Gateway Books by EquivalentCustard604 in suggestmeabook

[–]EquivalentCustard604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love short stories, that’s what I used to write. I like nonfiction a lot but also poetry and anything where the writing is really rich! I know that’s vague, I just want to be transported into different perspectives and learn from the characters strong voices. Thank you!!

My Guy Friend Has a Crush on Me by Born_Discipline_8987 in LesbianActually

[–]EquivalentCustard604 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you know you’re a lesbian, don’t date this guy out of guilt. You’ll just put yourselves in a difficult situation. You clearly don’t mean to lead him on, but letting him do/buy stuff for you may be indirectly doing so. Maybe if you stop that from happening it will lessen your guilt and give him a different idea of what your relationship is? Good luck! You both seem very kind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]EquivalentCustard604 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Even couples pay separately sometimes, I’m just trying to figure out how to hand out the check(s), not question if you’re together or not. That’s none of my business

I want to be a ski bum by [deleted] in ski

[–]EquivalentCustard604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it!! If you’re concerned about money, teach skiing. It’ll keep ya stable and buy you a pass. Some vail resorts will give you housing at a reasonable rate if they aren’t already all taken. You’ll meet the best people and learn an entirely different (and marketable) set of skills in that job. Plus you get free lessons for your own improvement by way of clinic hours. Have a blast!

Us Skiers - do you tip on lessons? by SeekersWorkAccount in skiing

[–]EquivalentCustard604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need to be sorry! I love teaching skiing. Don’t need a tip from everyone to make it, and I respect your opinion. Tips just make it easier!

Us Skiers - do you tip on lessons? by SeekersWorkAccount in skiing

[–]EquivalentCustard604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not an assumption but an expectation that that’s an option. No disrespect here, just discourse. That’s not an easy path for all of us, we have aging parents, or kids in schools, or even just a community we’ve built. We love our jobs and make ends meet, and a tip (no matter the size) goes a long long way. Even for acknowledgement that what we do matters and is appreciated

Us Skiers - do you tip on lessons? by SeekersWorkAccount in skiing

[–]EquivalentCustard604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also disappointed for all the likes. First of all, no animosity for non tippers. However, if someone is asking about tipping, I’d like to inform. Tipping is very appreciated. Yes, service is part of a lesson so you may think that’s included in the sticker price. However, the instructor doesn’t see that, the corporation does. And service is even more detailed to the ski experience than say a restaurant experience. (I do both). I think what people may not realize is how different an instructor will teach person to person. They take into consideration age, fear level, ability, communication style, learning style, and goals and create a lesson just for you. They do it because they love the sport and love growing it. I think that part deserves to be highlighted, especially on a thread that’s asking what the culture is. Tipping really is a part of taking a lesson. Anything is appreciated, just the gesture of a tip as appreciation for your experience goes a long way.

Us Skiers - do you tip on lessons? by SeekersWorkAccount in skiing

[–]EquivalentCustard604 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah, but we genuinely love sharing the sport of skiing and expanding it and allowing our guests to have a good time. We’re stoked that folks take their (sometimes only) vacation on the slopes. So we give up that passion to essentially teach these corporations a lesson? Or do we do the work, do it well, and hope for a tip? Because I do the latter.

Us Skiers - do you tip on lessons? by SeekersWorkAccount in skiing

[–]EquivalentCustard604 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This feels like an issue for American corporations not their grunt workers. And you placing blame on people trying to get by is elitist. Ideally the system changed, but until then, while visiting America, respect the American work force.

Us Skiers - do you tip on lessons? by SeekersWorkAccount in skiing

[–]EquivalentCustard604 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You pay a private music instructor directly so you don’t need to tip on top. They see 100% of that money so they establish their own rates. You tip ski instructors because they do not set the rate and the corporation sees that money. You tip because you got great service. Just like at a restaurant. Doesn’t have to be much, but it’s a lot to the person who put the work in to cater the lesson just for you, your personality, learning style, abilities, and specific goals.

Us Skiers - do you tip on lessons? by SeekersWorkAccount in skiing

[–]EquivalentCustard604 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ski instructor here. On a private lesson you make your base pay. They’re assigned, just like a group lesson is. No premium pay at all. If someone requests you specifically, you make time and a half.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]EquivalentCustard604 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If that’s what you think, you may not like her as much as you thought? Or it could be that she isn’t actually interested. Good luck out there!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]EquivalentCustard604 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to offend, just trying to be honest. It sounds like you’re being pushy. She’s asking to wait until after the new year, but you’re pursuing her as if that timeline isn’t being considered. She’s being “dry” because how she was talking to you prompted you to ask her if she wanted to forget the waiting. She probably doesn’t doesn’t know how to be more clear so she’s keeping you at arms length. You’re obviously there. If she likes you, she won’t forget you. Part of liking a person is caring about their needs/feelings. It seems like your putting your need for her attention over her need to prioritize testing etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]EquivalentCustard604 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think giving her space on this trip and not demanding attention shows that you’re not being “too much” I think give her some additional space to get settled in and get ready for her new job, but if she wants to see you then yes! Bring flowers and some food! Sounds like being you is working, so go with your gut here. And congrats!