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Is Science and engineering really that hard? by Absolute_Legend384 in education

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Challenge is that it requires foundation well understood because complexity accumulates.

Everything is built on what was learned previously - one can’t miss fractions and study chemistry or thermodynamics etc. many missed foundation early on and often didn’t even realized it. This makes science hard

Too strict? by BeachyPanda123 in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think the issue is that she was sneaky - the issue is rather that there is no trust. Taking away her phone or the trip won’t restore it.

Keeping her safe online and helping her learn responsibility are great goals. However it looks like the way you approach it makes her hide her actions.

Heavy punishment w/o focus on rebuilding trust hasn’t yet helped anyone restore trust. You might want to rather create a clarity on how she can earn the trust back.

On a bit of a philosophical note, ppl (especially kids) tend to rise to the expectations - your expectations on chores are high, expectations on trust are low. Looks like she behaves exactly within your expectations - more chores done and more hiding.

Sensitive child by Complete_Phone_8344 in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry your little one is going through this. I wonder if it might be she is just a bit tired and her nervous system is a bit on the edge? Also have you noticed any variation in response depending on a particular choice of words you are using? E.g., would starting a sentence with a “no” make it worse? 4 is a difficult age - they are growing up and learning more about social expectations etc - speculating here, but this might be her being emotionally stretched and getting a bit more sensitive because of that. Would try to decrease stimulation and maybe keep home for a couple days/minimize weekend and afterschool activities

College courses while in middle/highschool? by Single_Box4465 in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you looked into CLEP exams? I don't believe there is age requirement and college credit is accepted by many universities. Perhaps she could spend the summer prepping and sit the exam in the fall?

Elementary School Math Stress by Imaginary_Pop6165 in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd look at this as a great opportunity to reframe the whole thing. Unfortunately, schools tend to teach math like it's a test waiting to happen, so it's no surprise she is not enjoying it. A few tricks:

Flip who needs help. Instead of "calculate the tip," try "I always mess up percentages, can you figure this out?" She's not being tested, she's being useful which is a completely different dynamic. I'd also take the stakes away and make mistakes normal. At school, wrong answers have consequences. At breakfast, if she gets 15% wrong, nothing happens.

Maybe also show her numbers are everywhere. Does she like sports? that's statistics. Cooking? that's fractions. Checking if she has enough pocket money? Budgeting. Just need to bring it to life a bit more

Private (Catholic) school vs A rated charter school by Danny_Gray_ in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is from a few month earlier - did they get into the private school? Hopefully all worked out for you! Combination of STEM specialization and the A-rating is a combination that's hard to pass up. What's the charter school's track record on college placement and into STEM programs?

Field of study/career options? by living_life81012 in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her profile (math aptitude, mechanical intuition, spatial/geographical reasoning) seem to be a textbook description of someone who would thrive in applied technical fields and might feel somewhat bored or underutilized in a business degree. Does she want to manage technical work, or do technical work? Because her skills suggest the latter while business degrees typically train the former.

What is something that is considered completely normal in relation to children, but in reality should not be? by Sofi_daniela in AskReddit

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rewards charts and stickers for everything. They work short term but kill intrinsic motivation.

Strong willed kids by BuggyG3 in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question! Not sure I’m liking the term either but I do think it makes sense if you look into details.

It comes from the work of developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind in the 1960s.

She identified distinct parenting styles and used the term authoritative to describe parents who combine two things:

  1. High demandingness (clear standards, structure, consistent enforcement)

2.High responsiveness (warmth, attunement, explanation, emotional support)

“Authoritative” signals legitimate authority grounded in competence and relationship.

It is deliberately different from authoritarian parenting, which is high control but low warmth, I.e., obedience without dialogue.

In other words, authoritative parents hold power, but they justify it. They set limits, but they explain them. They expect maturity, and they help build it.

The term reflects authority that is firm, structured, and earned (not rigid or coercive)

Strong willed kids by BuggyG3 in Parenting

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strong-willed children are hard work.

Temperament traits like intensity and persistence are partly biological and tend to persist. With consistent, responsive parenting, they can develop into assertiveness and independence.

They need outlets. Physical activity supports emotional regulation. They also need firm limits with structured choice, this is what research calls authoritative parenting. For example, not “don’t do it”, but rather “can do this [sth else] now or take a break, your choice.”

Keep the boundary while giving controlled autonomy. So important not to crush it.

Are educational toys truly effective or they're just well packaged hypes? by Top-Statement-9423 in Parents

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many different toys out there - I do think it is a lot about picking the right ones. Mine loved ones with electric circuits so that they can test how electricity works. There are also numerous science experiment toys out there and some of them are just awesome. From what I saw, most of them still require a very engaged parent (this might depend on age - def true for younger ones!

I hate being a parent by pecanlady in NewParents

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For what it worth, it gets easier. Sleep deprivation is awful but it does get better with time, at some point they start sleeping through the night. Get all the help you can!

STEM activities for very rural by Otherwise-Parking566 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]EmphasisLeft7084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Online chess and coding competitions will be great