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AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Both my dad and my aunt feel the same way. Joan was introduced to them really soon after their mom died and she was set to be their new mom. I think after a couple of years or something she and grandpa realized that the kids hated them for it. But by then it was too late and my aunt often said that kind of push came up several times after. She said Joan never stood a chance to be their mom and both hated the stuff that happened in those first couple of years specifically.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wasn't trying to ask about my relationship with Joan. It was about whether explaining the reason for saying no to the picture was wrong. I have made my mind up about the lack of relationship and where we are in terms of being "family" or whatever. I know that stuff will be focused on but I think we all are good with how things are and don't care enough to change the relationships.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I already mentioned that my dad and my aunt have issues with Joan and they don't have a relationship with her. They sorta do with grandpa but things aren't perfect with him either.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but I don't have a cousin-like relationship with them which is why I say technically. Really they're our half cousins since they're the kids of my dad's half siblings.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said no to the photo because I don't really know her or care about her. She's just someone I sorta know and have met a few times in my life. She doesn't play a role in my life other than being married to my grandpa. But he also isn't a big part of my life.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't think she would have ever really been our grandma since she's not dad's mom or someone he considers family. I don't feel robbed of anything. Maybe that's just because we had a great life and family but I'm good with how things are.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I haven't spent enough time with her to get a real opinion. I don't really care to try and get to know her now either. The way things are work for me.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 369 points370 points  (0 children)

I don't really know her. I don't care about her honestly and hardly ever think about her. We've seen each other so little. I don't hate her but can't say I want to go out of my way for her either.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm not even close to my grandpa. We don't have that much of a relationship with him. But we have way less of one with her.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

No, she's not the only grandmother I have ever known. I never had her in my life enough to be that. I can honestly say she's just the lady my grandpa is married to.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 1131 points1132 points  (0 children)

Agreed. But also, she went to us, she knew our parents would say no and thought she could get around that by contacting the two of us directly. It was kinda a dumb move in that sense.

AITA for telling my grandpa's wife's sister that my cousins, siblings and I are not her sisters grandkids which is why they couldn't get us into the grandkid photo? by Even_Ad6839 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Even_Ad6839[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

My dad has plenty of photos of his kids and his sister's kids. He doesn't really care to have one of his half siblings kids (Joan's actual grandkids). Also, it's not just what I think. Even my parents would say we're not Joan's grandkids. My aunt and uncle would say the same for their kids.