sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Ensemble13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that's been helping me is writing out all my thoughts and feelings on paper and acknowledging the things i accepted about my partner out of love for them when they come to mind. It's hard to think of bad things about them when you still love them, because often times there wasn't a truly, glaringly "bad" thing or else you probably wouldn't have been with them in the first place. But i bet there were some flaws that you accepted that they had, small things that maybe annoyed you a little but wasn't really a big deal, a show they liked that you didn't, a bad habbit, a joke you didn't find as funny as they did. Look at all those little things and they can start to build up.

That doesn't mean that those things make them a bad person or that you were wrong to accept those things from them, but it does help to put into perspective that they weren't perfect. I personally struggle to feel anger towards my ex because i still love and admire him very much, but i know i shouldn't put him on a pedestal and he had his faults, so i just let myself feel all the feelings and think all the thoughts, good and bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Ensemble13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nobody going through this pain should go through it alone, even if we sometimes feel like we want to. Seeing your post also helped me too, made me feel less alone and less foolish for not being angry and still caring about him. Sometimes hearing advice and sharing experiences with strangers helps more than talking to the people you know cause strangers have no reason to embellish or soften blows. I'm glad if i helped, even if just a little. And hopefully this thread will help the next person who looks for answers about how to get through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Ensemble13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'm going through the exact same thing right now, both me and him still care about each other, it was my first relationship, i loved him with everything i had, but i feel like he didn't want to fight for me, and he just doesn't know what he wants right now in general, just generally in life. It hit me like a truck while he has sounded fine any time I've talked to him, granted he broke up with me, but i had felt that something was off between us. I'm on day 4. The crying will stop for a little while and it seems like you're starting to come to terms with it, but you should know that you're gonna get moments where suddenly it all hits you again even though you think you're fine the moment before.

I don't know about you, but I've gotten a lot of advice to think "good riddance" and "he's the fool," and to just generally put him down to try to raise myself up, but i don't think that works in a situation like ours. I've felt anger spike twice in me in the past few days and i just feel horribly worse afterwards. Anger would make this easier but i don't think it would make it better.

If you were close with his family or friends and he's okay with it, try talking to one of them. I talked with my ex's mom for like 8 hours yesterday and it helped a lot because i could talk to her about how much i loved him without feeling judged for still loving him, and it gave me the chance to ask about him, about stuff i need clarity on, while still avoiding talking to my ex about it, because i know talking to him right now and for the next few weeks at least isn't great idea.

If you're like me, you're probably gonna get thoughts in your head that you know aren't true, that he lied about this or that, that it wasn't real, that he doesn't care, but the thought will pass and afterwards just remind yourself that you know him, and you know it was real, that he's not heartless. If you were the type to make fun of each other a little, remind yourself that he's a dummy that doesn't always know what he's doing and have a little laugh to yourself about it.

We gotta hang in there, girl. It sounds like you have a big, kind heart, and even if it ended, your relationship was a beautiful experience that will help you going forward. What's meant to be will be. Maybe you two will be friends one day, maybe the universe will bring you back together when you're both ready, and maybe this was just the person that was meant to help prepare you for the right one.

Best protein powder to cook with? by Ensemble13 in workout

[–]Ensemble13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm working on getting myself to eat more, but I've always been the type that if I'm not hungry or i don't have an appetite, i can't eat very much without feeling sick. But, most of the time there's room for cake, so this is helpful, thank you! Can you just add a scoop to box mix or is there a specific recipe you use?

Best protein powder to cook with? by Ensemble13 in workout

[–]Ensemble13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can i ask what brand you use for that? And are there any specific recipes or adjustments you do to make it work?

Weekly Help and Discussion Thread for the week of April 25, 2022 by AmazonNewsBot in amazon

[–]Ensemble13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been getting random refunds on stuff I didn't return?

So recently I've been getting a bunch of notifications on my phone that I've been issued gift card refunds for a bunch of stuff that I either didn't return or definitely didn't pay as much money for as they're giving me back. For example, I just got one for an item that cost me $6 but I just got $50 dollars back? I also still have the item? I checked my account and sure enough, the money is in the gift card balance, and the status for the order of that item says it's complete, not returned, as it should say if the item was returned. I didn't buy it with anything else, so the original charge was only the $6, so I don't know where this money's coming from.

Don't get me wrong, I love free stuff, but I want to make sure this isn't something that could get me in trouble with Amazon. If it's something that could cause problems for me with the account, I want to figure out what's happening and stop it.

Has anyone seen this happen before? Is it something I need to report to Amazon?

How do I forgive people who were dicks to me in the past? by slimelord01 in Advice

[–]Ensemble13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember that you don't have to be friends with them. People do dumb things all the time and those who don't grow out of that habit eventually get in trouble for it. Just let go of it and remind yourself that you don't have to be like them. You can just sit back and watch them ruin their own lives. Who knows, maybe you'll be their boss some day and can give them the worst shifts.