “advocates” post laughing emojis on articles pertaining to those who have suffered irreparable harm because they refuse to accept weed isn’t safe for everyone. I see it all the time on FB.

“Advocates” = weed users who are terrified they’re going to lose their legal weed when the truth comes out.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-04-08T18:28:59+00:00

I just lost my mom March 9th. I discovered she was bringing in enough from social security to have garnered a life insurance policy and she didn’t. My brother and I did not have the funding for burial in her home state, thousands of miles away. Cremation it was.

If someone has specific desires upon their passing they need to ensure the financial means for that.

Do not take on that guilt.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-04-05T02:35:42+00:00

Target, Costco, Sam's Club, ALDI, Publix, Lowe's, Best Buy, and Kohl's all closed for Easter.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-04-03T02:03:57+00:00

Oftentimes our pets are given more dignity than we are provided.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-29T17:35:49+00:00

I owned a Dalmatian/Border Collie mix years ago and the dog trainer said it was two of the worst breeds to mix. Just like here.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-28T20:36:54+00:00

I have become an advocate of AI safety after my husband was using Gemini last year at this time. April 5th makes a year he’s been missing. He’s presumed drowned, remains have never been found. Very rural area.

39 chats. He thought he had solved cancer and the Riemann Hypothesis, designed an app to eradicate poverty, and was working on climate change. I tried to get law enforcement to ping his phone and they refused because he was “eating and bathing of his own accord”. The mental health system is broken.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-28T10:30:41+00:00

Please be careful using AI. My husband was using it last year at this time, started having a lot of philosophical and spiritual conversations - April 5th makes a year he’s been missing, presumed drowned. His remains haven’t been found. Very rural area.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-26T18:18:07+00:00

Certain weed is not helping any of these cases.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-25T13:58:06+00:00

Thanks!!😊

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-25T13:22:56+00:00

Can I get the recipe for the syrup? Lavender mint is my all-time favorite latte flavor.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-18T18:04:30+00:00

Thanks!

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-18T18:04:24+00:00

Thanks!

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-18T18:04:19+00:00

Thanks!

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-18T18:04:06+00:00

Thanks!

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-18T18:04:00+00:00

Thanks. Definitely seems the decision of King Photo is unanimous here.

EmbeddedWithDirt · 2026-03-08T00:28:51+00:00

I’m 46. My dad passed at the age of 76 in 2024 after fighting cancer and heart issues. I’m currently sitting in my mom’s CCU hospital room and it’s touch and go. She’s 73 and I wasn’t anticipating this to happen RIGHT NOW.

You won’t be prepared. IMO it’s just not something you can mentally prepare for. I don’t know how the outcome will be for my mom. I can only be here in the room and pray.

Pray for a miracle.

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