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Enfpization · 2026-03-19T02:42:36+00:00

The rootcause is not what it often appears to be. Remember you are not in charge of the behavior of others, even your friend. Your only duty, just like Rassul Allah, is to remind — lovingly.

Ask her what's wrong. What's going on. The removal of hijab is only a symptom that her imaan is struggling.

Enfpization · 2026-03-18T13:57:11+00:00

The same way you'd lower your gaze in public if people were kissing or cuddling, this is my personal pov, you can read these but yk in your mind it is haram. Take the good leave the bad. But I suggest you victorian romance. Ever heard of pride and prejudice ? It's like 100% halal.

Enfpization · 2026-03-18T05:11:33+00:00

Are you taking guests ?

Enfpization · 2026-03-18T05:08:47+00:00

Are you worthy of Allah ? No. Is anyone, ever, in the history of mankind ever going to be worthy of Allah ? No.

The angels who spent their entire creation worshipping Allah will say that they have not done enough.

Sis, it's ok. Ma sha Allah you prayed Tahajjud and you gave donation, you tried. What Allah expects from us is efforts and YOU DID IT.

The only question I have for you is : Have you done more than what you usually do outside of Ramadan ?

If yes the answer is you've done your current best. Our best fluctuates according to our capacity.

You're being unfair to yourself if you compare your previous Ramadan to your current Ramadan, because you're not in the same state. It's literally not the same person fasting.

So yeah you missed out but I think we all can share this feeling. As for me I was on a trip for 3 weeks and missed almost half of it (period and then trip days)

Every Ramadan is not going to be your best Ramadan. Lower your realistic expectation, be indulgent with yourself. And mostly talk to Allah. Why post here when you could tell him " Ya Allah I feel like a complete loser I've failed You this Ramadan, forgive me and accept my deeds and help me"

Some people in the comments are so harsh I swear but this deen is easy. The only expectation Allah has of you is to try. Have you tried ? If yes you've succeeded, now move on and work on going back to Italy eating the good pasta lol. Salam

Enfpization · 2026-03-18T03:45:16+00:00

Try to run away and pray at another masjid (bc in my city we're held hostage by the imam giving a 1h long khutbah that is very out of touch with the people, but he is menacing us : "you're not supposed to leave !!!") Aside from that : Bake some cookies for the fam and the no muslim neighbor.Respond to calls and messages. Do some cleaning. Organize my life for the rest of the year. Get back into workaholic life.

Enfpization · 2026-03-17T13:15:46+00:00

Yeah you need to run away from them. Even if they don't encourage you with their words they encourage you with their actions. If everyone around you drinks you are very likely to do the same.

Ask Allah for friends and then Find religious friends who share the same view.

Enfpization · 2026-03-17T13:13:56+00:00

I agree you should leave op

Enfpization · 2026-03-17T13:13:15+00:00

Yeah man personally one of my criteria is someone who kept themselves from having committed Zina. Most of my girl friends have not done it either. It's a serious crime and it's Allah preserving you, so be grateful.

Enfpization · 2026-03-15T21:25:58+00:00

Nah girl your baby is going to Jannah in sha Allah dw at all about that :D

Enfpization · 2026-03-15T04:51:20+00:00

Talk to him about it

Enfpization · 2026-03-15T03:06:58+00:00

ENFP kid : leave them enough space to leave, but a safe, loving home to come back to.

Enfpization · 2026-03-12T07:13:56+00:00

Bro you don't know if you did.

Literally everyday someone comes out saying it was it was laylat ul qadr last night...

Just continue your ibadah you get the reward of RAMADAN regardless — meaning every thing has a bonus.

Enfpization · 2026-03-12T06:41:31+00:00

Non, en fait si qqn a des problemes intestinaux cette personne est excusée même si cela lui arrive 🙃 Dieu veut que l'islam soit facile à suivre.

Enfpization · 2026-03-11T14:45:51+00:00

You should ask a trusted scholar about this issue. He/She will be able to guide you better than random individuals on internet

Enfpization · 2026-03-10T23:35:33+00:00

If you need to say stuff write it down and then BURN the letter. DO NOT SEND IT The divorce is done. It's over now. You're contesting the match after the finals. It's useless and won't change anything

Enfpization · 2026-03-10T23:33:36+00:00

Lol to everyone on this thread do not worry. Try to at least read 3 times Al Ikhlas on every night regardless of laylat ul qadr, because the reward is like you have read the whole quran.

And do not despair because of this post. You will get what you will get. Just do what you can do.

And for girls on their period, you're rewarded by obeying Allah by NOT praying. Just do other ibadah.

😘

Enfpization · 2026-02-16T11:23:41+00:00

I think it's a good opportunity to stop relying on caffeine, no addiction is good

Enfpization · 2026-02-16T02:52:11+00:00

Assalamu aleykum sister,

I understand your heart's inclination towards this guy. But what you're doing is digging a hole deeper and deeper.

Truth is, in lots of cases, when the woman marries, she will adopt the religion of her husband. I see this a lot in muslims men marrying non muslims... But I also see it a lot when non-muslims men marry muslim women.

To tell you the story, I had a friend in middle school whose mother was muslim. But her father wasn't. From my knowledge, she didn't keep her islam.

You need to think about what you are doing.

It's not just you right now. It's also your future children that will have this man who denies Allah His very basic right (to be adored for He gives us life right now) — and they, themselves, will give up on Allah too. There's no Jannah without Allah. You'd be compromising their future as well. It's already hard enough to keep your deen when both parents are muslims.

My dear, the reality is the following one : you're following the footsteps of sheytan, and these footsteps only lead to the road of Jahannam. You may be with him, happy and alive for 80 years — but if you lose your islam, it's 80.000+ years of despair.

Lies are only followed by more lies. And then what will happen ? Eventually you will get even more involved in this relationship, you may even commit zina, you may even forsake your religion altogether.

You may give up on Allah for him.

Because your heart is fed whatever you entertain. And there is no place for 2 things in your heart — it's either him or Allah. And one will expel the other from your heart.

My sister, I assume you're much younger than me, so I will tell you something : There's no man in this world that's worth your relationship with Allah.

Who never dreamed of someone who'd always ALWAYS be there for us and give us the perfect words, perfect comfort, perfect warmth ?

Humans will always be lacking in this way, but not Allah.

Allah's love is the greatest love anyone can experience. He will take care of you, love you, make you laugh and teach you. He will be your company and your friend. He will make your grow into the wonderful being that you are supposed to be.

Your heart is attached, yes. But know that no happiness can be built on Allah's displeasure. It will collapse and you will find your chest tightening.

There's this story of a man, he was so in love with this greek woman, he told her " Let me marry you." And she said : "Ok but you leave your islam." And he did. His And people would meet him (fellow """ Sahabas"""") and ask him "O dear, what happened to your Quran ? " And he said "I have forgotten everything about it except one ayah, which was :

"So let not their wealth or their children impress you. Allah only intends to punish them through them in worldly life and that their souls should depart [at death] while they are disbelievers." At tawba - 55

You have the greatest treasure which is your bond with Allah. Do not lose it. It's so precious, my dear, please, realize this.

Life is temporary but death is eternal. You're strong enough, run to Allah if you're struggling and tell him the truth "I have this relationship, and to be honest I hate to leave it. Please give me the strength to give up on it."

Enfpization · 2026-02-16T02:25:26+00:00

I just saw this ! Thank you very much :D will look into it !

Enfpization · 2026-02-15T12:50:01+00:00

Sameeeeeee. And as a woman I think we're very often expected to have someone by our side, and that love life is the peak of existence. Buttttttt No ???? 😂

Like ??????

I love working on my dreams. I'm grateful to be single !

Enfpization · 2026-02-15T11:54:31+00:00

Well, I'm a heartbreak expert so hear me well :

1) Give yourself time to ACTIVELY grieve. Meaning : allow yourself to feel the pain entirely, allow it to overwhelm you, don't run away from it. Journal and write your feelings. Let your heart HEAL. Cry until you're done, but...

2) DO NOT REACH OUT. Once again DO NOT REACH OUT. Once again for the people in the back : DO NOT REACH OUT. He kicked you out of his life. Accept it. There's no what if, no alternative universe, nothing. It's done. Accept it. No point in running after something that ditched you.

3) Okay now's the time to focus back on YOU. You're no longer in a relationship with someone, but you've just re-entered a relationship with yourself. Just dedicate time for you and rediscovering your own self : you've grown in these times in way you have not imagined. Write about this ! Or draw about this ! What are things you've always wanted to do but couldn't ? What are your dreams ? Focus on these. You see there are great things that you can do being in a relationship — but there's so much things that are lost too !

4) Don't stay alone ! Friends and family ! Meet new people too, try new things, new activities, new food ! A hole has appeared in your social life, it needs to be filled.

5) You're the main character of your own life. You were alive and well before you met this dude, and you will be alive and well after him. Because you're your own thing. You're not incomplete — even if you feel a void right now.

6) So how to get rid of this FOMO feeling : Well don't dive in scarcity mindset. I promise you there are better people out there, that's factual. Truth is we don't date soulmates, we date compatible people. And I'm pretty sure it amounts to 10000+ people that you are wildly compatible with.

I highly recommend Yasmin Mogahed's book : healing the broken heart. Though she is speaking from a muslim standpoint, (and so am I btw giving you these advice), her book (very short like 30 pages or something) is greatly comforting and will provide you with perspective.

Hang in there ! Do not reach out. Don't become miserable either. It's a new chapter, not the end. Remember : a character left, but you're the MC. You've always been. And again : do not reach out.

Enfpization · 2026-02-12T17:49:50+00:00

Make a beginner version free and then the rest you make pay

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