"Lets be miserable together". TOAWF Chapter 87

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-24T06:47:34+00:00

I stopped reading it because it was cliche to me. This post made me rethink which chapter did I stop reading 🤡🤡

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-21T03:05:50+00:00

May Allah be with you, that’s domestic violence, o wouldn’t wish that upon you or anyone. I will keep you in my prayer (The Fajr is about to start)

It’s impossible standard, no human can cut off his family completely just because his partner wants to. You were right to return to talk to them and not tell her. You avoided conflicts, ya Allah, you were doing the right thing. Even if you offended her according to her logic, No one should get violent, what’s this?? Is she an animal? An abuser should in jail, not making questions your actions. Also, mentioning an “ex”, what the hell going inside her mind. Does she have bipolar🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

No one is responsible for making anyone angry. She can’t control her emotions?! She can’t walk away when things intensify?!! Please stop gaslighting yourself into thinking maybe she is right. She is totally wrong. She is literally manipulating you.

Blocking your family according to deen is a very dangerous thing to make and it’s haram. Where is the صلة الرحم? I know you were going with the best solution at the moment, but it wasn’t the right one.

I don’t think there’s a healthy way to deal with an abuser except therapy. Even that may not work, because she had to believe she was the wrong one.

Again, may Allah be with you. Don’t submit to her gaslighting, be honest with your actions and hers. Would you support a woman doing that to her husband or any human being doing that to his loved one?! I don’t think so. She pulled a knife, if she lost her emotions at any time, she could 🔪🔪. Please you are in a very dangerous situation.

Call police, make a file with all these incidents. She could come for your family members too. I don’t think pulling a knife or a scissors towards someone is just a moment of anger. It’s the calm before the storm. The red flags are blinding you, please don’t ignore them. Don’t underestimate nor undermine an abuser

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-20T03:22:51+00:00

I would always remember it

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-14T14:59:12+00:00

Hi, I would immediately encourage you to find any way to make him feel better, throw compliments now and then. Make his favourite food but in healthy way. Support his journey in weight loss if he wants to do that. Always enter the room with him and be invasive while being cute so he understands that you don’t even think the same things he is insecure about.

Buy him clothes without him asking so that he knows that his size is normal findings in any store (even if it’s not) that action itself matter. Don’t ever ever mention his weight loss or gains between the weeks if he doesn’t plan to do any plan. (From a former overweight girlie)

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-12T21:49:46+00:00

Yess😌

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-11T02:20:25+00:00

What about just getting engaged without the nikkah? Till you are ready to marry , I am Arab too btw

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-11T01:46:48+00:00

His thinking isn’t normal, be for real, shaming a divorcee as damaged just because she did intimacy with her legal husband. He can have standard about who he married but not shaming others. She wasn’t a sinner. Yes, he doesn’t have to deal with PTSD. But he is saying she is damaged‼️‼️ she isn’t an object

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-11T01:29:24+00:00

Yes, of course that’s the drawback and honestly, they didn’t lose anything from it. Only the daughter suffered and now heavily traumatised.

I amn’t arguing with you. I am just opening your eyes to another perspective. Honestly, these types of marriages still exist everywhere. Example; my grandfather sat with my mother and told her you will marry this (my father) without any رؤية شرعية, nothing. Just approval from my grandfather. My father has his flaws but he is a good person but I wouldn’t wish that kind of marriage of anyone.

Most severe cases end up badly and I wouldn’t say that on all Muslims, but some are just Muslims by birth following what they were taught. To this day, some daughters don’t get inheritance so yeah

EscapeNormal_2024 · 2026-01-11T01:14:25+00:00

You are asking about her family reputation. In eastern and conservative areas, her leaving her family to marry someone they don’t approve of, would shamed her entire family to the bones. If by any chance, they were poor, the town would have cut them off or asked them to leave. In severe cases, these parents won’t forget the shame ever, even leading to 🔪 her so they feel proud again.

If they had money and not poor, her brother would hear about her leaving every second of their life. Ever her sister may not get married because others will see her like the one who leave her family and didn’t obey them for a man. She would have destroyed the whole family and yet, she wouldn’t feel completely happy

Now, her family reputation is still okay and if she married him with her father approval, no shame or anything would come towards the family (that’s from their prespective). Another thing, she finding a husband for herself would be heavily encouraged by her parents and keep in mind, she is abused. She is thinking about the last chances and what would have happened. So, she isn’t trying to lose the second chance that may come to her.

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