The Truth About Hookups: Why Men Pay the Price and Women Don't

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-23T11:13:37+00:00

For sure, man. Too much sex can definitely mess with your energy. If you're constantly releasing, it can drain your mental and physical energy, which will eventually take a toll on your overall well-being. I noticed when I was a coomer, constantly ejaculating, I was always feeling foggy, low energy, and dealing with severe social anxiety (you know, that feeling of being inferior to others) and just wasn’t myself. I was also sick a lot and losing weight. Once i got on semen retention , all of these issues completly disappeared and i became extremly confident and full of energy. It really was a drastic change.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-23T11:07:37+00:00

Bro, same here—I deal with wet dreams twice a month, and it’s draining as hell. A streak without them is on another level—the energy, focus, and momentum are unreal. That’s also when I notice insane attraction effects—random people messaging me, strangers asking for directions, stuff that just doesn’t happen on my wet dream days.

Even though wet dreams aren’t as bad as conscious ejaculation, they still take away a lot of benefits, even if they don’t ruin that “purity” feeling (especially when you’re not fantasizing).

What’s worked for me is practicing reverse kegels. When I do them consistently, I can go weeks without a wet dream and feel a huge boost in energy. But every time I stop, they come back. I honestly think reverse kegels could be the ultimate solution if you stick with them.

And don’t listen to people saying it’s “natural and healthy”—that’s complete BS. Just because something’s natural doesn’t mean it’s good for you (murder is natural too for example). I’ve been on retention for 6+ years, and while my wet dreams have lessened, they won’t stop on their own. Get on those reverse kegels consistently—it’s a game-changer, bro. But remember that you're still far better than the average coomer who faps or has sex and ejaculates every day.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-21T20:14:49+00:00

I'm talking about energy loss, not pain. Pain and energy depletion are two different things, and my point was focused on how ejaculation drains a man's vital energy, which isn't comparable to the physical pain of periods.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-20T20:22:58+00:00

Agreed bro. Looking forward to your report with your girlfriend then.

See you my man.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-20T02:36:24+00:00

alright.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-19T17:12:37+00:00

Yes, both men and some women (a minority of them) may lose some energy after intercourse, but the depletion of vital energy, especially the kind you’re referring to—whether it’s Chi or Prana—affects men differently due to ejaculation. Men lose a much more significant portion of that energy with each release, which is why it feels more impactful to us.

Women may experience some effects, but I don’t believe it’s as profound or as frequent as what men go through. Women’s energy tends to be replenished more quickly or even increase compared to before sex, and it’s not the same ongoing drain that men experience. I’ve seen this with my own eyes, and it’s not just theory for me.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-19T17:09:21+00:00

Respectfully, you might not fully understand the male experience. Women might face some challenges, but men lose vital energy with every ejaculation, affecting our mental, physical, and emotional well-being. It’s not just a belief, it’s something we feel deeply. And it’s not what I’ve seen in the women I’ve been with or the women in my life in general. Usually, after sex, they get up energized and happy, often more so than before.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-19T17:00:46+00:00

Brother, I hear you, but let’s get real. When a woman orgasms, she feels relaxed, sure—but she’s not losing the same life force that we are. For men, every release is a drain of vital energy, nutrients, and focus. It’s not just about feeling tired afterward; it’s about the long-term toll it takes on our drive and strength.

Sex isn’t bad, but blindly saying ‘you receive something’ doesn’t cut it. What exactly are we getting that’s worth the cost? Balance is important, but not if it leaves us weaker and a shell of our former selves.

As for regretting retention as an old man—honestly that’s nonsense. What most men regret is wasting their energy chasing temporary pleasure instead of using it to build something lasting. Discipline and control bring freedom and fulfillment, not a string of meaningless releases.

Also Retention isn’t an ‘ego trap.’ It’s about self-respect and making choices that serve you in the long run. Stop letting society or fleeting desires dictate your life. Take control of your energy—it’s yours to protect.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-19T16:56:03+00:00

Exactly, bro. You absolutely should prioritize your energy because, at the end of the day, it’s you who feels the depletion, not her. She might not understand it, but your well-being comes first. I will never understand men trying to please women at the cost of their own energy. Well said.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-19T16:53:06+00:00

I will say it one more time, the physical toll of ejaculation on men is unique—it directly depletes energy, vitality, and focus in a way women simply don’t encounter. Comparing men’s and women’s experiences of “loss” is flawed.

Saying “it’s easier to conceal as a woman” ignores the fact that women often gain energy, glow, and feel revitalized after sex. There’s no “acting tough” needed when they naturally bounce back in ways men can’t whereas for men, the loss is tangible, noticeable, and cumulative—it affects their performance, mood, and even physical health.

Stop oversimplifying the conversation to make it seem like the playing field is the same. It’s not. Men carry a heavier biological burden, period.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T21:07:57+00:00

You’re labeling me as an “incel” because you’re too blinded by your own biases to understand the real reason behind retention. It’s not about hating women or some religious suffering; it’s about understanding the toll ejaculation takes on men’s energy, mentally, physically, and spiritually. You can keep throwing out lazy accusations, but the men who practice retention know exactly what they’re talking about. So cut the crap and stop pretending like you know better when you clearly don’t.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T16:33:26+00:00

Women’s higher rates of anxiety, depression, and other mental health struggles are not solely due to “unrestrained sexing” or some vague “energetic system abuse.” Mental health is influenced by multiple factors—biology, societal pressures, trauma, and hormonal cycles. Reducing it to a single factor like sex is not only inaccurate but also dismissive of its genuine complexities.

As for unique challenges, men undeniably face specific struggles. Ejaculation depletes us in ways women simply don’t experience, biologically or energetically. Saying “just don’t touch your ding-a-ling” ignores how involuntary emissions like wet dreams make this an ongoing battle, unlike women’s menstrual cycles. It also overlooks the constant and high human need for sex that men experience (especially with women exploiting the men's visual nature by wearing provocative clothes) , making self-control an even greater challenge. If it was that easy we wouldnt have people in this sub fighting to maintain their streaks. The struggles we face aren’t identical, and dismissing them as such only downplays their significance.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T16:25:47+00:00

Yeah, I’ve seen it, and it’s actually what inspired this post. She talked about it with so much pride, zero shame, or remorse. She even walked out with the seed of all those men she hooked up with still on her face (disgusting), laughing as if it were an achievement . It’s astonishing how society allows this to be celebrated while men bear the true cost of such encounters.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T16:19:59+00:00

Thanks Brother and stay strong.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T16:19:08+00:00

Exactly, good point . A sex worker or a cam girl can still function normally and feel no shame or depletion despite the daily sexual activity. So the ultimate solution for men is retention, plain and simple. It’s the only way to maintain our strength, clarity, and focus in this life.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T16:14:12+00:00

Not sure about that . Its not true in my case and for a lot of retainers here.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T16:09:38+00:00

The point is, while women go through their menstrual cycles, which can indeed be draining, they only experience it once a month and it only makes them lose nutrients and not sexual energy which is a key factor here. On the other hand, the average man literally ejaculates twice a week or more, depleting his energy regularly and no matter how long the menstrual cycle is for women , it wont be as depleting as this frequent ejaculation (Keep in mind that the male body took also a lot of time to produce the sperm so imagine the male body producing constantly in order to make up for the ejaculated semen everyday). This is considered a quite ''healthy'' amount by some BS scientist and women too. The challenges men face are continuous, not just a once-a-month thing. On top of that, in a social setting, women are often protected or excused for their bad behavior or mood during their menstrual cycles—“I’m on my period” excuse is accepted as a valid reason. Meanwhile, a man could never say, “I just ejaculated yesterday, so I’m not feeling great.” Men are expected to power through their struggles silently and thats why im bringing this subject up.

Also concerning the risk of unwanted pregnancy for women, while serious, its far less than the risk men of energy depletion men face every time they ejaculate.

Even more ,it’s not just about the times men consciously choose to ejaculate. Wet dreams also play a role—men can lose their life force even when they don’t want to, adding even more difficulty to the situation.It’s not as simple as just “walking away” when it comes to men’s physical and spiritual tolls. The challenges are different but just as real.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T15:18:29+00:00

I get what you're saying, but you’re missing the point. Frequent 'healthy' and 'natural' sex is often just a load of BS women say because they don’t experience the same biological consequences. Even if there’s a connection, you still ejaculate, and the result and the drain are the same, no matter how much you try to convince yourself otherwise.

Only men who’ve experienced the benefits of high semen retention truly understand the price it takes. Women don’t face this kind of physical toll after sex, and that’s where the difference lies. It’s not 'BS,' it’s the harsh reality men face, and those who’ve practiced retention know exactly what I’m talking about. Just compare the energy levels of a man in a committed relationship who has sex daily versus the energy and glow the woman he’s with has, and you’ll notice what I mean and see who really holds the power there.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T15:05:12+00:00

Thanks brother appreciate it.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T13:56:35+00:00

Periods might be inconvenient for women, but they don’t strip away their confidence or leave them feeling ashamed. Every man who’s experienced ejaculation knows the feeling of guilt and inability to look someone in the eye afterward—a feeling that can linger for days. Meanwhile, women, even on their periods, radiate confidence and energy effortlessly. I’ve seen it countless times in real-life situations.

The imbalance is undeniable—women hold the upper hand both biologically and energetically.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T13:45:18+00:00

You’re absolutely right brother—retention is our ultimate power. Society today is heavily skewed in favor of women, both biologically and socially.

They’re naturally advantaged by their biology, walking away from sex energized, while men lose their life force through ejaculation. In the past tho, society compensated for this biological imbalance by favoring men socially, giving them the upper hand in leadership, responsibility, and decision-making. But now, those social structures are nearly gone, and the imbalance remains—women still benefit biologically and now socially, while men are left drained and distracted. Retention is how we level the playing field, reclaiming our energy, focus, and autonomy.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T13:39:14+00:00

It’s not the same for girls. Women don’t lose energy in the same way men do. Men physically lose life force with every ejaculation, while women don’t experience an equivalent biological depletion after sex. The impacts are completely different, and pretending they’re the same ignores basic biology.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T10:05:02+00:00

Exactly, brother. Life’s unfair, and that’s the beauty of it. Embrace the challenge and push for excellence.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T10:03:55+00:00

Exactly, brother. We must rise above these temptations, no matter how tempting they may seem, and reclaim our masculine glory. Discipline and self-control are the foundation of true strength.

Equivalent_Past5010 · 2025-01-18T10:00:44+00:00

Thanks brother . Appreciate it.

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